What is it about me?

Welcome to mylot :))) You know I had those same thoughts exactly :)) Although I have very good friends who stand behind me and support my conversations. What I have found is that if you have a voice and it is not the popular one you will get knocked around a bit. I have had this experience myself, not long ago I was a blue star, it bothered me at first, but you know something, I am not the one who is wavering on my principles, I voice them, I stand behind my words. Don't ask me a question unless you really want to hear what I have to say. Don't worry about it, just be yourself. That star is not indicative of who you are. Those that enjoy your conversations will come and talk with you, the rest just let it roll of your back, don't give it a second thought :)))

I haven't read your posts, well I tried to, I got into the discussions that you replied to but only read the first two, it takes too long to go through them all when there are a lot of repsonses. Anyways, the tiny bit that I saw didn't seem bad. You posted one discussion that could have been taken as catholic bashing I presume? Could that have been wher eyou lose some ratings? Issues like religion, abortion, and politics are usually pretty heavy and heated and people will rate people negatively if they don't like wha tyou say. I think the secret to enjoying mylot is to not care what other people think of you, or what is your rating. I mean youre a 9 so who cares right? Iv seen people with ratings of 2 or 3 with over a thousand posts. You know THEY have problems! Try to just have fun here, and be yourself.

Things have certainly changed. I don't spend as much time here as I used to and people are so touchy when you give your opinion and it is not the same as theirs. So I'm going to cool it for a bit as I will not become a wimp who is reluctant to speak my mind. Anyway I will still try and give a respond to my friends posts I don't bother checking other posts out anymore.

I feel this last month has been hard and am so reliant on existing friends to pull me through a slump that I think allot of people are in. I saw your last posting and I had no problem with it, I'm an ex RC myself. But I no longer post on that subject because it is such a hot potato. You can't discuss on it without heat and emotions run too high. I think it was tracked that there were allot of negative buttons pushed in those posts. I'm a bit perplexed about the star ratings, basically I give up on it. You used to be 95/100 to get a 10 - I am on that now but still on red, so who knows! Hang in there you do have quality posts, which many people are not interested in.

i still love you... i would write more but i'm down to one hand asw the other is holding my new baby! i wouldn't sweat it too much... i've found the more controversial the post the morre likely people are to negatively rate you... i wouldn't let a few 'minuses' keep you from speaking your mind. that's what mylot is supposed to be about.

Hehe, have an opinion and many people can judge you on that alone ;). If you want to be popular, you'll have to be mindless :). Just look at high school, the dumber they get the more popular they are :P. I wouldn't really be too worried about it though, it might also just be other people these days which are more active and don't share your views. How one reacts then of course again differs per person as well. More people is also reason for less replies in its turn, in every bigger community this is something you can see quite easily. Many topics just tend to drop to the bottom of the ocean rather fast, ending up hopelessly in the eternal fields of forgotten entries. Can't see what's wrong with the rating though, it's a 9 after all. If it'd be the grade you'd finish your master degree with it would be seen as super, so how can it be not all that well here? Just 1 away from a 10 ;).

It's not you at all, Mail... we all go through it at some point or another. Some people take time out, and some move on. That cuts down friends and responses for a while, plus you have to take into account the rate at which Mylot is growing in member numbers, and the rate at which new discussions disappear from the front page. You just have to go with the flow and try to find something different to start a discussion with; something that nobody else appears to have done, and something which appeals to all the various cultures on here. It will get better. In the meantime, respond, respond, respond, and get the fun element back. Make more friends. Take a break, whatever you feel the need to do. The better times will come back, as they did to me. Brightest Blessings and chin up.

It's easy to say not to pay attention to the star. I have heard a lot of people say they don't pay attention to it but I'm sure they do. I have started some discussions that I thought would make for good conversation and got few responses. Then I start a discussion asking a technical question. I really only needed one response to help me but I got a whole slew of responses. You never know what is going to happen when you post on here. I don't know what, if any, pots you have stirred up. I try and stay away from any discussions that get people worked up. And I don't respond to discussions that are of no interest to me whatsoever. I like to respond with quality posts so I am not going to respond to "just anything". I usually stick to those within my interests. Just keep on responding and enjoying yourself. Don't let the hard stuff get you down. Stay away from it if you can. Have fun!

no dude.... there is nothingwrong with you... people might just not be any interesting anymore.... it is just about luck sometimes too..... i used to get a lot of replies earlier too... but now i dont..... or sometimes... with the same topics.... i get lesser replies than i did when i used the same topics earlier

The samr type of thing has happened to me recently. Little or no response to any of my discussions and my star rating dropped off quite a bit. I can't recall ever saying or doing anything to tee someone off so I don't know why it was happening. I agree that people are too easily annoyed here and will rate you based on your answer rather than the quality of your post.

You probably shouldn't have an opinion if you want anyone to like you anywhere! lol. Seriously, I don't know why your rating has gone down. I always like your discussions and posts and rate them positive. I'm sure that isn't much help! Don't worry too much. Just be yourself. If people want to put you down, they will do it no matter what.

You seem to be a great poster, from your rating alone. You're a 9 and that's a pretty good rating.

You dont hav to have everyone like you.dont take a site too seriously.jus chill n hav fun.

i don't know much about you.. and i haven't read any of your post.. but i think giving out your opinion here is not a wrong thing to do... i know many members complained that they actually lose their rating when they're trying to be honest to others.. i agree with you.. well.. as you can see my rating is not that high either.. it's okay for me.. i think what most important is that you actually enjoy the discussion.. and you have to make sure you don't end up in argument.. i seldom end up in heat discussion as i don't have much temper.. i think i'll prefer to tolerate more =)

i know what you mean, because the posts i start now seem to not get really any replies, sometimes a few but thats it. not to worry keep up good discussions

I've only been here I think 2 months and I don't get the same amount of replies. I think maybe it's the time of year, a lot of people are outside because it's spring. I know I was away for awhile to welcome a new grandbaby. But I don't think you're posts are boring and you certainly have not offended me. I just posted a discussion about my grand dog and her accepting the new baby, and some jerk has attacked me and my discussion, family, the dog, you name it. Clearly blew me away, no one has ever done that before. Ever happened to you?

There are some people here who if they decide they don't like a poster will follow them around giving negative ratings to everything that post writes.

I understand your concerns and sorry that you feel the way the do. I've noticed on here that people are very quick to give negative rateings to people who have taken positions that they don't agree with. I think that is wrong, and not the purprose of the rateing system that is in place, but if people want to turn this into a popularity contest... there is not too much you can do about it. It does help to have good friends here on mylot. I have a few who will reply to nearly every discussion that I post, and for that I am thankful, and you guys know who you are. I try to return the favor and add to their discussions if I have anything to say. After I look at discussions that I have started, and then the ones I have replied too, the next thing I do is start looking at my friends discussions to help them out as well. I'm getting off topic so.. Don't let it bother you. Hold fast to your opinions and beliefs and don't worry about your reputation or star rateing. There are people here who want to have intelligent discussions and won't mark you down no matter what you think, or what position you take. Personally, I'm thankful that you responded to one of my discussions because you helped to clear up some questions that no one else had addressed. If it's any consolation, I like you and I'm sure there are others. :)

Don't be sad.. =) I think everything you discuss is all your opinion. So, why can you say that you shouldn't have an opinion? I think the opinion is important in the discussion, because we can see what many people think with different opinion. ^^ I think misunderstanding is common in here. Everybody talk in English. but not all of them are good in English (like me. hehe..). So, sometimes they didn't understand what you're talking about. even they are good in English too, they can misunderstand you too. because everyone have a different "catch" for the meaning.. I hope you don't give up.. everything will be fine. Someone always get a day will a happy day.. but another day will get a bad day.. so, don't give up. ^^

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I've never read any of your posts yet. Maybe you don't get too many replies because of the multitude of people joining mylot. But dont feel bad about it. It's better to be well opinionated. This mean that you are a smart person and you are very confident of what you think. I hope one day I'll come across one of your posts. I'll make sure to read them and reply to them honestly. For now, just focus on making more posts. Take care.