More and more pregnant teenagers!

I heard a story on a teenager from my friend.The girl,we can call her Wi.When she found there was a baby inside her,and she had to abort the baby.Wi had no money,and she couldn't tell her parents about her pregnancy,so she asked her friends for money.Of course she couldn't tell her friends that she was pregnant,she just told them that she need money for her mother's operation.Wi is my friend's dormmate and my friend found something wrong with her.Wi had to tell the truth to my friend and asked my friend for help.My friend sent her to the hospital for the abortion operation and took care of her for several days.But Wi's boyfriend didn't come to the hospital to see her and disppeared in Wi's world.Wi was alone,hopeless and sick for a long time.She regretted that she agreed to her boyfriend's requirement on .... As a pregnant teenager,Wi suffered the pain on body and spirit.

Well I had my daughter when I was 14. She is now almost 16 years old. Still lives with me as she always has. I also have 3 boys. All of which I had before I was 20. My daughter was the cause of rape. I was not going to abort. Im not a murderer. I have raised her along with the help from my mother. Yeah I may not have had freedom to go out and do all the stupid crap kids did back then, but I matured very quickly and raised my kids the best I knew how. As for my friends, they were right beside me 100% and did things with me and my children. The father of the boys has never been around for them. My youngest will be 10 next week so I figure I only have 8 years left and I will still be young enough to go out and have fun "legally". So I dont really feel anythig fr the teenagers who are pregnant. They knew exactly what they were doing when they got themselves into the situation they are in. They need to deal with it what ever way they know how. I did and my children turned out pretty good if I say so myself.

you are correct when you say they might not know what they're missing. I feel pitty for the pregnant child because how can a child take care of a child. i think she's not that equipped to take care of another innocent child. proper guidance will really help them in this difficult times.

It is a bad situation. It's so hard because it seems that in today's society, teenagers are pushed to be more and more mature, but they're still children themselves. And, the worst part is, if they choose to go through with the pregnancy and then keep the child after they give birth, there is a additional strain on the whole family. There are some teenagers that take full responsibility themselves, but most of the ones I knew growing up basically just gave birth to their own little "brother" or "sister". The parents of these teenagers tended to become the caretakers. In most cases (the ones I knew) the teenager's parents actually adopted the child themselves. It's difficult to have a child when you aren't prepared. It's especially difficult to do so when you're a child yourself! (Of course, a baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances...)

I feel sad and somehow angry to the guy who took advantage of the girl's weakness. I always have these questions how and why the girl let the guy took advantage of her? I used to think that maybe it's the person's family. Maybe the parents are too strict or so busy and do not have time for their children. But now i'm thinking otherwise. I've a niece who got pregnant before she turned 18. Everybody in the family were very shocked because she has a very supporting parents, even supported the relationship. The fetus was weak so she had a miscarriage. After that her parents talked to my niece to try to break the relationship for the time being. They ask her to just finish her studies then if she still want it she can marry her boyfriend. She actually agreed but after a few months she got pregnant again. We didn't know that they were secretly seeing each other. The first time we were thinking it was unfortunate but the second time we don't know anymore. Luckily, my niece has a very supportive family. We accepted the situation, give her the support but we certainly did not accept the boyfriend. Right now he is definitely out of the picture.

I feel sorry for them, you have already explained the after-effects of teenagers having a baby. Teenagers having babies will not have much freedom or else they'll have to sacrifice their babies for freedom and they will be into a situation where you'll have to choose one. Although rate of teenagers having babies is lot low in our region than in other regions of world. So I have seldom come across to witness. I'm just assuming and giving my comments based on it.

I know..I know many girls were pregnant when i was in high school and that was in 1991..now adays the number has tripled or more.and its just soo sad.they have no idea the amount of work that goes into babies..they are cuet and thats all they know and think its all about..Soo i was talking to my g/f the other day and we were talkig about this too..her niece is prego..if i had a daughter..as soon as she hit her cycle..i would have her get the depo impnat or whatever else shots they have for pregnancy and also have the talk and about use of condomns,,and pray she uses them..but id rather her get an STD than prego.. actually neither but..a child having a child..noo..wayyy..at least i could make sure that wouldnt happen//.or a greater chance it wont happen..i have a boy hes 4 and whne that tiem hits im gonna find the loudest crying baby and make him spends lots of time with it to show him that not protecting himself..this is what he wowul dbe in store for,,,and mothers of girls should do the same..maybe that would be a wake up call eh?

I think it is worse when a teenager gets pregnant because where are they going to get the money and time to take care of a child. They are still in school or should be in school getting an education so they can get a good job and have children later when they can afford to have them. Many teenagers are still immature and are not ready for the responsibilities of being a parent. It also does take away from their free time with friends and doing other things.

Well, if they don't realize how much work having a baby is going to be they will shortly realize it. I got pregnant at 16, but I gave birth at 6 months. My body just wasn't ready for that type of trauma. I realized very early on that I had a long row to hoe and it wasn't going to be easy at all! Not many kids understand that, until it is to late and they are pregnant. There is no social life, no more fun, just baby bottles and bonding. It is so hard to convey that to teens, they think they know it all!

I was 17 when I had my daughter and 19 when I had my son. I have never felt like I missed out on something. THey were and are percious gifts from God. I wouldnt change a thing even if I could. They are now 27 and 25. Both my kids graduated with Honors from school and went to a Christian college after graduation. THey are both fantastic adults. I love them with all my heart.I dont think bad thoughts when I see a pregnant teen it's not my place to judge. I know alot of older people who are lousy parents,I dont think age plays a factor in it.

It is such a shame to see so many young girls having babies, i agree. I think, here in australia, the money the government offers has a lot to do with it. And it doesnt always get spent on the babies. Then they are eligable for a pension. These girls are handed all this money, it looks good, but then that child starts growing up. You then see a lot of grandparents then helping out and looking after them. I know of a few cases like this. I feel for the children, some are having a terrible upbringing. I know there are some that look after there child very well. But you dont see too many. My daughter is 20. Luckily she has no intention of having a baby yet, as she wants to have a career and something behind her before she has children, so she can give them a good life. If one of my children were to have a child while young, i would support them, but i hope they dont, as i want them to enjoy being young.

I feel sad for those teenagers who are judged. Alot of people associate pregnant teenagers with being careless, stupid. What about the teens who were raped..or the ones that took all the safety precautions but somehow it didnt work? I know being pregnant at that age is just horrible and sad to see. But whenever I see a teenage who has a child, and see that the child is healthy and happy and that the teen is being a great mother, it just totally gives me a whole new respect for young mothers. Not all of them should be judged becuase there are alot out there who are doing everything they can. A guy in my grade (11) has a child, and the child is one and a half, the guy is young and so is his girlfriend, but that child is the happiest toddler you'll ever see. I admire people who can work things out even if the odds are against them.

Hm, what do I think when I see a pregnant teenager.... I think "Wow look at that. Another life being brought into the world, congrats to the female." Quite honestly, what are they missing out on? A few nights of drinking so hard they can't remember where they were? Or maybe dating that guy down the street who hates kids? Oh but what's even worse, they're forced to be responsible, mature, caring adults. Gee that's awful. My point is, a child is always a good thing regardless of the situation. And having a baby will either bring out your worst or your best, pray it's your best. They'll still have social lives, they'll just need to learn balance and time management, skills that benefit anyone. And yes it's hard as hell, but going through difficulty now builds the character they'll need later, when trying to get that job or that promotion or something else they want. It definitely puts your priorities in place. And once they see their child, I can pretty much guarantee you that while they'll miss a few things of their pre-pregnancy life, they wouldn't trade it for the world. I wouldn't.

Pregnant teenagers just gave in to temptation. Maybe they have no parents guiding them on the reality of this world. Me, as a parent, I will try my very best to educate my child about what the future brings when she will do this and that. Just guide your teenagers and pray for them always. :)

I actually don't feel sorry for teens that get pregnant because they made that choice. They are perfectly capable of understanding the consequences and can control themselves. I also don't feel that just because a teen has a baby her life has to be over. My best friend had her daughter at 17. She had a pretty normal life after that. She graduated high school weeks before her baby was born premature. She went to college, graduated and is now a high school teacher. She dumped the father of her daughter right after the baby was born because he wanted nothing to do with the baby. But got back together with one of her exes who was a good "father" to her daughter. He wasn't a complete father because he refused to do some of the fatherly stuff (like change diapers and things) but he looked after her and babysat sometimes and liked to hang out with her. She also had a social life and went out with her friends (had a fake idea and sneaked into clubs and stuff like other college kids). She also babysat for her cousins to earn extra money to buy things for her and the baby that she wanted to get. She is 25 now. Her daughter will be 8 next month and she is my hero. Her daughter is one of the smartest kids I know and is a wonderful little girl. She is best friends with my almost 7 year old daughter. My daughter was actually born the day after her 1st birthday and they are more like sisters then friends. My friend is the greatest mother I know and I wish I could be more like her. I was 23 when my daughter was born. I never finished college and have no life. She is living the dream life right now with a career, great boyfriend (she broke up with the other guy and now has another great guy that she has been with for 2 years) and a wonderful daughter. Her only problem is she still lives with her parents in a 2 bedroom house so she has to share a room with her daughter, lol. But she is saving up a lot of money to buy her own house that way.

As you so aptly stated, I immediately think of the teen's own lost experiences. Their own years of teen fun and growth are being stripped from them. SAdly, so many teen girls view having a child as a 'romantic' thing and being a mom is almost like 'playing house' to them. They really don't see the 24/7 job of motherhood and the fact that there is no turning back. It is a forever committment. One of my daughter's friends is pregnant and she is all aglow and excited. I really don't think that the fact that she will now forgo college (at least for the fall semester), a planned summer trip abroad, and many other things that she had earned. Of course, the grandparents will end up having to do a lot of babysitting if this little girl is to go to college (now it will have to be locally instead of the university to which she had been accepted that is 5 hours away). So very sad.

It's funny to kick them in the womb.

I think becoming pregnant is a blessing from God. However my statement is relative, since a teenager becoming a mom might consider it otherwise. Teenagers become pregnant out of curiousity. Also because most of their parents are both absent, busy making money thru over time. Its always good for parents to stablish an open communication relationship with the children. This way they can discuss things and see to it that their children are in the right path to success.