What is the purpose to “request as a friend” ?

i have the same situation as you before.i don't know if it is right to remove them,but i do do that.those who never respond to my topics,i will remove them,after a peroid of time.and i don't know if they can be called a friend if they don't communicate with me,they care nothing about me and all they want is just one more reply from me,maybe they even didn't look at it,so why i bother myself this kind of thing? i remember a guy who i replied his topics several times,and he added me every time after i responded his topics,at first i approved,and kept replying his,but then,a long period later,he care nothing about me,so i remove him,then he added me again,i approved...over again,now,i delete him directly. and sometimes i do skip some of my friends' topics,coz i don't know about that topic or cannot think out what to say,but not always.i hope that would not bother my friends. i support you to do that.

I don't expect anyone on my friends list to respond to a discussion on mine unless they want to. I don't think they should respond to everything I post just because they're on my list. you don't have any duty to join in with your friends discussions anymore so than another persons discussion. if I request someone as a friend it's because I like the sort of things they post, or their opinions, or their views. I can use the "discussions my friends started" to make it easier to find their discussions, as I've chosen them for having interesting views, so they are likely to post something that interests me. this means I am less likely to miss it. I don't respond to everything they post, just what I would have responded to if I saw it while browsing. similarly I'm not offended if they don't respond to my posts. if they want to post, they'll post. if not, they won't. if someone requests me, I approve it. I've deleted a few after approving them when they've turned out just spamming my messages. but I wouldn't delete someone for not responding to my discussions. what's the point responding to a post you have no opinion on.

LOL...You tell me. Thats exactly what happens to me. Only a tiny percentage respond to me, if any but I make sure that I respond to their discussions. OR they start discussions a day after I have on the same subject yet different wording. It is so annoying.

I approve all friend requests that come to me. I'm happy that others are interested in my discussions and comments. Me, I invite people who are from my country and those whose discussions and interests I liked. I like to respond to my friend's discussions because chances are, we're on the same page. They're most welcomed to reply back but I don't expect all of them to do so. Mylot is a very huge community and if they don't, im sure, others will. Cheers! Happy Posting :)

I think this is fairly common as a lot of people here purely to make money. Many of them just post topic, after topic after topic and never reply to anyone else's discussions, or often even to the people who have replied to them in topics they have started. I periodically remove friends, who are not benefiting me at all. That is to say they don't come and post in my discussions, or respond to me when I post in theirs. Don't feel bad, find the good ones and stick with them. :)

Friends exchanges messages and poit of views. Participate in each others discussions, except if you have nothig to say or add. Guess you should mail them asking how's going and what's happenning, maybe even invite them to take part in some discussion you have at the moment. If there is no response at all, why should you keep them?

I only answer discussions which interset me, I do try to respond to friends discussions but sometimes I have nothing to say on a subject and don't really feel the need to answer with 'I don't know'.

Different people will have different perception about the meaning of "friend" in mylot commnunity. For normal case, we should accept those who have interaction with us as friends. In mylot those "friend" will be able to send personal message and comment on photos. So we should allow those who are familiar to us to send us message and comment on our photos. It's really annoying when we receive junk message or soliciting links of their money making sites. (I had received a few too of these too!) But so far I rarely reject request to be my friends because I handle it in a lenient way. End up I just found one problem with it, I lost count of how many "real friend" in my long list of them :)

i never expect them to reply to my discussions because i know it will never happen.. only few people do so.. some of them are not working here they just signedup and went out of mylot but i do reply to my friend's discussions at times... usually i add people from my place to know about mylot... i felt they would help me better in my mother tongue.. thats all no other motive to have net friends...

if the attitude of your friends online has become annoying to you, then by all means go ahead with the deletions. these online friends are supposed to be responding to our discussions as we respond to theirs. i have noticed, too, that there are some who would like to become a friend to be assured of responses to their discussions. they post so many discussions in a day, and then you will find out that they hardly comment on the responses that they get. then they also hardly make responses to the discussions of others. these are selfish people who would best be erased from our friends. on this regard, i agree with you.

The purpose to request as a friend is to gain more friends and it is a way to communicate or to show or tell them that you want or like them to be your friend or you like them.And its a nice thing to have more friends request here.

I ask a person to accept me as a friend and fully intend to participate in their future discussions. But it is sad when they don't do the same. So the ones I have accepted as friends after I have gone to the ones that have been responding to my discussions and than go to my interest discussions, and go to the different areas such as discussions with no responses. Only after all that if I still am in the mood to answer discussions will I go to the ones who have requested for me to put them on my friend list and I accept and that is as far as they go. They don't respond to my discussions than if I get around to it I will read their discussions. It is a two way street. I have requested a handful of friends and go to their discussions and respond. I guess everyone doesn't look at it the same way.

the first thing that I do when I'm on my Lot,is reading the section "discussion my friends started",and I try to read all the discussion of my friend.It doesn't matter if they don't read my discussions,I like more to read discussions than to write them.So it's the way I use MyLot

It is pity without responding to our friends discussions.Yhere must be a mutual understanding between the friends.In my case i have send many friend requests but many of them are not responded to my request.

I have also experience this. And just recently I am wondering why they would request to add them to my friend's list when they do not participate to any of my discussions, much more, I respond to them and do not even get any comment at all. So, I am thinking it is just a one way relationship so to speak. Before, I have never thought of deleting any friends in my list. I always thought the more the merrier. I would also like to clarify that others who request my friendship even though not responding to my discussions yet, but I find their topics interesting and respond to them and in return they also reply back, and so there would be staedy dialogs between us, that is cool with me. At least there are responses, each of us responding, and that is good with me even only on her discussion part. I guess given time, there would be others who would voluntarily respond to my discussion and I guess no harm in keeping them in my list. But I really appreciate those friends who take time to really respond and one of them is you. Thanks and you are much appreciated.

So we can share ideas

I am bit thinking too why i got lots of friend's request and most of them were not even joining my discussion. I am really confuse if they are requesting to make friends. But i think they just want to add you so if ever your email notification is on, you will be notified that your friend has started his/her own discussion. I guess i will be deleting them in my list too, i find it annoying sometimes and i would like to retain those i already know and who is truly a friend of mine.

And my friend..i have brought this topic live after seven months..haha.. Surely having friends here is a two a process.. i take sometime to go to the profile and see that if at all i could respond a handful of topics of all my friends,every now and then.. But most of my friends have not started any topic for a long time.. Apart from this,their is every chance that this virtual friendship blossoming in to a real good friend of life.. Take care friend.

To tell you frankly, Ikbooi, I've started cleaning my friends list. I remove those who have been inactive for some months and I'm sure they don't do Mylotting anymore based on their long absence. But with regards to those who made a request for me to add them up in my friends list, and just stopped there, I'm still giving them some chance. As of now, I'm checking each profile and the discussions made by them. I particularly like to dig up old discussions especially those who only has two or three responses. In that way, I'm helping their old discussions come alive again and open for others to easily spot and respond to. There is one particular member who only added me up but never ever bothered to reply to any of my discussions. And never even bothered to comment back on my responses to his his discussions. But still, in fairness to him, he had made good discussions and it was kind of interesting to answer in one of those.

for me..i added a friend so i could easily browse their discussion and respond to it. im new here so i havent experience the annoyance uve been through. maybe u could send them a message or let them know that ur going to erase them[isnt it polite? hehehe]