to punish or educate annoying children, which way do you choose?
By laiyongjun
@laiyongjun (1336)
China
May 13, 2007 9:23am CST
if you were father or mother, and your children are so annoying in daily. what should you do? to punish the children or educate the children?
if you were teacher, and you have several annoying students in class. when you in class, they are speaking but thy don't care about you. in this situation what should you do? to punish the student or educate the students?
sharing with your opinion.
thank you very much.
4 responses
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
13 May 07
My answer is...both. I think it is very unfair to punish a child for something he has not yet been "taught" how to do properly. And, the punishments should meet the severity of the crime. I am not sure what is meant by "being annoying". There could be many reasons a child will disrupt class...from not having enough to keep his mind and body busy physically or mentally, to problems he is unsure how to deal with, lack of training in how to behave, an illness, etc.
Being a parent or teacher means setting examples of the behavior which is appropriate and effectively teaching children, through repetition, how to comply respectfully.
A person does not hand a child his W-2's and tell them to "do my taxes". They would have no clue where to begin. So punishing for something they have not yet learned is unfair and unrealistic.
@laiyongjun (1336)
• China
13 May 07
thank you for replying.
if a small boy steal smoe money from you just in order to buy a ticket to see a film(maybe spider man 3), or go shopping someting like that, so what should you do? punish or educate?
thank you very much.
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
13 May 07
Again I would say both. I have never encountered this since my children were taught very early that stealing is unacceptable behavior.
To answer your question, I would talk with the child about what stealing is and why it is wrong, and have the child perform chores to repay the amount he had stolen from me - which is "teaching" and "punishment" at the same time.
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
13 May 07
I also want to add that there are many opportunities when a parent can teach children right from wrong. Simply observing the world with them and talking about how and why things are happening, what the consequences might be, etc, happens nearly every day.
For example, one day while I was driving my youngest son home from school we saw a group of 10 or 11 year old kids running after a school bus in front of us and throwing snowballs at it. It was a perfect opportunity for me to say, "wow, I can't believe they are doing that, that shows disrespect". It led to a long conversation that had my son contributing with his own thoughts, like, "what if the bus driver got into an accident because he was trying to watch where the kids were running and hit something else?"
There are also books parents can share with their kids about being morally responsible, that are written for their age levels.
@zengguoxing (773)
• China
14 May 07
I will mainly educate him,but if he's much too naughty,then i'll teach him a lesson.But i won't punish him greatly as so many parents do.Hehe.I love kids very very much.They're so clever.
@laiyongjun (1336)
• China
14 May 07
thank you for replying.
nice guy, i also love kids very much.
thank you very much.
@laiyongjun (1336)
• China
14 May 07
thank you for replying.
both ways are used. by the way, how to punish the child?
thank you very much.
@laiyongjun (1336)
• China
14 May 07
thank you for replying.
????what do you mean???
thank you very much.
