Why do women USUALLY blame the other woman?

why? well I guess because it is easier to see the speck in other's eyes than looking at our own. Instead of asking ourselves why, identifying the problems, and working on it, we tend to be hard on ourselves and cover up, eventually loosing totally the man we love.

I think people like to pretend that their lives are perfect. When a third party enters, they can't look inside themselves or the relationship to find what might be wrong. The third party is usually the end result of problems that exist but are not addressed. So in order to keep on pretending and not really face issues that need to be addressed it's easier to blame someone else.

in my opinion its because women are jelous with the other woman, we didnt want to admit that the other woman might be better then us, and also women adore their man too much.i would not blame on the other woman, the balme will be on the man becoz they didnt loyal and easy to seduce

Its human nature I suppose. It takes two to tango and I would blame them both. My first reaction would be towards my partner and why he felt he needed to cheat on me and I would be looking for answers as to how she came into his life and so forth...

insecurities and then they will ask their friends this q, "what does she have that i don't?" same goes with men. LOL

It's easier to blame someone else, instead of looking at the real reasons. If the man really loved and respected his wife/girlfriend then cheating wouldn't even cross his mind, but on the other hand, maybe the wife/girlfriend is somewhat to blame for him looking elsewhere. If she is always nagging or critizing him, if she shows no devotion towards him, then he might go looking somewhere else for it. Not all the blame can be put on the other woman, it can't happen if he says no to her.

On a usual situations women get to blame the other women because they THINK they are after their men. My personal opinion on this matter is that if there are problems between a relationship, they should resolve this as early as possible.

I don't think it's JUST women who do this! MEN do this also! So, I don't think it's relegated 2 just 1 gender! The ROOT of all of this is INSECURITY, and FEAR! Fear of looking at the REAL ISSUES! An insecure woman would rather be in DENIAL, and blame the "other woman", because it HURTS 2 much 2 face the fact that she and her man have serious problems in their relationship! If things were going so "great", he wouldn't have a desire 2 cheat in the 1st place! The "other woman" doesn't really matter, because if it wasn't HER, it would've been someone ELSE! The issue is that he CHEATED! And, the DEEPER issue is WHY did he cheat 2 begin with! But, it's NOT about blaming her MAN either! It's about taking an HONEST look at what's going on inside of HER! How has she CO-CREATED an atmosphere, in which her man even feels the NEED 2 cheat? She's NOT responsible 4 HIS cheating, but she IS responsible 4 HER contribution 2 the relationship dynamic that they share. Basically, BLAME, of ANY kind, in ANY SITUATION, is just a convenient way of DELUDING yourself, and NOT facing FACTS! So, it's NOT about "fault"! It's about discovering the UNDERLYING REASONS 4 the cheating, and then, working thru those issues, whether she decides 2 stay OR leave! At the end of the day, it's NEVER the OTHER woman's "fault"! The "other" woman isn't the CAUSE of the woman's relationship problems with her man, so making the "other" woman go away won't solve a thing! She needs 2 openly, and HONESTLY communicate with her man, and c if they can work things out! If NOT, then she has 2 decide how much being with him is WORTH it, 2 her! She needs 2 look WITHIN!

I think part of the blame should go to the other woman especially if she knows that the man she is after, or who is after her whatever the case, already has someone else. But i know I wouldn't go after her. The blame should still go to the man because he is the one who broke his promise or commitment. I think some women blame the other party because they love their man so much that they try to at least justify what they did so that it will be easier for them to accept what had happened.