How Do You Feel About Tattoos
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
May 6, 2007 10:22pm CST
My niece is 19 years old and she just got a tatoo of a butterfly behind her ear. When I saw it on her page on Myspace, I was shocked. I knew she had to know better. As Christians, we believe that according to the Word of God, one is not to permenantly mark their bodies.
When I talked to her mom, I asked her why my niece had a tatoo. My sister was very upset and told my not to say anything to her about it. She told me that she had done it just for attention and that she had been wanting to do it for a long time and knew that it was wrong.
My sister said, when her daughter told her about it, she did not get upset, she turned it around on her and said, I hope you prayed about that, before you did it. My sister did not even know what the tatoo looked like.
My niece is 19 with a year old baby, from being hard headed. She is grown and it is just a little to late for her to be pulling that rebellious crap. I know that she will regret this decission one day and she is going to realize that she needs to learn to listen.
One day, I tried to have a talk with her about learning to listen when adults tell her to do things. we got into an arguement about that. She started saying things like. Why are you telling me this? Why do I need to hear this? Next thing we knew, she was pregnant. Now the baby is one and will probably never know his father, because the father has snapped and is homeless, out pushing a shopping cart an the street.
My sister kept telling her to leave this boy alone, that there was something obviously wrong with him, but she just would not listen. My nephew is the cutest baby in the world, but I can not help but worry about him, his mother is so hard headed.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
7 May 07
I am totally NOT with you on this.
I think you'll find people choose to be religious & it's not right to force it & your beliefs on to them. I am a christian & have tattoos, it doesn't make me a bad person.
She's still technically a teenager so she can be as rebellious as she likes, it's pretty much the same thing as a 40 year old going through a mid-life crisis - they pull the same immature stunts only it's later in life. However, being 19 means she is an adult & unfortunately, there's not a lot anyone can do - ok so i know you're religious & all but she needs to learn from her own mistakes & not have others throwing her mistakes in her face.
I think her mother has realised this & it's not your place to be trying to tell her to listen to adults being she IS one. I know you are her Aunt but still, i get lectures from mine all the time & i never really listen - why? just because they are family, doesn't give them the right to butt in to my life. I'm sure she's feeling the same way.
I don't mean to sound rude but you cant just jump in there & expect her to do as you say, just because you are older - life is about making mistakes & then being mature enough to learn from them, if you are religious, then you know you need to learn from those mistakes & ask for forgivness from GOD not from anyone else - GOD is the only one who can judge you & from what you've written you are doing just that over her appearance.
You shouldn't worry about your great nephew, i know your niece is being rebellious & she might be a bit hard headed but it doesn't make her a bad mother.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 May 07
First of all, when we had this talk, she was still seventeen and all I said was that she needed to learn to listen. She has been hard headed all her life and it is about time that she realizes that she does not know everything.
There is no need to say anything about that tatoo, she knew better before she did it. I am so sorry that you have so much animosity toward this discussion, maybe it is something you need to deal with in therapy. Maybe, take a couple of the people who did not listen to you when you were a child and keep in mind that I am not that person. Sorry to have hit a nerve. Remember, we were talking about MY niece and not YOU.
@jonnysmomma (75)
• United States
7 May 07
I agree with Gemmygirl1. I too am a Christian and have tattoos and piercings. its not whats on the outside, its whats INSIDE. My brother had green hair and piercings all over and is the kindest, most generous person I know.
As far as getting pregnant....well, theres nothing that can be done about it now. I am 29 and the mother of an almost 3 year old and you bet your heiney that ive made mistakes, and Ill make a million more by the time im done. Sounds like your niece needs to learn the hard way...and thats not such bad thing is it? As long as her son is fed, clean and loved, let her be who she is.
Its very apparent that you care about her and her son. For everyones sake, maybe take a step back and let things flow for awhile. In my opinion, you are adding more pressure to her by telling her about her mistakes over and over. Take a deep breath and let things happen they way they are meant to. I know it will be hard...but it might be best.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
7 May 07
FIrst of all what you neice needs is your prayes and not your words. You can see your words mean nothing to her. No matter what you say she is going to do what she wants or just the opposite of what you say just to spite you.
I like tatoos. My son in-law had one from one wrist across his chest to his other wrist and then on one calf. It is his choice to have body art. My daughter married him and she is the one who has to live with him.
I feel it is a form of expression and to each his own. I feel your neice can have it removed later on if she wants. I know it hurts to have it lazored off but by then she will have learned something.
Is she a good mother? Does she take good care of your nephew well is she supporting him? That is what needs to be adressed now. In my opinion.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 May 07
Actually, after she got pregnant, we had a big falling out that lasted for about a year and we are not close any more. She is my oldest niece and the most like me. It was very hard for me to see her grow up in the first place, but then for her to get pregnant right out of High School was heartbreaking. I haven't had any real talks with her since we had the talk about her not listening.
I hate to argue and if something like that made her that upset, I was through. A lot of it is my fought because I spoiled her all while she was growing up. I bought her everything and she never really had to do anything or even behave or respect me. Then, one day she hung up in my face and I felt that was the last straw, I was not going to tip toe around her any longer and I lost my temper and cussed her out.
If you read some of my earlier comments in this topic, you will see that she is not a good mother at all, but my sister is trying her best to take over. He thinks that his grand-mother is his mother. He spends no time at all with her, which is probably the best thing for him.
When she is around, she still doesn't want to be bothered, accept to take pictures with him and things like that. I think he is more of a toy to her than anything else.
