What do i do?

India
May 7, 2007 9:57am CST
theres this girl who ive known for 9 months and over that 9 months i really got to know her and i fell in love i love everything about her exept her choices in guys she always pics the worst men to be in her life because she thinks that thats what she diserves she has this mindset that she is the worst person on earth she also has a problem with trust it takes her a lot to really open up and talk about things i want to be with this girl but shes with another guy right now and i wouldnt want to hurt her i just want to show her my fellings for her i mean ive been with other women but ive only felt this way about her its tearing me up inside plese someone help me out with this
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• Philippines
7 May 07
Lol! You make your move so it's over! Don't let her wait too much. You should not hesitate to do what you think is right for you or else you will regret it. Give some confidence to yourself and have more courage. Nothing is impossible if you always think that you can do it. Good luck about that and have a nice day.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
7 May 07
Damn, man. Your situation is bad. I hope you don't get like me. I love this girl more than I love myself. And she doesn't even care about me. To the hell with me, she said once to her friends. She doesn't want anything with me, she is in love with another guy that doesn't love her. I don't think she LOVES this guy, it is not such a strong feeling, I think. Anyway, I went there and told her what I feel. She said she doesn't love me, and all this stuff. But I really think she doesn't got it. I think she didn't understand how much I love her. And now, she is avoiding me. This hurts... I'm what? A monster? I got to the conclusion that I must not fear the failure... After all, I am the failure itself. Have you ever met the failure? Because the failure has a name: Eduardo. Just go to this girl, tell what you feel about her. But don't try to tell this her while she is in a bad moment. She'll think you're just taking advantage. First of all, get close to her. As much as possible. I mean, be her best friend. Then you can risk something. Whatever you do, just don't end up like me... It hurts.
• United States
7 May 07
Didn't I see a post from you that you are married?? Anyway, this other woman -- if she's always choosing the wrong guys it's probably because she doesn't WANT the relationships to work out -- it's too scary for her. OR, she's trying to work out problems she had with her father, and using these men to do it. If you do get involved with her: it probably won't work out until she understands, and can get beyond, her reasons for making bad choices in men to begin with. She must save herself -- you can't do it for her. You can tell her how you feel, but be prepared to get hurt. JMHO