would you want to know about your boyfriend or girlfriends first love??

United States
May 12, 2007 2:52pm CST
If you got into a realtionship with a guy or girl would you want to know about the first person they were ever in love with? Could you stand to listen to them talk about what the first person they ever kissed, or the first person they ever got a broken heart from?? Or would you not wanna know about them? Im very curious about this situation..Thoughts anyone???????????????
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17 responses
• United States
15 May 07
I DEFINITELY wanna know! I'm a very INTENSE person, who LOVES 2 delve DEEPLY into a person's soul, so I wanna know EVERYTHING about my mate, and I'll tell them ALL of my history as well! I think it helps the intimacy of the relationship. I have nothing 2 hide, and hopefully, the woman doesn't either! I'm just all about OPEN and HONEST communication, about any and EVERYTHING! NO topic is "off limits" 2 me, no matter how "taboo", politicially INCORRECT, or uncomfortable! My Venus (the planet of LOVE) is in Scorpio, and Scorpios love 2 delve deeply! And, being a Libra sun sign, I love being IN a relationship! I can't deal with a person if we only discuss "surface" topics, or if they're AFRAID 2 tackle topics like this 1! I not only wanna know about their 1st love, but ALL of their "loves"! Who a person selects tells u ALOT about them! It's like that old saying: if u wanna KNOW a person, check out their FRIENDS! I say that their past "loves" tell the story even MORE! I know alot of people get jealous hearing about a mate's past, but I wanna know, and as long as they're truly OVER any past relationships, I don't feel that there's anything 2 worry about. We ALL have a past, so I don't trip on it. And since I go 2 the DEPTHS with a woman, I don't mind graphic details either! I'm just a VERY CURIOUS person!
• United States
15 May 07
My pleasure! And thanks 4 the compliment!
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• United States
15 May 07
Wow creativemind..that u are! I agree with you 100% I dont think there is anything that should be off limits to talk about when its comes to opening up about ones self. The soul is the root of us all and when you choose to share information about yourself with your partner it opens up a line of comminucation that otherwise wouldnt be there. I as well am a curios person so I would want to know all about where they been and who they loved. You have a great mind..thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
13 May 07
hi gorgeous, my husband and i before we got married we talked about our past relationships. talked who our first love was, our feelings for them. it was very important to me because i'm marrying a guy who had so many women in his life before i met him. learning from the exprience of my mom who married a notorious womanizer i became very cautious in choosing the man i would spend the rest of my life with. i'm glad that we had that talked because i think that help us build our life now. now we even joke about our past relationships.
• United States
13 May 07
Hello 3superkids, I agree wiht you..if you have a good relationship with your mate there is no reason why you both cant open up about your past. You and your husband are a good example of opening up about your past and jus connecting with your partner. Im so glad it worked for you. God bless
• Philippines
15 May 07
thanks gorgeous, you know talking about the past and being open about what happened with our past relationships before we met made our trust to each other stronger. because i always believe that trust is one of the strongest foundation of marrieage.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
i would not want to know i can not stand when my bf talks about his ef wife or any other exs
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• United States
11 Jun 07
I could defintely understand you not wanting to know about the ex. Thanks for responding
@34momma (13882)
• United States
4 Jun 07
i personally would not have a problem with it. i am not the jealous type. i see it this way , he is with me now so the past is the past. but if he wants to share that with me i am ok with it. i don;t want him talking about her all the time,but if shared it with me i am ok with that
• United States
11 Jun 07
Hey girl I wouldnt have a problem with him telling me either as long as he knows hes telling me and not of one of his boys so he gotta be careful what he says LOL!
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
6 Jun 07
If it's something she wanted to share for some reason, I would listen. As long as she is not making a comparison between him & I. I don't have a problem with it. Lord knows, I have enough X-girlfriends I can bring up if need be ...LMAO! ... Luv ya 34Momma:-)
• United States
11 Jun 07
No I wouldnt like to be compared to the ex either, I would probably be the one to bring up the conversation about the ex because im curious but then again I might hear something I dont want to LOL!
@bimflux (294)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I never want to hear anything about that matter because i can't stand to take it....
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Yea I understand why you would say that, it would be hard to hear. Thanks
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 07
Wouldn't interest me at all, if they volunteered the information, I would listen and accept it's part of their past, as long as they are not obsessed by them obviously, but I certainly wouldn't probe or ask, past is past and that is where it should stay.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Maybe the reasons for them breaking up and thats about it.I really dont want to know about the other things that went on unless it was something serious and he wants to tell me about it.
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@angel_27 (129)
• United States
30 May 07
Actually i know my hubbys first love and it was know big deal to know because i think of it as wanting to know everything about my man because i love him so much. I mean it makes me feel close knowing everything.
• India
13 May 07
Its the person to person nature One doesn't like if they came to know their partner have an affair earlier. Some feel that what ever may be the past they tries to make the best for the other. In the first case they simply reject to listen about any thing of the past. Where as in the second case He gives chance to tell about each and every moment that took place in the past life and he keenly observes the psychological nature of both and that itself gives us to know about the psychological nature of your guy or girl..... By this you can know about the other very easily and u can do u wish accordingly
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• China
13 May 07
I don't want to know things that has past for him although i would like to share happiness and pains.I would like to leave him a spacious space belonging to him.
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• United States
13 May 07
I would probably want to know because i'm a nosey person but I know it's best if I don't know. They say that what you don't know won't hurt you and I feel that way. I know it will bother me to know that the person I love was once in love with another person. I might question if they are really over that person if they continue to talk about them. I would prefer to keep the past in the past. Know what I mean?
• United States
13 May 07
Girl im a nosey person too so I would most definitly wanna know about his first love because they say your first love will always be in your heart.So yea I would wanna know all about her and im sure it would make me question if he is truly over her but I would get over that...it would make me wanna try to find her to see what she looks like only if I was real serious about the guy LMAO!
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
21 May 07
A few months ago I would have responded yes, but now I'm changing my mind. So many people come into relationships with baggage and pre-conceived notions about the person based on past notions. I'm coming to realize the importance of "leaving your baggage at the door." I would probably not want to know about a guy's past. I'd probably start comparing myself to the ex and their relationship and that's no good! I believe that everyone deserves a clean slate.
• United States
4 Jun 07
I'd definitely want to know. I do in fact know a bit about it. My main reasons being that if that person was her first love.. then what happened that caused them to split apart, so I can find a way to not do that.
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• China
13 May 07
yes, I want to know it becouse I am very courious on this , you know ,maybe everyone hope to know it ,but at the same time I think we didn't like to heard that your boy friend or girlfriend kissed or do something else with first lover.but I do want to have some monery on this with my first lover, unlucky , nothing happen between us.hehe.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
18 May 07
Well, I wouldn't want to know who was their first lover. No, I wouldn't. Why? It's an useless information. But if my girlfriend started talking about it, then I could just sit back and hear. I'm sure it would be a good story. But I wouldn't ask her: "who was the first person you loved?".
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
17 May 07
haha...I often ask my boyfriend about his first love...but I get so jealous and irritated in the middle of his story that I can't stand listening to it. hehehe... I'm really curious about his first love but I can't stand listening to his story...cause I get so jealous! urgh.