Dont work on computer. Says my wife.

I can relate to you Bro. It usually happens when your wife have no interest in Computers.... Specially when You always stay Online & always do something In your Computer. They think that You have less time with her & your children. Maybe You should talk with your wife when she is on her best mood.. Then talk to her.... & arrange something like schedule You can use a computer or You can teach her & encourage her to use the computer

A little tough though. maybe she gets insecure or just craving for your attention. Just don't spend too much time on your computer. Make sure that everything is balance and fair so that she won't gets upset. Or maybe one time why not, you two sit down together and teach her about what you are doing.

Maybe you are spending to much attention on the computer and to little on her. Just try to find a balance so that she feels as if she atleast is the most important thing in your life. You say that u are addicted, and addiction of any kind is NOT good.

Maybe it would help to find out what her reasons are for being upset about you using the computer. Is it because she wants to spend more time with you? Is it because she thinks that you are addicted to the internet? Either way, both of those are legitimate concerns. Spend some more time with your wife outside the house. If you feel you are addicted to the computer, restrict your use of it. Set a "computer hour" when you can do all your internet things without having it interfere with your life.

I think your wife is just jealous when you work on computer because as i observe here in our country many girls want to marry or have a relationship with men with other countries or wherever it is.And i think your wife is just afraid that you can find a girl that is younger from her and beautiful from her.But i think you cant do that,she is just jealous.

I think your wife is only saying this stuff to you because it seems you're spending too much time on there and not enough time with her. You say you're addicted to the computer, maybe your wife feels it has taken over your affections and replaced her. There are many people who chat online and have online relationships with other men and women and maybe your wife has heard about this from other people, you have to understand that she could be feeling insecure. I think you must limit how much time you spend on the computer and ensure you spend quality time with your wife so she doesn't feel neglected. Otherwise you might find your wife looking elsewhere for affection - as she might truly believe you're not interested in her anymore... Don't take offence at what I have said please - I'm just saying what I would think if my husband was glued to the computer all the time as you admit that you are... Good luck!

i think that she is just jealous from the computer and felt that another thing is share her n your heart , don't forget the PC make us some quite and less talking , i suggest that you try to make some balance between your wife and your computer ,but give her more time , try to call her and show her nice things in the PC and share her your opinion , until she feel secure and feel it like TV but the must important thing that you try to make her feel secure and that your not avoid her , your wife loves you so much .

my boyfriend does not have anything to say to me if i work too much on my pc. i very well let him understood that he cannpt dictate whatever it is that the wants me to do. i have my own decisions.

What do you mean she doesn't let you work on the computer? How do you define "work" and "working on the computer"? what else are you supposed to use the computer for? Maybe she should learn something about the computer. Maybe you're neglecting her and/or your other responsibilities too much? What is the full story here?

Why not explain to your wife what you are doing...maybe she feels this way because you have not been paying much attention to her..Give more time to your family tell your wife okay I will set a time for my being in front of the computer..Talk to her and ask her why she is angry...Spend more time with her and help her with the household chores from time to time..maybe that is what she needs..attention.

maybe you ask her if she wants to join you. you might show yaou some beautiful sites, like wonderful pictures, clothes, pets or something else. it depends on her interests. ask her if she joins you, so you have more time together. and then i would suppose to talk with her very honest and try to find out why she is that angry. maybe you have not enough time for her. i think a quiet and nice talk helps to resolve this problem.

haha.. i do get some nagging from the elders if i play my computer too long too.. i think it's quite normal for those computer illiterate to stop us from playing.. all they know is that playing computer is bad for our eyesight.. but do they know that there are many benefits from playing computer? especially if we surf the net.. we get many informations that we need.. and we get to expand our knowledge... i think you have to explain to your wife about technology.. how it is advancing.. and how you need to cope with it.. imagien a life without computer.. everyone is using it now.. and you're not.. don't you feel it's better to be back into the past? ..we need to look to the future .. right?

My boyfreind gets angry if I spend too much time on the computer. I think that maybe you could talk to her and maybe show her what you do on here and then teach her how to use it. Show her all the stuff that you can do on a computer and maybe she will get interested and realize that it's not a big deal.

i think she really think about u................

I think she has developed a very scary definitin of a computer. She must be viewing the computer as a bad element something which could harm your relationship. Yu need to make her computer literate and make her see the benefits of computers and change her thinking related to computer also her more time to her rather than computer. Make her sit beside you when operating on the computer and explain her how it benefits you.

That's sad. I think you should talk to your wife and tell her about the advantages and the fun stuff she can do to the computer. As she learns more about the machine, she might find herself hook on it. I think she only needs a little orientation about the computers and everything will be fine between you and her. On the other hand, you might have been spending too much time on the computer that you have forgotten about your girl. I think you should have a balance life. Your real life with your girl and the cyber life like the myLot.

First thing to know is ask her what her reason for her to stop you from using the pc? I suspect because she is not knowledgeable of the machine that she kind of feel a little bit insecure about you using the machine. Maybe a solution for that is teach her to become computer savvy by it you she may appreciate it and may become an addict like you. Or it may be because you had consume all your time with it and you left no time with your wife anymore. I too am a computer addict to and I spent a lot of time in it but I see to it that I will have some time with my wife talking and spending some quality time together. Talking with her about it would make things easier I hope.

It is a tough problem you are having there. As you did not give the details, it is important to find out the exact reasons why your wife does not allow you to work on computer. Do you have children? Maybe she prefers you to spend quality time with the family, the children? You mentioned your wife is computer illerate, so her strong reaction may be understandable. Perhaps she felt insecure that a hardware like a computer is taking attention away from her. Maybe she's trying to tell you, she needs some attention from you. It may be good to have a heart-to-heart talk with her. After all, you are both husband and wife, it is no good to be always angry and not talking to each other. Both of you should communicate more, talk out a solution, let her understand your love for working online, and also try to know her fears, her insecurities. Try to work out a win-win situation.