How important is TRUST in friendship???
By munazza
@munazza (81)
Pakistan
May 7, 2007 11:00am CST
friendship is one of the most sacred relations taht we made on our own.What you think is the core of a successfull and happy frienship relation..is it Trust??? What if your friend breaks your trust or does not trust on you at all???
For me, it really hurts if your friend dun trust you...atleast friends are supposed to trust us...What you think??Share your experiences about trust in friendship
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@jithinsb (518)
• India
7 May 07
TRUST-is really an integral factor in friendship..because after all the term friendship itself relies on sincerety and trust..he/she whom we tell our deep secrets and our private matters are not meant to reveal it to anybody else...if they are our true friends,we dont even have to tell them "dude,do not tell it to anybody else"..they will understand what they should do and what they shouldnt..
and another thing is sincerety..they should really be sincere and truthful...all other elements come only after these...
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@abroji (3247)
• India
7 May 07
Mutual trust is the key to any intimate friendship. We will openly discuss our very personal affairs to our friends. Why do we do so? Because we trust them. If that friend is not trustworthy will we disclose our personal secrets to that person? No. Therefore without trust there will be no friendship. Or in other word a trustless friendship could not be friendship at all.
@MrsWickham1 (464)
• United States
7 May 07
I have never really ahd any trust issues. I mean I have always told my firneds the truth, but it woudl really hurt me if they lied to me. I do not nessacarily think it would end our friendship it just make take time for tehm to redeem themselves. and what they lied about.
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@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
well said....its a form of trust infact...when i feel that my friend has not relied on me or hide something....most of the times i dont ask for any explaination coz i believe that there must be some reason...and later some time i make my mind clear about that
@MommytheMaid (310)
• United States
7 May 07
Tyra Banks recently did a show all about friendship and trust. She did an expeirment where she took a group of four friends and asked them to trust each other to be completly open and honest with each other during a conversation they had. What they didn't know was that there were body language experts, and lie decetor experts watching them to see if they were really being honest with each other.
Turns out that these girls were terrible liars to each other and were not very open about their feelings and one of them even dated another ones boyfriend or something crazy like that.
I think that trust is a big issue. I don't trust easily. People have to have to earn my trust in them. If a trust is broken, that person no longer gets to hear the intimate details of my life and I distance my self from them. They have a really hard time gaining my trust back too.
@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
hmm it seems you have some bad experiences about trust...its good that you dun trust easily.and of course if trust is broken once its hard to do it again..but do you go for the reasons why your trust is broken..may be there would be some genuine reason after that....
@alonayosi (13)
• Philippines
12 May 07
your right but not all friend are real yeah we admit that they are real friend but sometimes we dont know that they give you a back fight...thats why iam very careful to give my trust to someone....
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
8 May 07
i think trust is very important in a friendship, it's one of the things that keep you close to your friend and it also keeps the friendship going. if a friend betrayed my trust, i'd be really hurt too, who wouldn't? if the person was a really good friend of mine, i'd probably talk it over and still be friends, even though things might not be the same. if the issue affected me badly, i probably won't tell anymore things to him/her and would distance myself for a while to get over it.
@shivaranjani (164)
• India
7 May 07
well trust is the base of every relationship.any relationship demands honesty and truth.if you cant trust the person then the very word friendship is useless. a friend is the most important aspect of one's life,a person close to the heart, someone who keeps your secrets and never lets you down in times of need. and without trust its impossible to maintain friendship.
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
8 May 07
Trust is important in any relationship. Without trust you can not rely on anybody!
Have you seen any typical doubtful persons? How they are suffered by themselves and harassed others?
So the trust is the base of a simple good friendship naturally! And I am sure that because of I have trust on friends and they also have trust on me that's why these long lasting friendship is now part of daily life and I am, oh sorry, we all are sure about future also!
@xcellen (204)
• Indonesia
7 May 07
its hard to gain trust this days, so if you have a friend you can trust, it means, he/she is a very precious jewel to you, and so are you to those who trust you, being betray is sure hurt, and its hard to read people's heart, so take it at your own risk, but at least we know about our own heart, and we can be the good guys.. :)
@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
yeah definitely we dun know about others heart but in a relationship like friendship you can find many occasions to judge your friend's sncerity.actually am not saying that you should do so but you should try to give space to your friendship...enough space for trust to nourish
@raptorbyt (105)
• India
8 May 07
I've had a few issues with my ex-friends.this guy i used to know.he actually used me.for lotta material gains and stuff.my current frnds rock!they're totally like me.but yeh.trust is very imp. to me.
@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I really think trust is one of the important thing you should have in your friendship because without trust how can you be able to communicate with your friend and tell to them things you want to share if you always doubt on the person.
@thai11 (239)
• United States
8 May 07
I agree that trust is a key element in a relationship, it doesn't matter if its a friendship or a romantic one, if you can't trust the person then it won't work. The relationships that I have been in where the trust has been broken, have all ended. I don't see a use in keeping someone around you that you don't trust!
@aizamari21 (19)
• Philippines
8 May 07
of course, it is very important. i believe it is the foundation of a good relationship, in any kind, nt especifically with friendship. this is something that is hard to earn but so much easy to lose. we have to be very careful with our actions and words. remember no man is an island..
@huangtyantyan (97)
• Philippines
7 May 07
For me trust is very important part of any relationship not just fiendships, because how could you depend on that person and seek advices if you don't trust them? without trust a relationship would be worthless and meaningless. It also doesn't mean that you are friends that you trust them already because trust is being earned, and not instantly gained so if you trust somebody you could call them as your real friend coz there are also a lot of levels of friendship and it doesn't matter how long you've known each other.
if you wanna make sure that youre really trusting that person, think that your on a high place example a building and there's no way out but to jump and from the ground someone says "its ok you can jump don't worry i'll catch you" will you jump? will you entrust your life to that person? its what you called "trust fall"
@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
beautiful...you have just described trust by a perfect example.this must be the level of trust among friends.and as you said it is earned so it might take some time to reach to such level where you can blindly trust your friend but once you find a trust worthy friend,you are the luckiest person
@subha12 (18441)
• India
8 May 07
truest is the one of the important part of friendship. when this breaks up, there is very little u can do with it.I have experienced this in past. i got very hurt when my good riend used to tell me lies.
@prettyeijoj04 (2)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Friendship just like any other relationships to be able to survive, it has to be pampered with trusts, understanding and above all unconditional love. Friendship does not impose obligations, the comfort must come from within, wholeheartedly given not because the two or group of people benefit from that ties. But because you consider each one as precious as your love ones like parents, family members or even gf's and bf's.
@sallyxu126 (1184)
• China
8 May 07
I think it is the core to keep a good friendship .
Trust is so important in relationship and it can maintain the relationship in long times.
once you cheat , you might gain some profit,but you will lose the basic of friendship.
so always keep trust between you and your friends is very important all the time.
@laiza14 (593)
• Philippines
8 May 07
trust is very important in a friendship, or any relationshipt actually, its like the main ingredient of a cake, like what is a cake without a flour? or, what is a car without wheels? something like that, for me, trust is easily given but when its broken, its hard to bring it back.. right, i think you feel the same way too..:)
@lovelyvon (75)
• United States
8 May 07
for me, trust is very important in friendship because trust is can make our bonding as a friend stronger and no one well hurt.
@msah83 (1)
• Malaysia
8 May 07
Yeah, people said that trust is so important in friendship, having said that, no friendship would happened without the foundation of trusting each other.
i have always been in the situation, that you have to be friendly with everyone, yet the person could be your worst enemy.
but, i enjoyed my life - that you dont depend on anyone. so trust is not always the issue. unless you want to share BIG secret, then of course i would go for much trusted friend.
if it day to day life, having friend is enough - i dont think i would obliged to get their trust, nor theirs to get mine.
what it is important, simply being friend. and later, trust (may be) coming into the middle of friendship.