Do you ever feel like you might have made a mistake?

No, I think we all think things like that at one time or another. When I am so angry with my husband I will go to the bathroom, look in the mirror and say "what have I done?" "what am I doing here?" I ask these questions. Then when I am not angry with him, I look at him and see nothing but love. There are periods in your life where you will experience self doubt about what choices you have made. It is up to you to decide what you will do about them. If you love your husband and you committed your life to him then you need to push those doubts aside. I just got married and even at the ceremony I was thinking, is this the right thing to do? But it was and I am happy. I hope you are too.

Hi yesdear! I do not think that you are alone there. I got married at the age of 21 against the wishes of my parents to a guy whom i realised within the first 3 months itself was all wrong for me. I compromised and tried to be happy with the marriage for 12 years and then i walked out of him 2 years back. I can now see that i was very immature then.

I think this may be normal for most married couples. When I was married the first time I didn't even want to do it, I was even late to the church. And my gut ionstinct was right, I asked for a divorce a year later. My current hubby and I have been experiencing problems lately, and during a heated argument he asked why the hell do we bother with our relationship? I was crushed, although I'm sure I thought the same thing. We took some time to step back, and remember why we fell in love to begin with. Last night the kids stayed at grandmas all night and instead of doing our usual go out and party we stayed home, watched movies and had dinner together, we just hung out. It was awesome. People get so caught up in kids, jobs and life in general that sometimes it's easy to lose focus of what brought you together to begin with. So you need to decide, do you just need to rekindle some of that lost passion? or have you really grown apart?

That's right for me also.. Not now, but in the first mariage. And so it was proved that I shouldn't have made that step.. that I've made a great mistake. Happily we had no children! It would have been much more difficult!

No, you are not alone, my dear. There are a lot of married couple who thinks like you. We just could not be sure of the person we got hitched to. That is why a long engagement prior to getting married is always advisable, to beter know the person you will be living with the rest of your life. It is good in some other western countries because there is such a thing as divorce. In my country we dont have any. My advise is, since you are married already, try to adjust to the ways of your partner. Patience and understanding are two main ingredients that will make your married life a lot better, even though you have your doubts. With time, your doubts might even fade away.

No. You are not alone. But there must have been other times when you had the conviction that you did the right thing. Marriage has its ups and downs. Sometimes you feel you shouldn't have gotten involved in such a serious relation, but at other times you are glad and even grateful to God that you are married to him. To enjoy your marriage and dispel the doubts, learn to focus on the good aspects of your marriage. Try to identify some humour in even the aspects you think are not so good. Taking life easy and living on the brighter side is the key to a happy marriage. God's grace. Nnennaya

You are not alone. Marriage is tough. Just yesterday I told my husband I wanted a divorce ofr mothers day, and basicly I ment it. It is hard to blend your life with someone, and at times we all clash. I thinkif it were not for my two great kids I would have left long ago. I love my Husband but at times it is hard to be in love with some one who I feel does not care for my feelings. I am just holding out for the good times that we will have. They happen sometimes. Until then I come here and vent.

I don't think that you're alone. I've often wondered whether I've done the right thing by getting married, I've often been convinced that it was a terrible mistake. But then sometimes I'm convinced that I did the right thing too. If you're really committed to the marriage then you just have to keep your head down and wait for the bad times to pass I guess. Or if you're really unhappy maybe you should find the courage to leave. Only you can decide what's right for you.

I think if you are having these thoughts you may want to start thinking about seeing a marriage councelor. I made a horrible mistake in my first marriage at 16 and waited 25 years before trying again. This time its working out great. LIVE IN PEACE

I am now in my 7th year of marriage, to a man i fell pregnant to 3 months after we met. So I have doubted and been worried about whether or not i did the right thing heaps. we've since had 2 more kids and alot of life changes and i've finally realised that love is a choice, it's a decision that you make and sometimes your feelings r in sync with that & other times they are the complete opposite. Since I realised that i have felt so much more relaxed & I don't place so many false expectations on myself or how our marriage should be. Your not alone, but you are - only you can decide whats best for you and your husband.