i feel sad because my 4yr old is starting school in september...thoughts?

look its just because you never let her out without you and you always kept her close to you physically and mentally , if you continue to do this just think would you like your most dearest daughter to not move forward in life you probably wont so let her go make her studies and when ever you feel sad just think that by doing that you are killing your own daughters future and i hope you will not feel sad anymore just think i hope you overcome this feeling :D

You aren't alone. I just sent my 4 year old off to school this September gone by. I cried so badly for the first week. He was happy and when he would be getting ready to go in the morning he said "mommy don't cry, I'm a big boy, I'm going to school and I will come home and we will have fun. I will be right back." Which of course made me cry more. You do get used to it. I would get all of the housework and day to day stuff done while he is gone and then when he is home we are inseparable. I am watching him turn into quite the little man.

My son is 5 and he will start kindergarden this year in August. As the days go by I feel sad sometimes at the same time happy. I am going to miss him so much but it will be a good miss. Really I think that I am going to cry when he goes to kindergarden for the first time. I am not going to let him see me cry. He is excited about going to school. My baby is growing up.

Oh dear, you sound just like me 11 years ago. When I registered her school, it was mixed emotions. She was registered in April, turned 5 that July, then went to school in August. At that time I only planned on just her, so I planned on getting a small job during the hours that she was in school. God had other plans, I found out I was pregnant a day before my birthday and my daughter's. So I spent most of daughter's school year pregnant. It was one interesting school year. I also can't forget the first day of school, when I cried because she wouldn't give me a hug before I left, she just waved and said bye mom. Luckily I made it to the truck before I really bursted into tears. I blame a lot on pregnancy hormones. I hope my youngest doesn't do the same when she starts school this August.

I can so relate. My son is only 2.5 but I can already relate. I started having sad feelings at the littlest things that had to do with him growing too fast. I cried when he no longer fit in his bassinette, then he out grew his crib. I cried when it was time to stop nursing him, especially because he made the decision, not me... just didn't want it anymore. I was so worried about post partum depression that I would talk to my doctor about anytime I felt like I cried for a silly reason. One day he said a very wise thing to me. He said that motherhood was a daily practice in learning to let go. Mother and child is the closest bond on earth and eventually one day we have to let go completely, so we get to practice almost daily with the little things. Everyday that he does something himself that he used to need me to do I try to smile and think that I am learning and getting stronger.

I know how you feel! I cried with my first two going to school. It's very normal to feel sad. You will not be alone. Im sure there will be other moms just as sad and crying too. I tried not to cry in front of them. I didn't want them to worry about me or start them crying. My last child will being going to school for the first time too. I'll handle it by keeping myself busy. I started a online store in October of 2006 selling my handmade items. I plan on dedicating more time to that. If you want to check it out is at www.TammysTreasures.Etsy.com. You will be OK. Good Luck!

I think every responsible parent would feel that too. My son went to a toddler school when he was about 2.5 years old. I felt thew same way too. I guess its true time is running fast and for all you know you'll be seeing her walking down the aisle as graduate in college and sooner you maybe sending her to his future hubby. :D

I went through this last year with my first, and will send my youngest to school this year.. I know how you're feeling. From the "how will she know her way" and all the other questions in your mind - rest assured your child has been raised to know how to act and what to do. It will get lonely, and it will hurt - and that just doesn't go away. I horribly miss not having a little baby in the house. I just spend each afternoon, evening, and weekend with them and try my best to let them know that they are loved. It will be hard, it'll be much harder for you than your child in most cases. Prepare your child the best you can, and smile that first day you get to take a nap and really sleep like you did before you had her!

you bet I felt that way too. It was really difficult, me and my son both cried on his first day of school. It was like we were not going to see each other again. We have to remember, though, that we are only stewards of our children. We have to let them go whether we like or not, because kids have a life of their own to live. We have to give them the best that we could offer. Don't worry because you will get over it in no time. Just remember that wherever your child goes, you will always be her mom, and your sending her to school is the best gift you could give her. amen

My son is only 14 months old and i'm ALREADY dreading the day that he has to start school. I think it's a natural feeling. We WANT our children to grow up but at the same time we want them to stay our little babies forever. It's ok, you will get through it. You could get a part-time job and save up some money so we could have some more girls night out or you could call me and we could talk on the phone all day. LOL

Yaah it's kind of sad when we think that our kids are growing fast. Makes you think that one day you'll just wake up to find them gone. On their own or got married. But as much as possible i do not think of the future. I am enjoying every minute of now when they are still so young and so adorable because time flies and i don't wanna miss a thing in their growing years.

I was devistated when my oldest started Headstart and it wasnt even a whole day only 4 hours. But watching her get on that bus was hard. But i had to keep reminding myself that she was going to a place to learn and get smart and all the friends she would make and about how even though i wanted to keep her by my side she needed to be let go of just a little. Everyday it got easier and easier to put her on the bus especially when getting off the bus she rambled and rambled on about how much fun she had that day and how forward she was looking foward to goin back in the morning. This year i set my middle one off to headstart, she loves it. It wasnt easy to let her go but it wasnt as hard as it was with my oldest. I am so grateful for my children to have the chance to interact and make new friends everyday. They really didnt have much of that before school, so thats another thing that helped me knowing they were able to be social even though they werent acustomed to it.It will be hard and i wish her luck in her first year of school and you the strenth to handle it.

My daughter is 10 years old and finishing up 4th grade. I have found that being involved in her school - going on field trips with the class, joining in whenever they ask for volunteers, etc really helps me feel connected to her. I also know all her friends, have become friends with her teachers and get to see her sometimes in her school environment. Now, it is her going away to college that is freaking me out. =:(

It is a really difficult period to go thru...I can definitely speak to that. My son cried when I first used to drop him at pre-school. He would say "Dont go, mama." The teachers were excellent though...they would take him in the classroom and stay with him until another friend would arrive and then he would be all set. The teachers said he would get a little weepy during class, but it is all very normal. I promise you..everything will be OK. My son will be in 1st grade next year. Its crazy how fast time has gone by, I am so proud of his development so far...Kids are incredible!

What is there to become so sad?You as a mother would expect the best for your child and education is one of them.Let your daughter mingle with others.learn and be independent.Let your daughter be happy to go to school.You will not have to face any crying on the first day.Anyway your daughter will grow up one day and leave you.So just pray that she grows up well and ask God to help you to do just that.

I felt like that when my children started going,but now I cant wait until the first day of school.lolYou will get used to her going to school and will enjoy that free time.lol Dont feel sad your baby girl is growing up

Is adults, isn't independence what we want from our children? We need to make up our mind. Do we want them little forever, or do we want them to grow naturally? It's not like she won't be coming home at the end of the day.... take the time to do something for yourself that you didn't otherwise have time for, and then spend quality time with her at the end of her school day.

The best and only way to handle it is to be strong. don't let her see you cry. the first day is the heardest. i have three and my oldest is about to graduate HS and my little one starts daycare next month. so i am going through it from both ends. the end and the beginging for my two children. i made sure the first day of school for my son i didn't cry. before he was to start we would walk by the school. and i would just make him feel like big boys go to school. you have to be strong girl. not just for her, but for you too. she is going to do so many new things and you need to always let her know that every new thing is not scary, it's wonderful!! i promise you will be fine. keep your head up

I think every parent feels this way when their baby starts school. You just need to find something to keep yourself busy during the days. Soon you will adjust to the new schedule.

you are a very good mother,however ,you have to accept the fact that your child will leave you ,I think only if you encourage her,and she get better achievement,you will feel happy,find her not leave you. that is my advice.