Going back to work after raising children

United States
May 14, 2007 2:52pm CST
Today my husband called me from his work to ask if I could find a babysitter for our children and come and help out where he works. The office manager will be gone for the week on a family emergency and they needed someone to answer phones and take messages. I have been sitting at the desk for about 5 hours now and have probably answered to phone about 6 times. I'm pretty sure I understand how to transfer calls, use the intercom and place people on hold ... I know pretty much everyone who works here and have a pretty good idea of what goes on (so I'm not completely lost or anything) ... BUT, I've always kind of dreamed of going back to work and not having kids screaming and crying and needing me to help them with every little need ... but now I'm kind of wondering if I'll ever really want to go back to work full-time. As much as I complain about being a SAHM with three young children at least I have the perception of being able to do whatever I want to do. Here I feel like I'm chained to the desk and I'm a little on edge not wanting to mess up! How many people have raised their children and returned to work? Was it difficult after being home for so long? What were your biggest challenges? How many other SAHM think they'll go back to work when their kids enter school or leave home?
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@Aspenn (30)
• United States
14 May 07
I'm going through the same thing. We always want what we can't have or simply don't have. I'm trying to find alternative ways to make money so that I can stay home with my daughter and niece. Perhaps a part time job would be better to get your foot in the door again? It's a crazy world out there and can become quite overwhelming when trying to re-enter the workforce.
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• United States
14 May 07
I'm not to the point quite yet where I'll be re-entering the workforce, as I have 3 toddlers and plan on home schooling all of them. But, I am looking into selling Avon for some extra income.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
15 May 07
Our kids were preteen when I had to go back to work. We were about to loose everything as my husband's job closed down without any warning. I would get up and get my kids ready for school. I would get ready for work and then take the kids to their great grandparents to stay till time for the bus. I would go to work and as soon as my shift was over I would hurry home and pull in about the same time as the bus did. I would prepare dinner and wash clothes, see that the kids did homework etc. It was hard. We did not have any help with the house work. My husband would cut firewood off our land in the day time and I would load it into the truck and sell it while I was at work. I would take my lunchbreak to deliver the firewood to the person who purchased it. I would unload it and stack it then i would go vback to work. I usually fixed myself a sandwich so I could eat it while I was driving. It was hard. Really hard. As soon as my husband got a good job again, I quit. That was five years later.
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
15 May 07
Well, I have been a stay at home mom that has gone back to work. And then I am a stay at home mom again. *sigh* Although I love the freedom that I have. I also have restrictions too. Being a stay at home mom causes more financial restrictions. Hence, I can not buy what groceries I want and when I want. I can't buy that cute shirt for one of the kids that I just passed because I have to keep a budget in mind. So, even though there are restrictions to a desk in a job outside of home...there are restrictions to the outside world from home also. I have been the mom to go back to work. And at first, I loved it. I was away from the kids and contributing to the mass market world. But at the same time, I felt like I started to grow distant from my children and not know them as well either. I was missing so much of them! All the stories they would tell me when they got home from school were not the same as telling me over dinner. Or the thrill would be gone at that point and they wouldn't tell me. Or even if I had a bad day, they would think to save it for later. So, being at home has benefits...but being at work has benefits too. I guess I will just have to wait until the younger ones are in middle school to make me feel better. But I do plan on getting back to work then. :) Its on what....5 more years. haha I can handle that. :) I hope!