Should I have told her what her fiancee did?

I think it was a blessing that you met this guy's fiancee at a party. I mean, if the guy happened to decide on pursuing a relationship with you, you would have been more upset to realize later on that he was already committed to someone else. You are a lucky girl because you don't have anything to do with this cheating piece of trash! If I were in your place, I'd just let it go. Telling that girl about the incident would only make you involved in their relationship. That's their problem, I would let her discover it and solve it herself. Just think of things this way, what would you gain if you said anything to her? Would it make your life different? Discovering this has already made a difference, and now you've learned not to expect a flirting guy to be really serious with his intentions. For all you know he could have done the same thing to all the rest of the girls in that party, don't you think?

i think, you should be sure of it first before doing anything. you just said that you don't know the both them very well so stay put of it first...

This happened to me once, but with a married man. I hung out with him at a club and we got along really well and he took my number. He never called a about a month later the guy I am dating and I make plans to meet some of my friends and go bar hopping. When we all meet up I am introduced to this guy and his wife! He is friends with one of my best friend's guy. It was a really strange night, but I didn't say anything to the wife. Frankly I was a bit scard of her, she was a bruiser kind of girl and I did not need a fight. The husband approached me at one point to ask me to not tell and I just blew him off. I have heard that they have since divorced.

This is a difficult situation, I mean you don't know these people, he didn't actually go on the date with you, but if I was the fiancee I would want to know my soon to be husband was flirting to the extent of getting phone numbers. There is always the chance that if you had said something she wouldn't have believed you anyway so it's a toss up...

That is a really hard one to decide. On one hand, she has every right to know her fiance is a cheating a$$hole. On the other hand, if you told her, she may not have believed you or may have even blamed you for flirting with him. i really don't know what i would have done int hat situation, but i think i would have pulled her aside and said something like "i really don't want to upset you, but i think there is something you need to know. The onther night i was out and i met your finace. He said he was single and eas very flirtatious. He even offered to take me out to dinner sometime. i know this hurts and i am so sorry to have to tell you this, but i thought you had the right to know, especially considering you plan on spending your life with this man."

I think you did the right thing by not saying anything. You could have ended up stuck in the middle of a battle between the two of them.

I always put myself in the other girls shoes. If it was me, I would want to know, even if it was hurtful. I don't think you made the wrong choice, I think you did what you thought was best. Sometimes things are better off. And in your case, he never called you back, so maybe they were split up for a second and then fixed their problems? Maybe that is why he never called you? Oh well, maybe it was better you didn't say anything. :) I know this happend to my sister a week ago. Kind of the same story line, but my sister actually was getting kind of close with this man, if you know what I mean. He also told her he was single and had no kids. Turns out that same night, his wife called my sisters cell phone, I guess she got it from her husbands cell (what a fool) and she was crying on the phone yelling at my sister. My sister calmed her down and told her nothing happened and that she was sorry, she didn't know he was married and that she would delete his number and forget about him. Turns out he also had 8 kids with this lady. I don't know why people are unfaithful, men or women, it's not right. It's messed up in my eyes.

i don't think you should say something. all he did was flirt with you. he didn't call you. he could have been just having a ego trip the day he asked to take you out to dinner. being that nothing happened, i would just stay out of it

I'm not sure-- Maybe he had no intention of calling you or taking you to dinner- Maybe it was a bet or something with friends- Oh I'll get her number- LOL.. If nothing happened then I think I'd leave it alone. If it was my fiance and he hit on some girl- I'd want to know- Maybe it will stop heartache in the end. Or maybe it meant nothing!

It depends, she could have been lying. Sometimes girls lie as well, for example I know my one friend, well he was dating this girl, she asked to "borrow" his class ring and she told her friends that my friend gave her his ring because they were going to get married and buy a house! Who knows? She could be lying as well. But since we only have the evidence that you said I would tell his girlfriend definately. I would say to her "I don't want to get you offended or anything, but yesterday your fiancee said he was single and asked for my phone number. Now I definately don't date married or committeed people, but he swore he wasn't dating. Now I just want to let you know before you go off and marry him. He is probably trying to cheat on you." If she doesn't believe you, then she needs to talk to her fiancee. However, perhaps it was best to stay out of her affairs and let her find out for herself. Have a nice day. Pablo

It's a tough one this! I don't know what I would have done as to be honest I would want to know if my husband was doing stuff like that and I would not put up with it for one minute. It's one thing talking with people at parties or bars and having an innocent flirt but it's quite another thing going to the next stage, pretending you're single and taking or giving out phone numbers. That is bang out of order. I maybe wouldn't have told the girl - like many others said - she might not believe you - but I think I would have got into a conversation with the guy and done my level best to make him feel very uncomfortable - maybe start a conversation about meeting a guy in a bar recently and him having asked you out and luckily you found out the rat was engaged or married before you got into anything with him. Make the guy sweat it out a bit! Anyway hopefully you won't bump into them again ever! x

I don't know that is so hard. I man if it were me I would have totally wanted to cold bust him but then I would think about being responsible for breaking her heart and then what if she didn't believe me or got mad and hit me or something. No I think it's best to stay out of it. Plus what if he is abusive or something, you just never know.

Hi nicole, First of all, now you know what hes all about, you know that hes in a relationship, has a fiancee and building a house etc. That should be enough for you to know to stay clear of that guy and that hes a liar and probably will always be one, and I think you did a good thing not telling her and very wise to stay out of there affairs. If you see him around again, your going to have to tell him, that you know all about him, you dont want anything to do with him, you deserve better and leave it at that... Good luck...

ok, this is gonna sound awful of me ... but ive kind been in the same predicament except it went further than just a absent phone call and .. i knew that he had a fiance ... but they way he acted was asif he was stuck and wanted out but couldnt b/c he had proposed ... we were friends forever n then things just kinda started happening ...well i didnt tell her i was still trying to just sit back and leave well enough alone but my friend did tell his fiance and now needless to say im not friends with him anymore ... but she now knows what she moved into and a little more about who she's marrying ... all i gotta say is ... good luck with that !!

If i were u, i will not tell her. I mean FOR WHAT? Don't mind it. It doesn't affect you and you don't care about him right? So whats the use of letting her know what happened, it will just create problem to their relationship. Just think that what happened between you and him is a friendly date..nothing else.

If he was my fiancee I would appreciate knowing, however a girl just walking up telling me this does not sound very "trusty" and i might not have belived her either. I guess if I was in your shoes I should have said something, without saying to much and then let the 2 of them work it out!"

This sounds like a tricky situation, but I think you did the right thing. He didn't actually call you or go out on a date with you, so it wasn't really harmful. Perhaps this guy was just looking to see if he still was able to get a number. Maybe he needed an ego boost of sorts. While it was still wrong, you were wise to stay out of their affairs. It would have caused you so much drama and put you in the middle of something that I'm sure you don't want to be a part of. If he truly is a sleaze, she will find out for herself in time.

sure its wise to stay out of it.you've done in a right way by having not told the woman anything.after all you dont really know either of them,why bother yourself by getting into their affairs?besides men like flirting with different girls even when they have fiancee already.its just their nature.

I think what you did is the right thing to do. Just stay out of their affair, I mean you dont know them both, so perhaps they can manage their own problems.

Well... it's a million dollar question (i hope i could earn a million dollar with this reply.....Joking) by asking you for a date straight away the guy made an everlasting impression on you which itself is reflected by you remembering him maybe you also been cashing on the opurtunity, secondly he left you dwindling in between two things whether to tell his fiancee about him asking you for a date or not tell her, but in my opinion you should have been tellig her as that would be your part of revenge to him...