How do you cope with abuse, when your disbled child is the abuser?
By liyan97
@liyan97 (2127)
Northern Mariana Islands
May 8, 2007 11:41pm CST
My son has a brain disorder and at times he lashes out towards me or my daughters. He is a wonderful kid with a heart of gold, but when he is angry he not only screams at me but at times also hits me....His mood swings vary and I try my best not to aggrivate him. How do I cope with that? I don't know how to deal with it, I mean I can't distinguish if it is from the brain disorder or just his attitude.I am trully confused!
Any opinions will be greatly appreciated.
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2 responses
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
9 May 07
My niece is like your son, she has mood swings and she tends to lash out uncontrollably, the doctors said it is because of her disorder and that she needs to be around people who can help her. Maybe your son needs that. I'm sure you love him very much but think about what is more important, getting him help and letting other's help you out or having him lash out at you at any unknown moment. Try talking to him, and maybe finding out why. He could be frustrated because maybe he can't do some of the normal things. My niece is very smart, but when she knows she can't do things the way I or anyone else does she gets very upset.
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@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
9 May 07
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to this. At times I feel like lashing out!It is so hard to deal with the mood swings, he is also seeing a theropist who suggest that I time him out when his behavior becomes violent, but honestly I feel like it might just be adding to his problems... I am really pleased with Mylot because it has given me a chance to voice my issues and brings me comfort from other members suport! Thank You Again.......
@Dixie58 (18)
• United States
10 May 07
I also agree with curvy my son has been on dialysis for almost three years and i know it is not the same but he gets so frustrated he has to be so careful of every drop of liquid he takes in and every food he eats. and he is connected to a machine that keeps him alive and he becomes verbally abusive to his older sister who is his care taker and he lives with her. he is also sometimes abusive to me but i believe it is because he is frustrated with his life. I will keep you and your child in my prayers the best you can do is let him know you love him and as curvy said get someone to help with him so you and your daughters get some away time you need that believe me
@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
13 May 07
When my youngest son was little, I had to physically restrain him to keep him from injuring himself when he would lash out. I would sit on the floor with him and rock him, while humming to him. He didn't like it, and fought me every inch of the way, but eventually he would calm down and relax enough I could let him go.
The doctor treated him with medications, including a mood stabilizing medication as well as therapy. He still has mood swings and a nasty temper, but is not nearly as out of control as he was then.
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@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
13 May 07
Thank you for your response! I have my son in therapy now, but all they have advised me to do is to let him stay in his room until he chooses to stop and show remorse for his behavior. At times it works, but then it just hurts to have to deal with this kind of situation. I don't expect him to change completly because I know that it is his disorder that makes him that way, but I do hope and pray that there can be something done for him now while he is young, in order to give him a chance at a good life, when he gets older. Thank You again....
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