When should one marry??

India
May 9, 2007 12:47am CST
so what do u ppls think when should one decide to settle down ?? what should be the most critical factor?? Age ?? time spend togather?? actualy what?? Need inputs.....can neone help??
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• Singapore
9 May 07
Marrying is a big decision and the answer to your question should mainly come from yourself. I personally think that you need to spent a big amount of time in order to know your partner before jumping into the marriage bandwagon. Do learn to accept each other's shortcomings and at the same time to include each other in your discussions on future dreams/plans, i.e. children and when to start a family. It might be a honeymoon when you're still dating but when marriage comes, you need to speak up to address each other's needs and family planning, house chores and job security can be major bugbears.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
9 May 07
Ideally, when settling down, one should consider the following criterion; You should be matured emotionally, mentally, physically and financially. Emotionally ready since you will have to stick your life with that person for the rest of your life and you must be comfortable enough to live with your partner. Mentally meaning you have set your mind that you're ready to face whatever consequence or problems you have with your husband or wife to be. You have mentally accepted that you will marry your ideal but not perfect husband and would accept that there may be flaws that you may discover after your marriage and your ready to adjust and accept it. Physically since you will undergo extra effort physically if your working since you should save for your family and everything else connected with your marriage or if you are a lady then you have to be ready when the time comes a baby is coming I know that to be physically gruelling for a woman to have. Financially ready, maybe not so important but should be considered a factor to consider since this will be lifetime partnership and having some funds or budget inside the marriage is a big factor. Many broken marriages can be traced to money related problems. That is why having a sound and stable flow of funds in your pocket is vital to make the relationship working smoothly. Although lack of it does not neccessarily mean the end of your partnership but then it should be a thing to consider. Having said all of these, those are the things I would consider impartant things to consider when entering into settling down. But, undfortunately not all of those factors are usually met when entering into it. So maybe try to weigh things are in your situation. Maybe looking for at least the first 3 factors I mentioned is good enough reason to go into partnership.
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
9 May 07
It depends on person.One thing should be very clear that you are mature enough for the relationship .As well as you really love the person whom you are marrying.Definitely there is no such thing as compulsory at this age one should get married.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
9 May 07
If you take marriage as a compulsary thing that every body should experience, then when you think you are mature enough to take the responsibility for a family of your own, you can marry. If you regard marriage as a result of real love, then when you find you and boy/girl friend has fallen in love so deeply that you don't want to separate from each other anymore, it's time for you to get married.
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@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
9 May 07
We should marry if we are already ready with the responsibilities when it comes to raising a family..I think age,time spent together and financially stable are factors for you to consider before entering to the vow of marriage. With age, I think you should be mature enough,mature with your feelings, and have really grow up to face the responsibilities in life and raising a family. With the time spent together,it is really important for you to know the person that you would spending the rest of you life with. Its not just knowing like what he thinks or how he loves you but knowing his whole being as a human person and how he relates or how he treats his family. When it comes to raising a family and providing the needs of the family,I think both of you should be stable enough to provide everything. There you would be having a happy and all ever wanted life with the person you love.