Disrespectful stepkid

You have to be strong in a situation as such because I am dealing with the same thing from my stepchild and she lives with us. Her father makes up excuses for everything that she does and he also believes whatever she tells him. She is young though, but alot of times she does things to me out of meaness because back when she used to visit with her mom she would tell her nasty little things to say to me. Now she isn't around her, but she still has a mouth on her though.

You need to start being extra nice to the child, it drives them crazy! OK, so better advice would be to sit down and speak to your husband about this when the child is not there. Be sure you are making non-confrontational statements. Let him know his child is welcome and you want to help him to raise the child to be a good person like he is and then explain how you feel awful the way the child disrespects you. Also, try having a talk withthe child and tell the child that you are daddies wife and that you will be there and that you want the visit to be nice for eceryone. Explain that if the child will treat you respectfully (nicely)_ then you will treat the child the same, But, if the child continues to show disrespect then you will do the same. See if this won't help and if not bring tough love into the situation. Such as, your husband can visit with the child someplace else other than in your home if he is not going to teach the child to respect you.

You definetely need to talk to your husband and tell him how you are feeling. I have two step kids, and they used to not live with me and my husband. We got custody of them a while back, and they now live with us 365 days a year. Even when we didn't have them but every other weekend, my husband always supported me spending time with them and also disciplining them. These things go hand in hand though. You need to make sure you are a part of the positive things they do together in order to be made a part of the disciplining as well. I guess that it helps that i am a blatently honest person too. When his kids step out of line, i hold nothing back in telling them what i think about the situation to them, or to him. Be open and honest with him and his son, but with him first. If he truely wants to be a family, he will accept this, but remember positive lies in the hand of the negative.