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How long before you get married
By Ms Michelle
@lenapoo (678)
United States
May 5, 2007 9:33pm CST
If you are dating someone for a while say three years or more would you end the relationship if it wasn't going in the marriage direction? I think that if you love someone you should be up front with them and let them know what is on your mind. I would tell them that I wanted to get married one day and that we have been together for a while and we should make it official. Even if I loved that person so deeply if I have been with them for say long enough for it to be a domestic partnership or common-law marriage there would have to be something going on besides the rent. Don't get me wrong it is okay if you have that understanding that you don't want to get married, but what if you do? Should you leave and start all over again in the dating game just because someone isn't ready to get married? What would u do? Would u leave if they didn't want to marry you after being together a long time?
2 responses
@Cathzsmile (171)
• Philippines
6 May 07
There asre some relationship that it takes not only 2 or more years before the couple made their decision to settle down and start a new life as husband and wife. But not all long engagement ended to up into a marriage agreement. I guess the couple should determine the strengh of their relationship before they start a new relationship like marriage...
@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
6 May 07
I really think it depends on the couple. Some people are content just being together without marriage, and others really want to be married. I do think you should be honest and up front about your feeling as soon as you realize the relationship is getting serious, especially if one of the two doesn't want to get married, that way in case the other is they can make the decision to stay or to go. Even if you love someone, if you want to be married and they don't, or vise versa, you don't want to be hurt down the road, usually people's feelings about marriage don't change easily. I don't know how easy it would be to leave if you have built a relationship, then they say they don't want marriage, if you do, and they won't change their minds, you may have to tell them you have to leave to get on with your life. Everyone needs to be fulfilled and if you're not happy or if you're feeling that you're being held back, you make have to make that choice, that is to leave.
