Should I take the risk?
By Munhozmib
@munhozmib (3836)
Sao Paulo, Brazil
May 9, 2007 6:02pm CST
Well, I'm trying to stablish a good friendship with the girl I love. She already knows I love her, and she said she doesn't love me back. She is very polite and a nice girl, although she has her bad points.
Anyway, I was thinking about this... If she is feeling cold, I could take off my jacket and just put it on her shoulder, as a polite act. After doing that, I could take her material (her school things). I though it would be polite. I was really planning to do this... Until my girl friend said this:
"She can just take off your jacket from her shoulder and throw it at you". And I was imagining the situation...
I wouldn't ask her if she wants the jacket, as she'd say no (because she would be trying to be polite).
What else can happen? Good and bad things, let's see both sides.
Should I take the risk?
Share your opinions with me, I'll need them!
Thanks.
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6 responses
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
10 May 07
I don't see anything bad or wrong in giving your jacket to a girl who is shivering (i do hope so) in a cold day or night. Beside if your intention is good I don't see anything wrong in this. So take the risk, there's nothing wrong with that. If she beg off in your politeness, then let it be, there will be another chance to do something to make her know how much you really cares for her. And I know someday she will see your concern and love for her, and who knows what will happen next.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
10 May 07
Man, nice words! You took off my fear of rejection about doing that action. Like you said, my intention is good, so there's nothing wrong with it!
Thank you very much. I'll take the risk.
@Palace_Girl (416)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Well, it is your choice. Take the risk, but please ask her first.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Apr 08
If I were you, I would say, you look cold, here take my jacket.Then put the jacket around her.That way you come across like the gentleman you are.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I am sorry. It just goes to show that she doesn't see that you are not a boy but you are a young man. I know this will hurt but she isn't the one for you. The woman for you will be able to see that you are aentleman , not a boy. She is out there.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Do'h I mean you are a gentleman, sometimes I just can't type.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
13 Apr 08
Thanks a lot, Sarah! I really appreciate what you said. Unfortunately, this girl does not care about me at all. She already said that she is looking for elder guys, and perhaps if I was older... I can't blame her, boys nowadays act like idiots.
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@VKXY62 (1605)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
Mate, I think if the girl has known you long enough to actually know you, and she is not interested and has said so. LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAID. There is nothing worse than someone that keeps pestering you. After a while you start to not think of them as a friend.
If you want to play the game, been seen with another nice looking gal, make sure you are having a good time with this other person, and don't act as if you are trying to get her attention (which you are), let her get curious about what she is missing out on. Be cheeky also, a bit naughty, not too much though.
If this doesn't work either, get on with your life. Never been seen as a woosy la la. Oh, oh, you don't love me, but I love you sooo much, you are beautiful, why don't you love me.
Waaaaaa!
Also be aware the female are experts in body language.
Two girls could sit in a room and not say a word, yet convey information between themselves.
Typical male hears no words spoken, so thinks nothing has happened. Think again. A woman can read your intentions and dreams, your character once you open your mouth, and will pigeon hole you according to your clothes, and whatever else she see's as hint and clues. A woman will trust her emotions and gut feelings 100% more than anything in the way of mere words you may choose to woo her with.
Don't blame women for this, they learned to do this in order to put up with us males.
A good looking gal will get attention from men all day long. She doesn't have to hit on a man. She just lets them do their dance and takes her pick.
Now think about it, do you get hit on by women wanting to go out with you?
Learn the game mate, then play.
Do you know what I am saying here?
K.
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@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 Jan 08
Hello!
Thanks for the nice response. Yet this is long ago, I can't give up of love. I just don't try, I just don't say anything anymore. I thought that we, in our life, could get everything with our effort. Hard work, I thought to myself. But then I learned that Hard Work tends to work more when it doesn't have two people involved. If it has somebody directly influenced behind that, you get less chances, because a slight mistake could mess things up. My mistake has been made, and I can realize it. I don't try, really. I'm not the most handsome guy, I consider myself ugly. So, you see, there aren't many girls chasing me.
Anyway, I can know everything she will say before she does. I can understand her words before they are spelled, but I still was without reaction. I decided that I can't just go and have whoever I want. Life is not like that, is it?
I always keep in mind that I need to learn. Everything provides a valuable lesson for me, and I could get the lesson from this.
I just couldn't understand your statement about the women wanting to go out with me. I really got confused on that, I didn't got that point.
But thanks for everything. Nice response!
@wraithstriderwife (938)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
i don't see any problem in what you're planning to do. i think there will be no risk for doing that. take your chance. good luck!
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@Palace_Girl (416)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Ok, first, why would you do that? Is it because she is your friend and you care or is it because even though she already made it clear, you are still hoping to gain her love?
On a girl's view, here is what I think she'll do. She won't take the jacket so please ask first. Don't just take it off and put on her shoulders. There are good reasons she won't take it besides from being polite, first she don't want to give you false hope, accepting the jacket means she want some part of you in her life and you might misinterpret it. Now, us girls care much of how we smell, we don't want to smell like a man by wearing a man's jacket unless that man is our hubby. And the act you want to perform is intimate, i think it is rude to put your jacket on her shoulders without asking her first, unless you are her man, which you are not.
You may have a good intention but consider her feelings. Ask her first, if she took it, then that is a good sign, but don't get your hopes to high, it might just be freezing cold. lol.
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@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
29 May 07
Nothing happened. I hadn't the chance. It would seem like second intentions, if I just left my place to put a jacket on her and then leave. Now, it's getting hotter everyday, the cold's leaving.
I talked to her, and she told me to forget her... In a friendly way. I asked if we could be friends, she said that yes. Maybe there is some way to convince her to give me a chance.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
10 May 07
When I think I could do it, a bad reply appears, lol. Well, I'll ask her first. She'll say no. Cool, I'll be there with a fool's face. Anyway, I must ask. It's from my person. I gotta ask her if she wants it xD
Darn it. Thanks for the response, anyway.
@shak143 (1280)
• India
10 May 07
Hi Friend there is nothing wrong in it to give your jacket to your freind though she knows that you love her and she dosen't.As a friend no one bares that his or her friemd is felling uneasy and he/she can make her comfort.That's the thing you are doing.You are making her comfort to set her from chill.
If she is really nice girl she won't throw your jacket she will understand that what your doing is as a friend.
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@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
10 May 07
Yeah, I got your point. I was thinking that way, but I don't want to run the risk. I'll ask her first, and she'll surely decline. That's for sure. But only if she is feeling cold, though.