If you love someone, but do not have the same goals, do you let them go?

I think he has told you pretty clearly that he doesn't see you as more than a casual lover. its time to let this one go and look elsewhere.

I will try to find COMMON GOALS instead of differentiate his and mine. What are our common goals? And how important they are for both of us? What are the compromises we both can make for common future? Theese are the questions i usually give to myself. In your situation if you are too insistent to bound this boy in common life, his reaction may be is natural.The men dislike to be forced. Then more-to marry.

I don't think something as little as that is worth letting him go over. Maybe he's not ready for marriage, maybe he would like to be together longer before he can make that decision. As for living together, i wouldn't want to move in with my partner if he lived in a little apartment either - you do still need a little space for yourself! Perhaps you could consider getting a place together, you moving out of your current place & him leaving his - then you can be happier in a bigger place, starting over together! You never know, if things are good when you live together, then he might change his stance on getting married. Keep hold of him - you just cant expect things to change in to your favour - 2 people in a small apartment isn't everyones idea of a good thing!

I would let him go because if what you want isn't what he wants there may be so much more that you want that he don't. I have had to let a bf go before because we were at different points in our lives to where he wanted to get married and I didn't. This was also my oldest daughter's biological dad so since I said no he married the next girl that he asked and she said yes but she don't know that he had kept asking me even after they were already together.

no i will not let them go ,as i think that goals are not important and neither the method of achieving the goal matters that much.what is more important is the way of your thinking it should be common and pure .for me feelings matters more and what i cares is that what the person is thinking about me and how she is emotionally attached with me . and if there are little differences then they can short out or adjusted.

IF i am very much in love with a lady/ and we have different goals/ that is quite alright/ because then that means you just have much to learn about each other/ and if you are bored in your relationship try learn some new tings about each other/ but in your case i think you are moving quite fast / 1 year is not that long of time