Did i do a bad thing?

I don't think you were wrong to drop a hint. Your his mother, you made him who he is. I think the least he could do is arrange for you to visit or arrange to visit you. I say take them, but be gracious. Let hom know how much it meant to you. Let him know how much you apreciate it. But no, I don't think you were wrong. If i hit my kids up for money for anything (wich is rare) I don't feel guilty at all. After all of the thouisands i poured into them over the years.

Hi, mssnow! It's nothing wrong for you to be honest to your son. That's OK! You are the closest people in this world! He should be very happy he has a honest mother and just say"thank you for telling me that, mom,now I don't have to think what to buy you just gave me the answer. " mssnow, don't feel bad on these tinny things. He just doesn't understand that now.I remeber when I was in college, I also don't know how to care about my mother. In addtion, he is a boy, he can't be as careful as girls. Maybe he is very busy or he is in bad mood. So, don't take it too serious, he loves you so much!

No, you didn't do anything bad. There's nothing wrong in you dropping hints on what you would really like for Mother's Day. Plus, it's not like you're asking for something frivilous or way too expensive for him. It's sad that he doesn't want to do anything special for you and that all you were going to get was just a phone call.

I'm sorry to hear about what happened, mssnow. I don't know the extend of your relationship with your son. I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing. After all, mothers like to visit their children from time to time. Your son may be in a sour mood or he just don't understand yet the importance of being together on Mother's Day. It may not be as festive as the Christmas holiday, but it is a day that all mothers are looking forward to. There is nothing for you to be guilty about. It isn't everyday that we are asking for something from our children.

Hi,mssnow! You were not wrong to ask and your son is honest to tell you about his plan.I believe he was really going to call you.Since he is still a student,that's enough.It doesn't necessarily mean your son doesn't love you. Usually a boy doesn't know how to thank his mother until he sets up his own family and has his own children. If I were you, I wouldn't get unhappy and would forget it.Cheer up!

I feel really sad about what your son did to you. You've devoted all your time and love to him but he did this thing so rudely in return on such important occasion for a mother. How cruel he is to do so. But on the other hand, if I were you, I would not tell my child about that. I don't like any present sent by asking for it. In one sense, it's kind of forcing others to do what they haven't thought of doing.

Well I agree with everyone else...lol It's wasn't anything you said or did. I think that he had something in his mind about mother's day and when you said that...he just responded like a little kid without even thinking...lol I know said similar things to my mom in past years...and then wanted to cut my tongue out afterwards... If he normally is not like that then chances are he wants to forget it but I'm sure he will get you some tickets...hehe

Ok, this is a really difficult one. We all know once you say something you can't take it back so we have to deal with what has already been done. I don't myself think what you said was wrong. I mean I would much rather receive a gift I would truely enjoy than something I didn't want or need. Christmas I told my daughter if she was going to get me something I really really needed new socks - and told her the kind I liked best. LOL - she got me a package of socks and a beautiful candle holder which I love also. Ok, what's done is done so I would say since this is what you truely wanted, tickets, if he does get them I think you need to use them and enjoy every second on your trip. Don't let this situation spoil it. What you might do is wait a bit of time to use the tickets when things have smoothed over a bit - I know often you can turn tickets in for vouchers to use later.

it wasn't wrong to ask. after all, he's your son and that he should think of the things you have done for him. but then again, maybe when you talked to him he was thinking of a problem and that you asked him for tickets during a bad time. and is this resolved already? what happened?

Nope you are not wrong, you were giving hime a hint, he may took it the wrong way or misunderstood you.Don't feel quilty he may have been thinking about what he did for closing the AIM. MAybe things willblow over and he'll call you on Mother's Day.

Well snow honey I don't think you did anything wrong - you didn't tell him that he had to get you the tickets after all - it was just a nice way of saying if you are getting something I would like this instead of him spending money on something that you wouldn't use! You know what boys are like - give him a little while to cool down and realise how selfish and churlish he seemed and he will be speaking to you and apologise in no time! Don't get upset as this will only make it seem worse! Open up that aim window and speak to him when he logs in - I am sure everything will be ok! Thinking of you sweetie! xx

As the mother of a soon-to-be college student, I don't think you did anything wrong at all. Is it wrong to expect your children to acknowledge you on mother's day? I don't think so. If he feels guilty about it, then that's his problem, not yours. Maybe he needed to be reminded that you deserve a little something special too. Afterall, who's paying for college?

Heavens, no I don't think you did a bad thing! He should get yuo something an he should be delighted that you made it so easy for him to know exactly what to get you that wlould make you happy. I am sure once he thinks about it he will realise the error of his ways.

is very simple ok.you just ned to call him,ask him to change his mind,and buy you another thing insted of ther ticket.ok. if he is really your son he will understand that you did not need the ticket anymore.anthonyreal from nigeria. thanks

No Sweetie you did not do wrong at all I think your Son had a bad attitude there to be honest with you I mean my Kids always ask what I want but I have said to them before now if you are getting me something ... and they relied ok Mum So it was your Son who had the attitude there not you Sweetie And yes let him buy them out of Guilt and I hoe it has taught him a Lesson

Nooooooo, you didn't do a bad thing. Kids are funny... he may have had something in mind to buy you, and you shot down his idea by suggesting something else. Naturally, he wouldn't tell you that, but now he feels that whatever he had in mind for you, was not good enough, possibly, and he's hurt that he didn't select what you really would like. He may even have bought a gift but now feels you won't enjoy receiving it. I would tread softly, but talk to him again on MSN, disregarding the bus tickets and Mothers' Day, or simply tell him that a call would be great... the bus tickets don't matter too much... it was just a thought if he was going to buy something, but no big deal. Make your peace with him. He's at a tetchy age, but treated with kid gloves, he'll come around and he'll be fine. Brightest Blessings for a Happy Mothers' Day, my friend.

well, if you are anything like my mother, she would have dropped that hint and then if I didn't do it then she would have been mad. This being the same woman who says "you don't need to get me anything" and god forbid the one time i didn't she flipped lol. maybe he just felt forced.

That is horrible what he said to you. Like it would kill him to get you something? I know more mothers who have sons, and it is the same thing with them too. Even my own brother. It makes me sick. I don't think you were out of line at all. I don't blame you for not wanting to accept them now. You should tell him to take them back, because he obviously isn't sincere, and you don't want a gift that is not coming from the heart. I am sorry that happened. Doesn't make a nice mothers day for you.

u need not to feel guilty...actually it depends on ur son. ur son might not be serious to thse type of occasions. or he might not be serious to u. whatever be the reason he should not do like that. now u should not take that tickets so that he can feel what he has done.

I am sorry mssnow that you are unhappy with your son. I am not suggesting that you did a bad thing or that your son is wrong. I am only trying to help seeing things from another angle. This is my interpretation if you were the mother and I am the son in Seattle. Your son did not think of buying you anything but planned to call you. By telling him what you wanted is equivalent to indirectly telling him you want him to buy a ticket. Perhaps by making this request, it puts some pressure on your son as he could also be a bit tight or did not want you to visit him. Some mis-communication has occurred. You probably missed your son badly and wished to see him such that you can suggest he buy you a ticket if he is getting anything for you. The question lies in "IF he is getting anything for you". It puts him on the defensive mode and hence trigger his response to you which made you angry.