Difference of opinion
By jmespinosa82
@jmespinosa82 (498)
United States
May 7, 2007 12:14am CST
Why is it so hard for people to actual realize that they are not always right just because they believe a certain way. I have noticed that so many people insist that thier view is the right way just because they see it that way. No not all people are the same that is why it is called a difference of OPINION. Is there life really that lame and boring that they have to try to argue that they are right because they feel they are right.
My husband and I have a great marriage and relationship with each other, our families and our kids. We are both really close to our family. I know more about my parents than probably my aunts and uncles and it may be difficult for people to understand that and are in denial because unforutantly they never got that closeness from their parents or family like that.
Sorry everyone had to vent a bit because I will never tell any of you that your view is the wrong view because that is what you think and believe I will tell you if I disagree but would never knock you down for it. That is why it is called an opinion. I don't take things in here personally but I will say it won't intimidate me neither.
3 responses
@andersod2 (17)
• United States
7 May 07
Well it is true that often people have an emotional connection to their beliefs that makes them unable to endure anyone else's contrary opinion. And I do agree that not having had a healthy family life is likely to cause such a condition. For me the important thing to remember is that when someone else is contrary to the point of being malicious, it shows how much you have been given to be able to be civilized in a situation that others can't be. That's something to be grateful for, and every time you answer such a person with grace in your voice you demonstrate to them that there is a better way. And even though often times you won't see any change in them, believe me it helps a lot beneath the surface. Every good thing we do toward others reaps a benefit, even if you aren't the one that gets to see it. And that's my story and I'm stickin' to it :)
@jmespinosa82 (498)
• United States
7 May 07
Yeah I believe this too. I do have strong opinions about what I believe in but I would never say that because some one believes differently that they are wrong or a horrible person for thinking that way. I don't lower myself to try to make them happy. After reading this I read some other posts too and realized that some people just want to argue with everyone and prove they are right. So I don't feel so bad anymore about my posts.
@andersod2 (17)
• United States
7 May 07
That being said, I do believe a person should stand up for what they believe in, even if it's to their own demise. I don't believe it's bad to say "you're wrong" (and I've done that plenty), as long as it's clear that it isn't being said maliciously or to hurt them. I've often been accused of just trying to be argumentative, when in reality I wasn't propelling the discussion at all, I was just stating the facts and my opinion and the other person was getting angry at me so they started making accusations. But saying "you're wrong" isn't an accusation, really, it's just telling the person that you believe you are right and that they haven't convinced you of their position yet. People get tripped up easily when they hear "you're wrong" because they interpret it as "you're bad" or "I don't like you." Often times they can't keep talking rationally after that because their emotions have gotten involved and that spoils the logic of the debate and everything breaks down. At least that's my experience. I try not to use words like "you're wrong" whenever possible, but it still happens when I feel the person isn't making their point or has lost site of logic in their argument. Online discussions make it especially difficult.
@jmespinosa82 (498)
• United States
7 May 07
Yeah I know what you mean and at first I kind of took it offensive and personal because I started to think maybe what I was feeling was wrong, then came the name calling saying I didn't know what I was talking about and other things like that. Then I realized how old they were and read some of this person's posts to other topics and this person just goes on and on how other people are wrong when this person is asking for opinions and just because they don't agree with it or like the answers gets upset.
I don't want you to think that I am taking it out on you because I'm not I do believe people should stand up for what they believe but, don't have to always make it into an arguement and try to make other people think they are right.
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
7 May 07
There have always been, and always will be, actions which appear to some as good, while the same actions appear to others as evil. That is the nature of humanity. We must accept that simple fact or be forever condemned to battle. We are all different. It is that simple... each and every one of us is different. We have always been different, we will always be different. We must learn to accept our differences with patience, tolerance, understanding and love or else we will be in strife forever.
@jmespinosa82 (498)
• United States
7 May 07
Yes I know. My husband has really shown me how to be this way. He is very calm and really don't care what other people think even if he disagrees but I am the stronger one. I don't like people to think that I have no opinion but, at the same time I try to be careful what and how I say it because yes people are different and you have to accept them the way they are because that is who they are no matter what. That is what makes the world so cultured and different. If we didn't have people have a difference of opinion a lot of things would not be the way they are.
@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
7 May 07
we view life differently. every person has a different perspective in life. we all have this right to express our opinion and nobody should knock you down because of that opinion, no matter how brutal the opinion may seem. it's part of the person's character how they express that opinion. i remember this experience i had with a friend who tends to knock down my opinion about some certain topics. everytime i express my opinion, she (maybe unintentionally) tends to disagree. maybe that's really how she views life. i'm more of a conservative and she's a liberated person. so a clash of personality was created. so the best way to deal with it is to maybe play along with her opinion because whenever i disagree with her she always points out that i am WRONG...it hurts me so but still, i got nothing much to do with that because it feels as if i was never granted the chance to express my opinion. for people we encounter like that, maybe the best way is to just play along. but once they have crossed the line, we should talk to them about it and how much pain it has caused us.
