If a friend lies about you, are they still your friend?

Hardly. I dealt with this situation for over a year in college and I got to the point I didn't want to deal with her anymore. She was my roommate and supposed best friend after all. She was providing me with a little bit of weekly income for gas after all, so I just tried to deal with the situation as best as I could, and try not to let the thing get to me, because I figured stress can really make people act differently and I hoped that stress was just causing her to act out. However, when the year began again and she started pulling the same kind of stuff, telling people that I was a good for nothing friend that did nothing for her, and that I controlled her life and everything she did, I got tired of it. Both of us held officer positions in a club and one day, she started screaming at me. All the tension between us had broken. I kept my cool and refused to stoop to her level. Eventually, the whole situation skyrocketed. The lies she told about me got worse, and not only that, she decided it would be nice to pass around my personal business as well.We got into a huge fight, she got really pissed and started packing, and that was that. So, she moved out and I haven't talked to her much then. It was too much for me to handle, and she drained my energy too much by being around. She was a really bad friend the more that I think about it and I make it a point to not get back to the friend status that we once had. It's not worth it, and I'm not going to let someone ruin my good name for their own fun. It's just not right and I won't stand by and let them do it.

O don't like confrontations either and will avoid them like the plague when necessary, but there are certain times I will, especially if I felt I was being walked all over on, used, taken advantage of--and the one thing I won't tolerate is someone lying about me. In my particular case the worse offender was my own mother...And that really hurt. During the last years of her life, she really came across as this woe-begone poor me victim type...she was a supreme actress to the outside world--I was the only one who knew what she was really like--oh joy. But it didn't get back to me just what a lier she was until this woman I knew who lived around the block.. When she lived there, Cherie and I were mildly friendly..ironically it wasn't until she moved to CA that we became very close and revealed all the lies my mother was dishing out to people, especially about me. She was telling people that "Oh, my daughter's agoraphobic she never leaves the house." Yes, I do have panic disorder with agoraphobia, and there was a time I was completely housebound, but that was years and years ago..I do still have a long way to recover from this but I'm not a basket case--I was starting to get a complex cause I would bump into people my mom and I knew and I couldn't understand why people would make such a fuss.."Oh I'm so glad to see you OUT here.." It was due to my mom passing me off as some kind of idiot..she also gave people the sense that I had never done anything in my life except stay at home stare at the four walls and contemplate my naval or some bizzare thing She never told anyone my success as a published photographer or my skills in craftmaking, etc..I mean imagine how it was with me to have my own mother lie like this--and you better believe I confronted my mother...almost on a daily basis---but it never seem to do any good..if anyone was staring at the four walls it was my mom.. So I don't know what the answer is...sometimes one DOES confront the person but what good does it do if it's not sinking in?

if this person has hurt you intentionally then this person cannot be a friend.no friend will even think about hurting the other even unintentionally.a friend may lie to the other playfully but in no way to cause hurt to the other.i think you need to let this friend of yours know you mean buisness and let them know what you feel.that is what i would do.

Sorry but I haven't been in that situation, but, like you I hate confrontations. In this case it seems like ignoring the person is not going to work so you may have to come right out and tell them that you don't want any further contact with them and either explain or not as you choose.

I'm the kind of person that likes to give people a second chance if we talk about it, and that person promises not to do it again. They need to also explain why they did something like that in the first place. But if they do the same thing over again, no way are the considered a friend to me. Lying is a big pet peeve of mine. I hate people that lie.

I feel sorry for u but I too like to ignore such a friend but before doing that I would prefer to ask an explanation from them...

I think you answered your own question in your post. Look at what you wrote about your relationship with this person. You stated that this person lied about you, that you are not very close to begin with (and from what you wrote it sounds like you might like to be closer but this person doesn't care), that your "friend" has placed you in a difficult situation before, and that your "friend" doesn't make you feel respected in the relationship by how you are spoken to. A true friendship is based on honesty, loyalty, equality, and caring. If this person were truly your friend, he / she would not be telling others lies and would not be making you feel worried or concerned about your place in the relationship. It sounds to me like this person is a user, someone who wants you to be his / her friend when they decide that you are needed. You sound like too good of a person to be someone else's doormat. I suggest you confront your friend about your feelings and if they are offended so be it. As I stated earlier, a true friendship is based on honesty and if you can't be honest with this person and share your feelings without running them off, you are better off without that person in your life. If this person leaves your life, find friends who really care about you. You deserve good friends who really care. Hope this helps.

If any of friend lies to me I shall confirm and double confirm that it has been done intentionally and not by some good resoning behind it.Once it confirmed that the person lied to me IT ceases to exist as my friend forever.

Have you thought about maybe sending the person an email? It's ALOT easier when you don't like confrontation to say how you feel and what you need to say over email!! I have had alot of "friends" back stab me and lie about me. That's when you know they are not your friend at all and you need to remove them from your life as they will only cause problems and DRAMA!!

If a friend lies about me, am not going to hate him, but our friendship will not be based on true friends, because true friends are those who will never condem themselves no matter the condition. I have never had cases like that, I mean I have mere friends, but my best friends are few. Have a nice day. Thanks.

I Dunno how to answer this question cause i wanna to say that's back to if that a habit on this friend and how is this lie... if it's in cheat... or in somthing important and this friends not always lier i dunt think that ill end ma relation with him... but if he did that and he is always lier ill end his friend immediatley

if it was done the first time, i would have considered and give him another chance. there might be reasons why he did that to me. however, if he will do it again, perhaps i will talk to himr and warn him and if he does not ask sorry for it, well i guess this is the time that we should separate ways.

I haven't experienced it that luckily but if a friend of mine did that to me and it really hurts me a lot then i will feel depressed and get mad at them. Never would talk to them ever again and maybe would not consider them as my friend.

The answer to this question depends if they lied for your good or to harm you.

i think it is no longer a friendhsip, it is a friends..t already you and your friend moved into the next level of being a friend.

This is a very common story.It happens with almost all people.The only thing you have to do in this situation is to give them space and let them what to do.Never let them feel that you are feeling bad.Just be normal towards them and also be somewhat nice to them.This will automatically change the persons attitude towards you.

absolutely not! i could forget everything bu if a friend lie that mean that 's not my friend and however it depend also from the situation!

I have a friend who betrayed me, she's actually a bestfriend for more than 15 years. It took a year when she asked sorry. But its not easy to fix everything up. I was betrayed, ive learned how to forgive but that doesnt mean ive learned how to forget,,, that wont be easy for someone to gain her trust especially if you've been hurt many times. Its takes a little longer to bring back the broken pieces again. Right now, everything is just casual between us... no ifs and buts... im not expecting that we can still be good friends as before...

yea is he or she lies about you u should give him or her a chance to clear out that y did she lie if it was for a bad reason as in he wanted to ignore u or get rid of u or ne thing ask tha friends what was da situttion that he was forced to lie was it genune or purposly done if it was genune thn plzz 4give it was not plzz kick on his or her back lol yea thats da only thing u can do he is ur friend o more if he has done purposly.....

If my fridend lied about me first time,i may think he had some reason that can't tell me or a good lies.I may forgive him.But he lied about me several times intentionally,i will keep out with him ,i can't seem him as my friend.