Balancing love and care

All you need my dear is a well-organized time frame between you and your husband, You and your baby, you and your husband and your baby... I am a wife and a mother as well, I go to work mondays to fridays from 8am till 5pm. my husband is working as well, same time I am at work. My daughter is taken care of my mom when I am at work, but let me share this routine with you.. I usually wake up at 4:30am, my baby is still sleeping that time, I make sure to fix breakfast,I make sure to give my husband a cup of coffee every morning..I fix what we are going to wear that day,( both of us) then it's time to shower,, by 6am or so, my one year old is awake already and I was able to fix myself and what my husband needs. We eat our breakfast together, and I make sure to tell my mom what my baby wants the whole day. By 6pm I am at home again, I make sure that I fix dinner first and I make sure that when my husband arrived, I am finished already,My daughter will be by myside all the time at night and it is our bonding time watching TV with our daughter before we call it a day!! it might be tiring but I know you can make a good time for your husband and kid.

Your husband needs to understand that since you both partook in the fun of making the baby, once it arrives, the mother is the one who needs to be taking care of the child's needs & they must come before your own & his own. At 5-6 months i had my daughter in a routine & now she's 11 months & her routine works really well. She goes to bed at 8:30 so any time after that is our time together. It's a little hard sometimes but at 11 months my daughter is happy to run off & play with her toys which gives us some more time together, she's very independent! It will get easier as the child gets older but it might take a little, your husband has to understand that the child is completely dependent on you guys to care for it so he must come first. I'm sorry your hubby gets annoyed but he shouldn't, he should have known the 2 of you weren't going to have as much time alone together if you had a baby. I wish you well & i hope you can get a decent routine happening for your son, that can help to fix the problem of you guys not having enough time together!

Hi, I am a mother of one little boy 3 mo. I have put my little one on a schedule he goes to bed every night at 7:30pm. My husband and I both have an understanding that untill then my sons needs come first and after bedtime is our time to enjoy each other and catch up on what happened in each others day. It works pretty good for us and we enjoy ending our days in each others company with a little peace and quite.

I have 4 kids, and my youngest is 4, so it's a little easier now. We have an 8:30 bedtime, after 8:30 is adult time. I am a stay at home mom so I give my kids my total attention during the day, but when my hubby gets home I do my best to give him the majority of my attention. This means having homework done, baths taken, etc BEFORE he gets home. I have even heard of women feeding their children, and then having an adult only supper when their husbands get home. I have thought of doing this as well, it might work well maybe once or twice a week, and not every day.