Same OR Better

I am not a parent myself but I do appreciate the enormous effort my parents put into bringing up myself and my brother even though they had to balance that with working hard in a "foreign" (to them) country. Both my parents are very strong personalitities and I don't think I would be as well organised and be able to maintain the discipline needed to do as good a job.

My dad was a wonderful example, and I tried to be like him. My mom did her best, but, I tried not to do the same things she did. But, parents will still make mistakes, as there is no book on the right and wrong ways to raise a child. Parents are just people, haveing babies, loving them, and doing the best that they can.

I had hoped when we found out my wife was pregnant with our first child that I could and would be a much better father than mine was towards me. I was raised in a very physically and verbally abusive household. My father beat us children and berated us verbally. This carried on until I finally ran away from home at 13 years old. Now I don't hate my father for this as this was the way he was raised. People learn as they were taught. This had to be changed in my familys values and ways & I decided I'm not raising my children the way I was. I hardly hit them and hardly berated them. They have grown up great and I feel I did one hell of a job in doing this. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

I don't think I can be a better parent than mine, as they are good traditional parents. Katalavenis lol. But some of the pitfalls and mistakes that all parents make, even my parents are trying to advise me not to make. So for me it is a bit of both. I want to take the good things from them and try to learn even though their mistakes. But with a divorce behind me and a new husband in a different country and me having to run around all the houses doesn't make me at the moment the ideal parent. I want a stable home with my husband and son..like every normal family, then I can make a valid assessment to see how I am doing as a parent. At the moment my life sucks stability wise and I have to be very patient, wait and see.

I think its a little of both. My parents were really good parents. But there are a few things they did that i would never do. But in the long run I would like to be as good of a parent as they were. I try to teach my kids the same values that my parents taught me.

oh my dear friend, I think my parents are among the most beautiful parents one would like to have and I wish I could be just like them..they devoted their entire life to us and no matter how much work they had or how busy they was, we were always their first thought and their greatest concern..they raised us with love and discipline and they taught us by their example more than by rivers of words...they are always there for us when we need them but they helped us to be indipendent and complete people..they are special people and i love them

it is a very hard question , because i say i will be there friend , and i will be always there , no spanking , no loud voice but my friend keep telling me that they said that before but they can't do it now , but i still hoping a good friendly , smart polite children and i will keep my word .

i feel, my parents are just apt and i have never found them doing anything wrong drastically. as a child, i remember my mom to be quite strict and we would think twice before doing anything actually. my father is the more benign sort who we have always found engrossed in his work. as we grew up, we have seen a tranformed mummy. in our teens, she was as a perfect balance between ridigity and relaxation. now, my parents kind of give priority to our decisions and the best part being, they are not hesitant to correct them if we say theu are. they are eager to learn new things and are good students. needless to say, they are just perfect and i couldnot have a more good parents than them. thanx aidonia for anice post.

If I'm half the mother that my Mom was, I think my kids will turn out ok. My Dad is a wonderful father. Always there for all of us. I used to say as a child that I would not be anything like my Mom when I was angry with her for not allowing me to do something or whatever but have found that I raise my children the same way she did.....only, I don't have her patients or her strong will. My lil one can outlast me sometimes LOL I could never outlast my mother in a power struggle. I was very lucky to be born to my Mom and Dad. We didn't have a lot of material things growing up but it really didn't matter that much. We had plenty to eat, a good roof over our heads and more love,attention, understanding and fun than we knew at the time. My parents set a very good example to try to live up to. I sometimes wonder if I'm capable.

hi aidonia! when i think of my parents i see them separately, my father is a good provider and has never abandoned us even now that i have afamily of our own, we still help each other in times of crisis. But with my mother, its a different thing, i think i can be a better mother than her. She was still very young when she had me and maybe she has not really enjoy her teenage life and got into a married life very early on and she had me when she was just 18 and with no college degree. Back then we were very poor and she has very limited resources. All in all i think im lucky that i have parents like them because they were able to send me to school and also 2 sisters. Now im a working mom and i have limited time with my daughter and im really hoping to change things before my daughter starts to notice that im not around most of the time.

Hello! Aidonia ! Very interesting question. We cannot be like our parents. We find that our parents were far mature and experienced than us. They were very nice in bringing us up. Since I and my wife both are working...we find difficulty in bringing up our children. We cannot provide such love and affection as say my mothers used to shower on us, because she was a house-wife. Then the demands of generations always go on the higher side, I mean to say that our children expect more than us, what we used to expect from our partents. We cannot fulfill all their expectations, so we may not be an idle partent in view of our children. In our view, we try our best to be a good parent and we try to provide all the facilities and necessities of life, which we can. deepak

My parents were superb. They gave me all their best even though they had a hard time raising us. We too do them proud by becoming useful adults contributing positively to the society and family. Of course, they too do make mistakes, who don't in the first place. lol. I am not sure if I can be better parents than them, but I certainly do and will try my best to be as good as them.

When someday I'll become a parent, I'll try to become as good as a parent as my own parents. Since my parents are soooooooo good but I will try to avoid mistakes that my parents made.