i'm not invited to my friend's wedding

You say the soon to be wife doesn't like you...that may be the problem. He may have felt he had to pick between you two. Keeping you as a friend would have caused problems with the soon to be wife. I'd say move along and let it be his loss. It doesn't sound like she's a very nice person. LIVE IN PEACE

I'm truly sorry you are having to go through this. He is not a waste of time, I'm assuming. Many people are blinded by love, and they will do anything to keep that love. So many relationships have the jealousy seed embedded deep within. This is not true love. You cannot base a marriage on false love and jealousy. It will tear them apart. A man or woman should never tell their SO who their friends can be. This is a controlling and unloving behavior. Unfortunately, I'm sure your friend thinks he is doing the right thing by abiding by his fiances rules and ignoring you, a great friend he's had for many years. Through time, their jealousy will come to the surface and they will realize that they need to take a step back and work on their relationship, friends included, or that they simply just aren't right for each other. I'm sorry you aren't invited, but the main problem seems to be just that his fiance doesn't want you speaking with him. I hope that this can become resolved in due time. If he does come around, do not shun him. Sometimes it takes time to see the error of our ways, but that does not mean that we aren't sorry or didn't think that what we were doing at the time was right. Blessings.

I think you need to realise that he is not a friend, a real friend would not act like this. I have male friends and they do not stop talk to me just becase they get a gf. If he was a true friend he would still be and he would have invited u, no matter what. You deserve better friends than this so just try and move on, even if it hurts. He will be the one regretting this later in life.

I can really see were you are coming from. It sounds like your friends future wife is jealeous of you. Your friend probably wants you there but his fiance probably has a problem with it so that is why he has not invited you. Hang in there, if he is a true friend then it will all work out and he will come around. But if the worse happens and he is not a true friend then it is probably best you find out now instead investing any more time and feelings to just get hurt worse down the road. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best.

Don't worry, if he is dumping friends for a woman chances are the marriage won't work. Sounds like she is the problem and probably controlling and manipulative. Hopefully he will wake up to this fact and lose her before he alienates all his friends. Hopefully you will be invited to his second wedding.

You know what I think about this? I think your friend doesnt want to do all those things to you but he doesnt want her soon to be wife to be mad of him about you. Iam sure her wife know about you and all those things you and your friend have been through all these time. She might just be jealous of you that she doesnt want you and her soon to be hubby to still be connected with each other. I know its not fair but your friend just wants to make his soon to be wife not doubtful about him. Its totally not fair in your side coz you have no other intentions or whatsoever but just to be a friend...the thing is the insecurity of the soon to be wife. This is my point of view...I have the same situation where my hubby feels insecure about my guy friends so in my own way, I tried to have a gap with them...my guy friends totally understands it, which I really appreciate much.

That is a shame, obviously the soon to be wife has jealousy issues which means she is uncertain of her relationship, sad when that happens perhaps in time she will be accept relationship outside their relationship. Hopefully one day he will come back to you as friends again after things have cooled down on the homefront. Don't be sad for your friend that you can't be in attendance of his wedding, just be happy for him no matter where you are, that is what friends are for.

I dont think its fair of him to treat you this way.I have loads of friends who are guys and they have never treated me like this. Friendhip is in its own place and love in its own. He should think of a way of striking a balnce between you and his wife rather than ignoring you.

You do have to understand that he's getting married so he shouldn't be spending time with you but with his fiance. Things change when 2 people get involved. They don't hang out with their friends as much as they use to. It's just the way it is. However, I don't understand why he couldn't invite you to the wedding. There's no harm in that. Sounds to me like she probably asked him not to invite you. That's kinda childish. Just forgetta bout it and find new friends.

i don't think he should treat you this way. and you said he was one of your closest friends. why would he act like this? try to talk to him about this and tell him that you're hurt by the whole thing. i also don't think that your friendship was a waste of time. if he still doesn't talk to you and he still avoids you, that's the time when you should think if your friendship is a waste of time.

Certainly this is very unfair and hurtful on your part. But I believe this is his only remedy to keep you and him away from any trouble. For sure, his soon to be wife won't be please to see you on their wedding day because in the very first place she doesn't like you. Maybe he was advised by his soon to be wife not to invite you at all. But I guess, being your friend he is oblige to tell you the reason why he's doing that or maybe he doesn't want you to get hurt upon hearing those words from him. Sure it is painful but you can no longer do something about that. I just hope you'll get over on this thing soon. Goodluck!

Hey may be he is behaving such because of some other reaon and not just because he is getting married!! Yuo talk to him and clear it out before his marriage yaar... and be friends with his wife too...!!

Now the point here is as you says here, his girlfriend doesn't like you(I don't know the reason). I agree that the man doesn't invite you to his wedding if he knows his would-be wife doesn't like you. After all, it is his wife who is going to live a life-long life with him and he should value her more than you. And in order to avoid embarrassment, it's wise for you and him not to get in close touch with each other.

I think his future wife sees you as a threat and has probably forbid him from speaking to you. It's sad that some women feel they need to tighten the reins like this. But there may be things that you do not know, maybe he has given her reason to distrust him. I would suggest that you send them a card congratulating them, show that you are the better person and let it go for now. Maybe after they are married and she feels more secure in their relationship she will loosen the reins and you can be friends again.

I would be offended by his behavior. What a jerk! Though, I suspect that it may have to do with his fiancee/future wife. If you were very close friends and you saw a lot of each other, maybe she became jealous of you and gave her future husband some kind of ultimatum. I think it's awful for any woman to make their husband or boyfriend give up friendships in favor of a relationship, but I suspect that he may have sacrificed your friendship for his marriage. You should talk to him about it -- shoot him an e-mail saying exactly how you feel, that you're hurt, and you thought you guys were great friends, and you're really disappointed in how he is acting.

It was not a waste of time. Just think of the treasured moments you have share together. A lot of things can happen in 4weeks time. But you have to understand him. It might be his wife's request not to invite you, since you were close and she might be jealous of you. I am a jealous person so i understand the situation of the wife to be, try to fit in her shoes, it will be her most awaited day and she wouldn't want to ruin it by seeing you there. I totally feel for you, just keep in mind that is was his choice and not yours. Be happy for him and wish him all the best even if he don't want you there, that is what friends do. Cheer up.

I am sorry to hear that , and don't too upset about that . I think he choose love ,but not friendship , its his own choice . He do the wrong thing and its his loss , he lose a good friend like you . it is a big lose for him , no matter he know it or not . don't too upset , if he don't cherish your friendship, it is not a pity for you . you only lose one who don't cherish friend but he lose a good friend of him. good luck with you.

This is hard I know but my husband has always said that no guy wants to ever just be friends and I argued with him about it until I seen what he meant. I used to have a lot of guy friends and he had a lot of friends that were girls. Every single one of my "guy friends" have now tried to be with me even though they know I am married. Same with his friends that were girls. They would still try to pusue it further or invite him places and try to get him to go out with just them and I wasn't invited. I have to side for his wife on this one. You never know he may have told his wife something and she may have told him that she don't want you and him talking much less at his wedding and that is his wife and he has to respect her decisions. I had a guy friend for like 2 years before me and my husband had met and everything was fine. My husband didn't even care that I talked to him and then just about 3 weeks ago I had to tell my husband to tell him to stop sending me messages and to stop calling me because he started saying things that he wanted to be with me and so on. He just would not take a hint. Even after my husband told him to stop he still did. He hasn't wrote me for like a week and I'm glad but you have to realize that this is the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with not just some girl he is taking out on the town. I know if I told my husband I didn't want a certain girl at our wedding he would say ok and repect my decision just as I would for him.

Well,I dislike his indifference.But I think he is under the pressure of his wife.No wife want to share her husband with other women,especially her husband's close friends.That's reasonalbe. I experienced a similar thing 2 weeks ago.I have a best female friend,we have known for each other for 9 years.We are classmates from middle school to high school.His girl friend is also my high school classmate,we are friends too. 2 weeks ago my friends(9 people,including he and his girlfriend) and I enjoyed our holidays in Hebei Province,I think this holiday is really great.We took plenty of pictures there and when I got back home,I received nice messages from him and her.But I was woke up by my cellphone in midnight.I received a message from his girlfriend,but to my surprised the girl sent a wrong reciever--this message should be received by him but indeed I received it.The message said that why he and me looked so closely on the photo.She said she was in doubt about their relationship. Could you imgine what's my feeling after reading this message?I was so shocked!!!A heavy hammer stroke on the heart of mine!!!! I believe that we three can keep a good friendship and honestly I'm innocent.For me,he is just my best female friend,and of course I have no special feeling to him.So how she can maliciously suspect me and her boyfriend??? I'm so upset that I cannot believe she,my friend,can do this to me.Arrrggg.So I think I can understand you.Come on my friend!I'm on your side.

Oh dear, that's really sad. I guess his wife views you as a threat. The fact that you really want to be at the wedding shows how much you value the friendship. Well, if he cannot stand up to his wife and decide which friends are important enough to him to want to have at his wedding, then perhaps you are better off not having him as a friend. Cos the value to the friendship is not mutual. Actually if i were his wife, I wouldn't object. After all, it's her wedding to him, and what better occasion to declare that he's taken? So I recommend that you move on...