No one understands me... Have ever thought like this....?

There are many times when people may not understand what you are saying. Sometimes, you may be so excited or passionate about something, that you are not explaining it well. or sometimes the person you are speaking with just doesn't understand, and may not ever understand. I do not get upset when someone doesn't understand me, I explain myself to the best of my ability, and move on. If someone wants to know more, they can ask.

sreevasu, as a child or a teenager i can't remember it right. perhaps i too have had my share of this kind of bouts. but more recently i do go through a strange phase where i can't really answer to my brains, its a strange, indefinable feeling. my parents have taught me how to handle good times and bad times. so. i think, i quite know how to meet up those well-defined circumstances in life. but, i donot really know what to do when i pass through this strange phase, DO NOT-EXIST kind of state. it's a kind of hollow feeling and it takes time to get over it. only way to come in terms with it is to give in TIMe and SPACE. i guess, this is what they call depression!!

While we are searching for such acceptance and understanding we will never find it. Ironically enough, the closest you will ever get to being "understood" is if you understand yourself. I suggest some studying into Buddhism and Taoism, if you are seeking true understanding of the "self"--which is an illusionary concept anyway. Your mind only perpetuates your beliefs. That is, if you keep thinking "I wish someone understood me" you mind will never allow to find someone--or even the situation--where someone understands you, instead you will keep reliving experiences which make you realize that no one understands you, and that make you rexperience the wish. Instead, try to understand others, there rings some truth to the statement, "seek first to understand, then to be understood."

Yes I do have those times but it seems I have less and less of them now that I am growing older or maybe now I make my own rules and live by them I have no erratic rules, yeah I did live by some very erratic ones and the rest were plain silly and those that were not silly were enforced by societ-al pressure. So it was pretty hard growing up and there was never anytime when I could please people it seemed I was at the wrong end of stick all the time except when I was with my friends! I seemed to be more understood by my friends who saw me without parental-societ-al pressure. I was more understood in college and even better now when I am on my own.... I am total rebel now to society or what people say about me does not bother me I give more value only to my family and friends as they are the ones who stand by me for everything. There is that feeling once a while but I sit and analyze the situation and then I try understand why is it that the " no one understands me" situation has risen up once again.... I usually come to an understanding or try and discuss the situation with the person I am having a conflict with, there usually is a solution/answer at the end of the tunnel mostly. I just have to understand and make an adjustment sometimes and other times I have to convince the person why I took certain steps (my side of story)and even after an explanation if the person does not understand my situation I just stand by mine and keep away from the situation. There are times I feel silence works to one's benefit and "no one understands me" is one perfect such situation! ooooooops here I go ranting again.... thanks for the discussion

There were times in my life where I thought everyone misunderstood me. I was trying real hard to make them understand what I say. At times, I thought there was something wrong with me. But I learned one thing, to be able to understand other, we should understand ourselves first.

I often have the feeling I am lonely and nobody even my mom and close friends can't understand me coz sometimes no matter whatever I expressed to them, they just distort what i mean, that's really make me down and I have tried to be silent for about 2 weeks without taking to anyone,which is really horrible experience. But when I grow more mature (now 23 years old),I have started to put it in this way,why we just feel nobody identify with us, but we never try to understand others, what they are thinking? how do they feeling? what situation are they in? Maybe they have the same feeling like us, lack of others understanding and care, the same pain and hurt they are undergoing as desperate like us.

I've felt this way loads of times and when I do, I shut everyone out... so I can come to terms with the fact that life is a mystery.

just realize the fact that understanding is hard,then we wont feel so upset when we cant make ourselves understood.for those ppl we dont really know,its better not give a damn to whatever they think about us.

I dont like to have this situation when nobody seems to undestand, However it happens sometimes and make me feel upset. Sometimes when the pressure is so hard, I could not handle it, I would lock myself in the bathroom and cry until I am satisfied. Then when okay. I will go for some walk to the crowd, like shopping mall or another place. After that I will forgot that I have been upset before..

there are times when i feel like this, like when i feel as if nobody understands me or even wanna try, yet the expect me to understand them. i feel like breaking down whenever that happens and get rather depressed and snappish, so i have to go out and do something that i really enjoy to get my mind out of it.

Yeah, it is some kind of very complicated things to think about. Me too, sometimes everybody just not like a brained-human for me. Sometimes, I feel like myself is the only one that's right, although it always leads me to loneliness. And I think that the most people wouldn't like being lonely. But, sometimes I just don't know what to do and I also don't like leaving things in some wrong or undone condition. Maybe sometimes we really have to let something go as it be for a while. Yeah, that's what I learn from my mentor.