the art of letting go..
By babyzai
@babyzai (38)
United States
May 13, 2007 2:00pm CST
How do you heal a broken heart?And keep if from tearing apart?I was on a relationship for quite a long while. We had fun together, waking up each day knowing that he is there had been a great feeling.
We had good chemistry together. We had a lot of fun moments and bad moments also. Everything seemed to work out just fine for the both us.
But- i never did expected that a true-to-life fantasy could come to an end.
We ended up breaking up for some important reasons.
Now im in so much pain and in torment. How do i move on when he is all that i live for?
3 responses
@lady_kanti (122)
• Philippines
13 May 07
im sorry to hear that...if you truelly love him you have to let go..time heals the wound you have now...someday, time would come you will be thanking him for doing that to you
@acmepride (1546)
• United States
13 May 07
I perfectly know what you're feeling right now, babyzai. It's really not easy to move on from a great fall, especially if you practically devoted your life to the person you broke up with. It's like your heart is literally taken out of your chest and all life is suck out of you. You feel like there's a void inside you, which could not be filled by anything. You just feel so helplessly empty.
Though you're feeling that way, try to bear in mind that everything in this world is fleeting. The stinging pain that is tormenting you is no exception. You just have to learn to let it go.
However, if you're not yet fully ready to move on, don't be too hard on yourself. Do not force yourself to do something that you're not yet prepared to do. Embrace the pain. Don't fight it because if you do, your pain will only intensify. Cry. Release your hurt.
When you feel that you can't cry anymore, try to gradually do things that could make you stand up again. If you could, try to engage yourself in activities that you really enjoy and excel in. Try to be productive, try to compete, and try to excel in everything you've decided to do.
You will just be surprised to realize that, soon enough, you're starting to enjoy yourself gain, smile again, laugh again. Your love and energy is just transferred to other things that you love to do.
It will also help if during your healing process, you will try to open up your feelings to as much people as possible. If you're ready, try to share your feelings with your friends or relatives. This will be of great help because you may even find out that some of your friends and relatives have gone through the same thing. They could truly greatly help you recover and start fresh again.
Whatever you decide to do, babyzai, just make sure that it is not something that you will regret. You're still young. Don't make this sad experience hinder you from trying to love again in the future. Just be thankful that you were able to experience how great it feels to truly love someone. Soon, you'll surely experience this feeling again.
@babyzai (38)
• United States
14 May 07
I totally agree with you. I've been trough heartaches and break-ups before but this one is really different. I want to move on but there is still something between us that is still holding me back. I've done all i could just to move on, but it is really hard. Time heals all wounds as they say. It's really hsrd for me to let go at this point of time.
Maybe soon ill get the hold of it and I can really move on without something that is holding me back. Im still hopeful that we might end up together again. Who knows.
Thank you very much for those tips. I will try to do that. All i need is time. Thanks again and you do have a good day!
@yamskee (827)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
i really dont know what to say here because were in the same situation, im wondering why relationships starts when they have to end anyway, i always cry myself to sleep and even engaged to vices like drinking and smoking. i tried to keep myself busy and it quite worked on me. i joined clans from candymag.com, i joined forums, i keep myself busy from scrapbooking and blogging
