Do you cut people off during conversations?
By mamasan34
@mamasan34 (6518)
United States
May 13, 2007 8:22am CST
I know I have an awful habit of doing this with my husband. He will be talking and I will most often cut him off if we are discussing something. This makes him so mad! LOL, I realized how bad I am recently and I am trying so hard to stop it! How about you? Have you realized any bad habits like this that you want to stop?
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
THat is awful isn't it! It makes me mad when someone does it to me too! But I am awful about doing it to others! So, now I watch myself and am very observant about how much I do it now. I am surprised at how often I do this, I didn't realize how bad I was!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
I wish there was, but I would probably interrupt the instructor. LOL
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
13 May 07
NO!! But I know that the girls in my girl scout troop have that problem. I am working on it and some have gotten much better. There are a few that just can not stop! They will interrupt 4, 6 times in one meeting.
I can under stand when we are all talking about some thing, but usually it is when I am talking to one person. They just come up and are,"Miss Tammy" "Miss Tammy!" I ignore them about 2-3 times then I just stop, ask them if they can hear me talking, and when they realize what that means, they will wait until I am done, but they still need that little reminder.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
It is important to start them early to remind them that it is rude to interrupt. In my family we were always talking over each other. Except outside of the houes we were taught to be quiet until everyone else was done talking, but at home I am still like that.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 May 07
Lol I do sometimes but I never notice when I am doing it lol
I know it is annoying as a couple of People do it regular to me lol so I just go quiet and then they ask why I am not saying anything lol well what is the Point they don't let me talk they are to busy telling me and not listening to me so I might as well be quiet lol
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
17 May 07
This is true gabs! I feel the same way when they do it to me. So, I guess people feel the same when I do it hahaha!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 May 07
I know! I often times have my husband tell me after the fact and I will often say that I couldn't possibly have done it! LOL
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
15 May 07
I used to, but have controlled the habit. I say controlled instead of broken because I am still compelled to do it - I have to practice patience and also be willing to let go of what I think is so important that I must state it then, because as a conversation lingers the statement may no longer be pertinent or I may forget what it was I was going to say anyhow.
My husband has this habit of presuming what I am going to say. LET ME FINISH my own sentence please!
I have come to realise that this habit is not only rude but it is also full of self pride... what makes me think that whatever I have to say is so much more important than what others are saying that I have to interrupt them? What makes me think that I KNOW what the other is going to say and I should answer them before hearing them out?
so, as I said I share this condition with you of wanting to blurt out what is on my mind as it enters my mind - but after years of practice I have been able to suppress the urge to "butt-in"
The fact that you have recognized this flaw in yourself is a big start in overcoming it.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
Thanks! I like to think that since I recognize the problem I can start to overcome it. I am trying very hard not to do this and it is a day to day battle I tell ya! I am glad to know it is possible because you did it! Thanks for sharing that with me!
@mariyamaka (931)
• India
17 May 07
Exactly this is what i do... i feel so bad at time because i feel bad too when someone does it with me!!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
17 May 07
I feel the same way, I try so hard not to do it! I do feel bad when it happens to me so I try harder not to do it to others.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
13 May 07
lol, I think I do that most often. I dont know but when someone is talking and I have something to say, I just blurted out whatever I wanted to say without even giving a chance for the other person to finish his/her conversation. It is rude like that but it is just a habit that need a little correction. This is one habit that I would like to change.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
Me too! I really am trying hard to change this habit of mine. It is terrible and rude! I know what you mean about saying something or blurting it out before the person gets to finish.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
This is so true! The art of being a patient and good listener is not easy and it is not easy! I am trying very hard though!
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 May 07
YIKES!!! yes I am very guilty of cutting off peoples conversations when they are talking with me. I have a memory recall problem so I think that's why I butt in so often. I think I am afraid I'll forget what was on my mind if I don't speak up right away. I find it very difficult to stop this trait of mine. It's hard. Most my family accepts this trait I show and they tend to such brush it off most times as it happens. not always but most times. Hahahaha. It can be very annoying as I've experienced mostly with my daughter whoms just like me in this are also. haha. Thanks for a good topic also.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
Thanks! I am glad that I am not alone in this world! I think we all do it at some point. But I seem to do it daily lol. It is very difficult to stop yourself from doing it and sometimes I try to say what I need to say because my memory is pretty bad too and I know I will lose my train of thought, lol!
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
15 May 07
I try my very best not to do this, but sometimes I find myself interrupting the other person. I am really becoming forgetful and often I am so afraid that I will lose my train of thought that I will say, "let me interrrupt you just a minute and add this or tell you this...." Pathetic huh?!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
Not pathetic at all! I am much the same way, but most times I say "let me tell you this before i forget!" and most people get a good laugh about that. I warn everyone I meet that I do that because I will forget what I want to say if I wait too long. Thanks for commenting!
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
14 May 07
My Loved One was excruciatingly bad about this for the longest time! I got so desperate, I resorted to cutting her off right back, loudly decrying the rude behavior to anyone present. It doesn't happen nearly as much now, so I can tolerate it better.
My bad habit is, I have a tone of voice that acts on most humans like nails on chalkboard. I have to be careful not to slip into it when somebody makes me mad, because once I do, everyone stops listening!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 May 07
Ouch! I know how that tone of voice can be. It is hard to take in at times! Well, I am glad your tactics worked and got her to stop doing that so much. I hope I can find something that works,, because biting my tongue and counting to ten is not working so well for me lol!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 May 07
I am so guilty over getting mad at it being done to me, yet I do it to my husband LOL...talk about a double standard! But he is so patient with me about it and he can see that I am working on it. I just need more patience and to keep trying!