What do you think of a husband falling out of love with his wife?

Wow, I can't believe he had the nerve to tell her to stay because he might come back to her. I think your friend should file for divorce and move on. I feel for her, I know she loves her husband, but he doesn't love her and its cruel to make her suffer, hoping that he'll come back. What makes him think that its ok to go cheat on his wife but have her stay incase he doesn't find anything better?

Why she would stay is beyond me. I admire the husband as far as he was honest to tell her the truth but he has some nerve asking her to stay as he may decide he wants her back. If you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours and if they don't they weren't yours to begin with. Isn't that the saying. But I think that she should leave for the sake of her own sanity. I would drive myself crazy knowing that he was with her all the time and that he didn't love me anymore. I think she needs to get her own space and re-evaluate the situation. She needs someone who loves her and treats her well. No one deserves to hang around waiting for a man to decide if he loves her.

I know your friend is hurt, I would be too, but at least her husband was honest with her and she didn't find out some other way, or worse yet live a lie. If I were her I would think a seperation is in order, that doesn't mean you have to get a divorce. My hubby and I were having problems (there was no affairs involved though) and my family doctor reminded me that marriage is a continuous courtship, and for a marriage to survive you have to remember everyday why you fell in love in the first place. Maybe a marriage counselor is in order. Kids or not you shouldn't stay in a situation you aren't comfortable. Kids know when there are problems, and there's no favor being done by making yourself miserable for the "sake of the kids", many times it just creates more stress and heartache for them.

Oh My Gosh! He wants to have his cake and eat it too. This is a sad situation for your friend to be in and I wouldn't stick around to wait for him to change his mind and maybe fall back in love with her ?!?! I'm sorry to sound so harsh but she is going to hurt EVERYDAY, EVERY MINUTE, EVERY HOUR knowing full well that he is possibly no longer in love with her, or cares about his child, or the fact that he is seeing someone else. If she wants to endure the pain then thats her decision, and all you can really do is be supportive and be there for her, however ....if she wants to be happy and make a life for her and her son, she should leave or tell HIM to leave. Sometimes separation can be a good thing, even if it doesn't lead to divorce. Sometimes you need your own space, time to think things over etc. I would do that first and then decide from there. I would not remain in the house with him if he is feeling this way (but that is my opinion).

This is wow. I think when it comes to relationships that a person doesn't stop loving, but that the love changes to a different kind of love. He loves her, but probably not in the way that he should. he probably loves her for being the mother of his child, or just because she is the one who puts up with his bull. No matter what i still do not believe in anyone having to hurt. She should do what make her happy, and if staying there is not doing I think it's time that she move on. I wish the friend the best of luck for whatever decision that she chooses to make.

oh i dont believe that there could be such a heart on earth .................

Well first of all this guy is an idiot! I guess that you can fall out of love...but he didn't have to cheat on her...that is unforgiveable. I feel sorry for this woman and the child involved in this mess. I really think that they should separate. This idea that he may want her back...that is absurd. He either wants their marriage or he doesn't...and she needs to carry on with her life with her and her son without him....

Even if he evetually "comes back" to her, can she really live with that kind of betrayal? i know I could never do that. I would have left him and filed for divorce. he obviously has no respect at all for her and the life they share...

Appears that he is asking her, in other words, to give him permission to have his little affair and he will return to their relationship when he is done, that's why he's aking her to say and be there for him later on. No way, he doesn't deserve this and she should not allow this either. Shame on him!!! If she allows all the respect ofr her is gone, the trust os no longer there. She might choose to remain in the same house because of their child but she should end the relationship.

Well, I must say that I am amazed that her husband asked her to stay even after telling her that he doesn't love her anymore. I believe that he may love her but that it is in a different way. I personally believe that love changes over the years and that it sometimes feels like the love isn't even there. I know that my husband and I have been through a lot of struggles over the years and that sometimes I wonder if I still am in love. I know that I love him and that I can't imagine living without him in my life and yet sometimes, I just wish he would go away. I don't have the same feelings that I did when we first got married, but I do still love him. Your friend needs to leave if she is hurting and if he is treating her badly. She has to know that she could always ask for counseling and if he won't go then she will know it is over for sure and she can leave!!

One side love is difficult but your friend since having a child with her husband should be encouraged to persevere and endure the challenge. She will be the winner at long last. What i'd advice her to do is that, she should study her husband very well and learn his favours and dislikes. what does she do and her husband rebukes her? what does her husband like? fashion women?, talkatives?, quiet? and what have you. these are just some examples. she should try to change her like style and observe her husband's attitude. this is my know how though single.

i am sorry to hear that the husband absent treatment with your friend,it can be called a family abuse,it is unluck for the children when their parents have a bad relationship and unpeace,the most harm is also the children when their parents divorce.so in order to give chilren a good family environment,the parent must be well and do not have contradiction.

Leave him. She is not only a wife, a mom , but also a individual. I know she must lose lots of things if she leave her husband. And she will have a hard time in the future, but she can do herself. When a woman and a man love each other, they are two different individuals, then they want to marry each other to become an individual. Usually, a woman will give up her personality and do everything for her family. At last, her husband no longer love her. Some couples can live together without love, but some wants to be free. Who will love a person without his/her personality?

This is so irritating... I mean how can the guy be so selfish.. I mean if u r doing the person wrong, at least let her go... Argh... I heard of a story... True life though... A guy falling in love with his maid and forces the wife to accept and in public, he kisses the maid and expects the wife and child to take it... Of coz the wife cried non stop and the wife bro told the guy either to sent the maid back or prepared to be jailed... The guy sent the maid back but later said they wanna divorce... Coz he loves the maid and wanna marry her... This is so killing people... The man is in his late-50s... N the maid is early 20s... True love? I doubt so... I mean theres many possibilites... But i wouldnt wanna think its pure love... Also, the worse thingy is... The guy brings the maid to the room and asks the wife to bring the children down and dun be back so early... How hurting... I guess a happy marriage requires maintenance and the couple to fall in love with each other over and over again...

It's got to be something in the air. I personaly know 3 people that are going throu a divorce. Out of the 3. One the wife said she was falling out of love with her husband, the 2nd one the husband said he just did not want to be married anymore and the 3rd one the husband was cheating on the wife. I say once a cheater always a cheater.. If my husband ever cheated on me it would take some serious councling and alot of time to build trust up again if ever

Yes, it's possible... With husband and wife. I think. A human character are misterious... Fullness of feel factors. We are not machine equipaments!

I think its an excuse for them wanting to fool around. I think that saying should be banned. Falling in love is something that just happens..... while staying in love actually takes work for any 2 people. You have to work at it every dayto keep love alive. It doesn't just happen. And I think men and woman alike find it easier to just have that beginning love is easier that actually working at what they already have. The easy road is not always the right one. As at some pint even in a new relationship they will eventually have to work at that too. Thats why alot of people just jump from relationship to relationship the begging usually requires alot less effort.

now a days these inter relationship with the other people is growing so keeping this is mind we should not loose out individuality so better left her out

Quite natural as a wife falling out of love with her husband; but it is not as bad as it sounds. Really they each just got bored with the love thing and falling out of the newness and entertaining the sustainability level is work and lacking fun, or so it seems. Find a way for both of you to enjoy being 'in love' as well as enjoying loving certain qualities about each other. It is not always going to be wonderful, happy, joyous and intimate; but there will be love in it. Be creative and if all else fails and still being in-love is no more a happy way of existing, then by all means don't torture each other, fall out, and either never look back or just stay friends, whatever is best for you !

This happens all the time, people grow apart , but she should not wait for him to may or may not come back. She may love him but she needs to keep her dignity and not allow him to treat her this way. He stayed in the house too ? If so take the boy and leave or kick him out.