Will you marry an Epileptic person

I know that some people have a serious problem with seizures from a very young age, others have very sudden onset.At any moment anyone's brain can begin to misfire, and cause seizures. I have had the misfortune to be around people who believed a lot of myths about seizures. I was trying to point out that you do not discriminate against people for health conditions that they do not choose. You do get selective about people who make lifestyle choices that are counter to social mores. I have very good friends, very successful people, who have seizures. I married someone who ended up developing ALS. I would have married him anyway, if I had known, but I might have chosen not to have kids. I am glad I have them, though.

Seizers come from many different reasons. Someone that has severe neurological disorders are perhaps more app to have them and can be much harder to control. But there are also many people like myself that are subject to them with no other cause. In that case there is no threat of passing it on to your children. I have had this disorder sense I was 23. I am now 65. Neither my brother or sisters nor my children have this problem. We all can have problems with almost anything later in life. To move away from someone we love just because of what might happen is foolhardy because in the final analysis we may be the ones to have the problem. Diabetes is a good example. Almost no family can look back at their heritage and say they had no one with it. It is a disease that is inherited. If I would have told myself no I am not taking the chance I would not have married my first wife and would not have the two great children I have. My wife’s mother had it and my son contracted it at age 8 with my wife then at age 41. I have never regretted marrying her. There is a good reason why the marriage vows state "in sickness and health". We all are subject to something at some time in our life. We marry people...not their health.

LOL! Very interesting who the kind of people you would find worse than an epileptic. And even more interesting that you would have no problem marrying one. I speak from experiance when I say there is no differance between and epileptic and a person with diabetes. None! Both must be on medication for the rest of thier lives but after that they can be very nice people.

You have every right to say that my cousin was wrong. I think the same too. I know how much it means to be the mother of an epileptic person. I guess I can assume that you are the patient, compassionate parent such a son/daughter needs. I hope no one behaves like my cousin.

I had to learn how to be patient with my child's condition.My child wasn't born with it.Her seizures began at the age of 8 .She has taken several meds for it sometimes 3 meds at one time.I am proud to say that she has been seizure free for two years now.But she still has to take her meds.And when you come across a jerk that acts in such a manner, it just ruffles my feathers.I had to learn what precautions to take.And if a person watches an epileptic, after a while, they will be able to tell exactly when the seizure is going to occur. I am so thankful that the guy my daughter sees is so understanding to her situation and that he takes the time to ask her if she has took her meds.When you are in public and a seizure occurs, people stop to stare and gawk as if she were a freak and that really ruffles my feathers because she can't help it and that is just the way her life is going to be.Overall, I have to say that she has been a good sport about it and she doesn't ask why me.She will tell you that God made her that way for a reason.I am so proud of my child.

Very good kntcallahan. While no two people are alike with this affliction I can tell you my experience. Hopefully your daughter will have the same result. I had my first seizer the day JFK was buried. It was 1963 and I was 23. I spent a week in the hospital while they ran tests. They could find no reason. It was hard for me to understand how important the medication was but only had a few more during the 1960's....the last one in 1970 the day my son was born. Following that I began to take the medication as prescribed. I have not had a problem sense. I am 66. There are people who are hard to regulate just as with diabetes but in time and with patience I think it can be done. The reason it is so hard for us to understand the need for medication is we have no real memory of the event. We wake feeling very tired and even though we know it happened it is not personal. I congratulate you with your patience with your daughter. The only think I would caution you on is when she begins driving. I was foolish enough to join the fire department even though I knew I had this. Most of the time I was only a threat to myself but did begin driving the district chief. I was fortunate to have one at work while sleeping. That was the end of that. It was the best thing that ever happened to me as it forced me to get an inside job...computers. As your daughter ages the problem may become less severe. But the medication is life long. I have never experienced any problems with that.