guy best friend in love with you...

For me i don't see any reason why you should cut your friendship i mean i understand both of your situation maybe you should lessen to see each other first or not to see and talk to each other at all until both of you realized what will be the effect of that especially that the girl is already married. I think the guy should avoid his best friend first so that hurting the both of you will prevent and would not cause for the both of you to get angry with each other. And in that way the guy would not destroy his best friend's family. And when the time comes that he accepted the fact and realize that the feeling he feels towards his best friend is wrong he is now ready to face with his friend and be at ease again with his company.

sometimes i feel like i have feelings for my guy bestfriend too. he told me he liked me (repeat liked, past tense)but that time he may not be so sure so he didn't tell me immediately. one time when we were having a barkda chat and one barkada let slipped that he had a crush on me he smiled and suddenly said he had too. i was really shocked and i couldn't speak. that was when i realized why he kept battling with my other friend for my attention. everytime one guy friend talks to me he just appear out of nowhere and ask or talks about anything even if its nonsense. then 2years later, i heard people say he like this girl already and has plans courting her. i feel suddenly jealous and i can't understand it. especially when he spends more and more time with the girl and her barkada than with me and our barkada i get really mad and i feel like im losing him already. i told him about how we don't get to spend time anymore but he acts like it was nothing and that he told me i was often mad at him when he tries to talk to me so we drifted farther apart. nonetheless we got through with and are still bestfriends.

I've been in this situation before but I'm not married.. He didn't cut off the friendship but he really took the courage to tell me his feelings and at that time I'm in a relationship and I just sees him as a friend. I explained to him that I can only offer friendship to him, I accepts it but is still thinking that we might have a chance.. I guess you have to talk to him as well and make him understand.. I think as your best friend he should be able to understand that especially you're married already..