Having a boy friend, and fancying another.

Perhaps your friend is not really inlove with the new guy but is infatuated with him. Since she has been in this relationship for three years I think she is starting to get bored with it. My advice is that why don't she go on a vacation alone and see if the she still feels love for her boyfriend. We cannot love two people at the same. One will always be a love and the other will be infatuation though it's quite hard to tell which is which at the early stages of a relationship. Tell your friend if she is no longer happy with her boyfriend, let go of him it is not fair to keep him if she does not love him anymore. He deserves someone who will love him back. As for the new guy tell your friend to take her time and evaluate whether the new guys feels the same way for her. There are no right or wrong decisions in love.Remember, we are allowed to meet a few wrong people along the way so that when the right one comes along we will know how to love him best.

First of all she should confirm if her new friend loves her or he is just a friend,then she should talk to her boyfriend,

Hi. Its a pity your friend is in a mess. Mess because she toying with three delicate 'HEARTS' Tell her to take a break from both relationships before she crumbles anyone and evaluate. Her joy both now and the future is very important. Real love is futuristic while infatuation is momentary gratification. Neither you nor i can decide for her. We can only wish her well in whatever choice she finally decides to make. cheers!

The chances of her actually loving the new guy is unlikely, it's probably more likely she's infatuated with him or it's a lust thing, either that or she doesn't actually love her boyfriend, it's just a convenience thing & then if that's the case, it could be love with the new guy! You didn't say anything about whether she loved her boyfriend you just said they have been together for 3 years & they got on well so maybe she doesn't love him at all. It's a little too hard to work out without knowing the people but she cant be unfaithful to her boyfriend so she either needs to forget about the new friend or break up with her boyfriend coz it's not fair on either of them.

It is possible to love two people at a time but not equally, i believe that not everyone in a relationship that falls in love with someone else is infatuated, there are so many different reasons why one falls in love with someone else other than his/her present boy/girl friend. So if your friend is so madly in love with this new guy, let her give herself some time to ponder over these two guys and find out who she is more compatible with and who have things in common and also share the same values with her. This will go a long way in helping her solve her problem.

five floor.well done

yea i think it is..im in a similar situation.. i feel for you..

Just tell her:love is not a jok.It will be influence whole of her life.