Advice Is Needed

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well she certainly should be ashamed of herself. and part of the "punishment" is having to deal with the consequences. and the consequences are how other ppl are going to treat her now. sounds like you like this girl. and that is a sweet thing to try and help her out. you can only try of course. wont hurt anybody to broach the subject with your classmates and see if they feel the same way.

Hi jisir, I am coming now, the poor little girl might be one of those sleeping princesses. 11 months had passed since the occurrence of the undesirable incidence for the poor girl. I hope she is doing well and enjoying her school life happily now. I always believe that time could heal hurts and sorrows. Any hardship or sadness could gradually fade itself in our memory though some might remain inerasable. Recalling back, I understand that her strong feeling of dislike could always tempt her to such a course of action. Anyhow I presume that she didn’t have any malicious motive as she was still young and inexperienced in life then. If you could give her some appropriate counseling and encouragement, she could definitely be able to overcome her psychological barrier and regained confidence in her study. You could create a favorable atmosphere in the class for her to say sorry to her classmate whom she disliked before. I believe this arrangement would work well as children would always listen to their respected and beloved teacher. By the way I couldn’t make any uploading since yesterday. This is my 3rd trial (every trial needs about 40 minutes). I hope I could able to post this time. Happy posting and bye!

Williamjisir, I just responded to your reply to my earlier response (please see it). Then, I read further and I am glad that you are getting support from more people. Now that it is known to all, let the girl take the courage and say openly that she did a wrong thing. She realises it now and has decided not to do such a thing again and therefore she should be forgiven for her past misdeed and given a chance to build her future. All the best.

Sir Williamji, It is indeed a great job you would do if you could get back the girl to school to study. It is not easy to know why she did what she did. May be she was compelled for some reasom. What is important is to know her point of view. After all she is a child. To err is human, to forgive, divine. But I suggest a modification to the narration the classmates should put forth to her. It could be something that would not make her feel let down. She confessed and this is a good beginning. let the slogan be something like this, " Now that you have realised that you have done something that one should not do under normal circumstances, we would be very happy if you continue to be with us. You have courage to admit your mistakes and you have determined that you would not repeat the mistake. We would be glad to have a person like you as a friend. We are missing you so come back to the class and things would be same as before." Give a child a chance to correct herself. Williamji, I am very curious to know how "ji" got added to your name and what it means.

yeah ofcourse dear. Your concerned to the girl its a very big help to her. She's still a child and by stealing from her roommate money is not a block to stop in moving towards for her good future. You as a teacher. You know how to resolve on that situation. Encouraging her and give another chances will motivate her to move on..Important is she know what she did was wrong and she feel sorry with it. There's only few people like you who give concerned to the other futures right now dear...So good luck for it. happy posting.:)

Hello williamjisir, I am sad reading the story about this young little girl. I hope she is fine now after almost 1 year time. The last I read about it is she choose to be alone and away from the school. Actually I feel that the punishment she received is more than she deserved. Why she was not relocated to another school and given a chance to start all over again? Just curious and really hope that she is getting better. Because if this kind of issue is not resolved, she will still be haunted by bad experience even when she had grown up to be an adult.

As a teacher, thats exactly what you should do. Everybody makes mistakes. Since she regret her acts, its time to bring her back.

my advice is tat don't do anything. this will cause her to be more shy. time will heal her. she will autometically return to school

Although this discussion was posted 11 months ago and I am sure the situation has resolved. However, the underlying questions remain in situations like these and therefore I decided to add my views to what is a rather timeless because at a core level situation like these are really about self-accountability. Whatever the reason this young person needs to learn that there is a cause and effect to every choice made. In my view just offering 'I'm sorry' wouldn't be enough to show she actually learned a valuable life lesson from the choices she made. In the event that she is not guided to a deeper understanding about the ripple effect of what she did...it could happen again. In my view 'real' apologies involve an ability to accept misdeeds...and state it. The second part is in admitting they did wrong...and 'owning it...and thirdly a sincere request to the injured party about what she could do to make up for it. For the whole class to invite her back without asking her to handle her 'stuff' could give her the idea that it was not such a big deal after all...when in realty stealing...then lying about it is a big deal! Well...from my perspective anyway. Good topic...even though it is an older one! Raia

I am glad you think so nice about your student, william. I think I would do the same thing like you want to do. It is really her future and it is important and if you will not do anything and see her maybe one day on the street, you will feel guilty. Also I understand she stole something, but each of us should get a another chance. And maybe she got really good reason to stole the money, i mean we never realyy could know. I hope the girl willc ome back to school.

hi william i missed the fun..im sleeping i think..anyway you have all the great answer i will say goodluck,,

You said she already decided to leave forever as she found the relationship between her and all the other students hard. I'm sad of it Why don't she can attend school now? A year has passed, she could find new classmates who don't know about her story (she could pretend she wasn't attending school because of wourk) and she could start again

It's something that's hard to forget. For sure the one who stole the money had earn a bad reputation in the school. My advice is first - to give back the money she stole and tell how sincerely she was sorry about what she did. After that, if she wants to back to study, then all she gotta do is come to class everyday. Time heals all wounds (as they say), so maybe in time, everyone will forget the incident.

It is a good move to admit that you did something wrong and that alone can convince her that she did something right for everyone to look up to her.

Just by encouraging her to go back to school is enough to let her know that her past actions doesn't define who she is. I do hope she has gone back to school.

You are really warm heart.You can help her too. But I think one person must learn how to be responsible for his or her action.This is actual very important.She feels shy to come back to school to study.If she can not overcomes it,she will be unsuccessful in her future. This is actual a common issue.The person after 80's have not learn how to be responsible for their action.

yes ,at first ,we must know that everybody will make mistakes in our life . we should forgive her mistake and welcome her coming back ! i think you should do something for her ,will you ? maybe you can ask your classmates to write a letter that expressing you all had forgetten that case and you all never think that matters much and show your carelessness and warm heart. she will know you don't look down upon her . is that ok ?

That's OK. If she's a kid, you should tell her to come back to class, and apologize for what she did.

Yes, I agree have the class talk to her, forgive her and help her make amends she needs her education.