I am going to recieve my grandmother's diamond ring!!! I have known this for
By sjohnson628
@sjohnson628 (3197)
United States
May 5, 2007 1:18pm CST
about thirteen years now. She gave it to my mother before she passed away. Now since my mother no longer wears the diamond my father gave to her she says she will be giving hers to my sister. My sister and I would really love to have them now and we have been wanting to have them since finding out that we will one day be getting them. The problem is my mother won't let go of them while she is alive. I don't understand this at all and neither does my sister. She keeps them in her lock box and the last time I visited her she let us. Unfortunately it doesn't fit any finger but my pinkee. It is beautiful though and very sentimental to me.
I don't know even what I will do with it when I do get it. It's gold and I wear silver. I would probably hang it on a necklace and wear it daily.
We have tried to convince mom to let us have them while she is alive so that she can see us get enjoyment from them but she won't budge.
Does anyone understand her concept? Could it be she doesn't want or can't bear to part with them yet? How would you feel in this situation? would it bother you?
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@Misty44 (35)
• United States
6 May 07
I must admit that i know how your mother feels to a certain extent. My grandmother passed down her antique wedding set to me when my husband and i got married 2 years ago. This is the most beautiful wedding set i have ever seen, and she gave it to me because she has 2 sons, and i am the oldest grand daughter. I intend to pass it down to my daughter someday, but it will probably not be until a few certain things happen, being: I have to know she is responsible and will not sell them, i have to know that she will not alter them in any way, i would like to wear them until our golden anniversary if possible, and if i ever get a new wedding set and decide to pass them down to her, i have to know that the chain will not break. This type of heirloom is very important to our family, and i have to be 100% sure that it will be carried on.
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
6 May 07
Ah this is very true about wanting to make sure the person receiving is not going to alter them in anyway and also to make sure they are responsible enough to not sell them. Thanks for responding!
@Misty44 (35)
• United States
7 May 07
No problem at all, i hope i helped a little bit. I am sure that your mom will give you the ring eventually. She probably just wants to make sure that it will be carried on. If i were you, i would just do everything to assure her that you have the ring in your best interest, and you will not do anything to violate her wishes for it. Good luck, and i hope you get as much happiness out of it as i have mine!
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
8 May 07
Your mother has an attachment to them. So, for her, she is enjoying them in her way. I understand how she feels. I would rather have my mother, than the diamonds. As I would also want her happy.
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
9 May 07
Oh I would rather have my mother over diamonds any day. It's just I don't understand why she keeps them in a lock box instead of giving them to us girls. This discussion has helped me to understand her reasons a little better though. I agree they are sentimental to her also. Thanks for responding!
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
7 May 07
Yes I will protect it and cherish it . Thanks for responding!
@fpd1955 (2074)
• United States
6 May 07
It's probably very sentimental to your mom, also. Her mom gave it to her before she passed away. Perhaps your mom wants to wait until it is closer to her time to pass.
It's really hard to figure out the reason why she holds on to it. Has she told you why you can't have it yet?
Just remember, good things come to those who wait. Eeks, I must be feeling philosophical this morning! LOL
PEACE
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
6 May 07
No she won't give us a reason she just says because I said so. LOL. Go figure? Yes it could be that it is also very sentimental to her. Thanks fpd1955.
