what to do about a child who lies?

Not sure exactly what I would do about her being nasty to her brothers and sisters because my kids are really close and the like to be around each other. The lying part I would just keep cosistant on what you are doing. Maybe enforce some kind of punishment or time out or even a grounding. You know what will work for your own child so try a couple of different things.

As far as here lieing is concerned, you must find a discipline that works. YOu said she is 8 years old, so peer pressure is problably one of her motivations for lieing. If she were my daughter, I would take away privelages when she is caught in a lie. FOr instance, if she lies to you, she can not use the phone for a week, if she lies again during that week, she cannot use the internent. THese things are very important to an 8 year old girl, eventually she'll stop, because she doesn't want the consequences. As far as the nastiness towards her siblings, it too must be dealt with. All kids will be mean here and there, but when it's a common occurrence, you need to step in. I would hate for my children to end up bitter towards one another because of hateful things that they did when they were young. My suggestion would to have a one on one talk with her initially, Tell her, We need to get to the bottom of this. Either you can tell me now, Or we can talk to the school counselor and you can tell me then, what it is that's bothering you? She may opt for the school counselor, and maybe not want you to be there, allow her to go by herself, and see if that helps. I know she's only 8, but is it possible that she's going through puberty? If so, this could be the reason for her nastiness. Also, you may want to reevaluate her friends, is there a friend that maybe a bad influence? If so, you need to take steps to get her out of your daughter's life. And finally, you need to help foster friendliness and kindness within the family. Every time she is nasty, to her sister, Her punishment could be an extra chore or something, but then also, I would tell her "you hurt your sister, you have hurt her feelings, so to help rebuild that relationship, you and your sister must spend 30 minutes together doing something that SHE chooses to do. You must have a good attitude, and you must be polite and kind. If you are not,I will revoke all of your privelages for the next week, and you will have to spend another 30 minutes doing what your sister wants to do again! She'll be surprised at how much she enjoys spending time with her siblings (although she may never admit it to you!). I hope some of this advice helps. Good luck!

How old is your daughter? A young child who lies doesn't have the same motivation as an adult who lies. His method of lying is directly related to his age. Sometimes daily events make their reactions differ depending on their fears, and dreams. They seem to change as they grow each year and are not so overpowered by their own impulses and can control their ideas more carefully. Most of all we need to explain to our children that because they lie it could lead to other people not trusting them. When they are asked if something happened and they lie then when the adult finds out they have lied they will tend not to trust them the same. Tell your children that by telling the truth they will earn the respect of others and that this is very important. When children from the age of l0 onward to adolescence lie continuously then it becomes habitual and this can't be treated as cute or ignored. Then you need to examine the reasons for lying and determine a cause. This does not mean the child is starting a lifelong pattern of behavior. It is an indication that the child is having a rather rough growing period and has special problems. Usually a child will lie for more attention and approval even among his peers. A child can easily form the habit of lying and then he won't see the difference in the truth and in a lie. You as parents need to handle this very carefully. When you see that your child is lying often you need to realize this lying has become a habit. Sometimes children lie just to get the attention of others, to make an impression on a new friend for example. It is very important what we say and do as parents and how we behave ourselves. We don't want our children to think that life will be easier if they just lie a little as that is not true. If we want our child to learn that lying interferes with trust and that trust is necessary for loving, we need to reexamine those situations of avoidance and protection that amount to lying. We cannot ask of our children what we don't demonstrate in front of them ourselves. The manner in which parents handle the early signs of discomfort and disturbance is very crucial.

This is only my view and opinion you may approve of it or not it is ok. If I caught my child lying I do all the means to persuade and communicate to them that it is wrong to tell lies but if all the diplomatic means has been ineffective I use my iron hands to bring the message to them that indeed it is very wrong to lie got what I mean. Sometimes we have to give them a little pain to make them realize that we are serious when we said so. God bless u and ur family.