my mothers day treat...and fight!!
By mama4kids
@mama4kids (690)
United States
May 14, 2007 9:35pm CST
my 4 yr old son sang with his preschool in their church yesterday during mass. it was the sweetest thing ever!! he sang you are my sunshine and he loved that one!! so after mass, we went to a family restaurant nearby for lunch. we were in a room of about 10 tables. the table right behind me was an older woman and her husband. or should i say this older bit** and her nasty husband?! my son sang his sunshine song a few times, not loud, very low, and she kept shooting my husband dirty looks. then my 1 yr old started to whine. you know..normal kid stuff!! the rest of the tables nearby seemed to enjoy the song they heard. when this nasty table was getting up to leave, she said to her husband really loud somthing like, lets get out of here and shot my husband a really nasty look. my husband sarcasticly says to her, i am sorry that we bothered you. she looked at us and said well they arent my problem (meaning my kids) and my hubby said back to her..i am glad that you arent my problem. the other tables around were just shocked that she had the nerve to make such a rude remark to us on mothers day, none the less. if you dont like kids, dont go to a family restaurant, especially on mothers day. mothers go out so that they dont have to cook and they tend to bring their children to celebrate with them. that is only normal!!after that table left, the other table near us came over and said to my son that he sings beautifully and that he made her day!! he felt so good about that. how could someone, an adult yet, say such a terrible thing about my kids in front of them?? i couldve just got up and beat the hell out of her!!! but i kept my mouth closed since my kids were there. i was just so appalled. my kids were behaving so good too. not doing anything that anyone else wasnt doing.
has anyone encounted such a rude person out while eating? what did you do about it? should i have said something to her or followed her out and had words with her??
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14 responses
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
15 May 07
Well that is rude. Some people are just like that for some reason. I don't know what they think. They probably think they're superior or something. It's happened to me too. Racist remark. It was my Dad, older brother, and standing in front at the cashier looking at the menu at McDonald's. No one was behind us waiting. I forgot what an elderly man was doing next to me but I hear him say "Dam we*bac*s." Back then I wasn't old enough to react with a good comeback you know so what can I do. I told my Dad later and he just said that I should've said something like "What's your problem old man?" I mean I'm Salvadorian and I don't mean no harm to society. I don't vandalize, destroy, or trash the community. I bet that's what the man had in his mind about all Latinos. But no person nor race, or depending where their from are alike. It just hurts me now that I look back at that.
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@mama4kids (690)
• United States
15 May 07
some people are just nasty, you are right. but it is sad to be that way when kids are in ear shot, you know? i cant believe you went thru that in a mcdonalds. my daughter is half black and i am white so i have heard my share of racist remarks. it hurts, not only the adults but the kids that hear it. makes raising kids that arent racist a little harder. keep your head high. just keep thinking that you are much better than someone that would say such a terrible thing!!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
15 May 07
some people are just bitter at life. Maybe she was just jealous and has no other way of expressing it.
People behave badly all the time and it is up to us other to show that we are "over" them and will not sink to their level.
She is probably a woman who has kids that didnt even bother calling her on mothers day =)
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
15 May 07
That is crazy! kids will be kids. If I was in a restaurant and heard a little kid singin it would make me smile! I would think it was cute. Like you said if you can't stand kids DON'T go to a family restaurant. It is as simple as that. I don't have any kids yet but all kids are going to whine in public sometime. I just can't believe that lady had the nerve to say that to you
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
15 May 07
Ifeel bad for the experience you had on the mothers day ,thats awfull and i think there is something wrong with that old couple or they must have been some misuderstanding with you guys,anyway i hope and pray the god that noone should have thih crazy experience on the ouspicious day and i hope you should not face this in your future again be sportive everyone except them supported you and this proves your innocense and have a peacefull and happy mothers day next time.
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
15 May 07
thanks for your comment. it didnt ruin my day though...just gave us something to talk about..lol
@littleleaf (23)
• China
15 May 07
If such kind of thing happened to me, I think I will not care about that woman. Let her what what she wanted to do. She was unhappy. It was her business, not mine. I think the kid had no fault. He is cure. He just want to bring happiness to us. The women is an andults, maybe in her mind she don't like kids. She feel its noisy.Or maybe that day she didn't have a good mood. Therefore, I think we can't control or change other person's feeling . But what's more important is that we should keep ourselves are good mood. There is not need to be angry with such kind of person.
Everyone has his or her own mind. Every day we will meet a lot of differnt thing. What we should do is to have a calm food or opmistic attitude to face our life.
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
15 May 07
she was unhappy and she shouldnt have put that on my happy family, on mothers day. sad that people are so self centered now isnt it?
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
15 May 07
That's one of my favorite songs as well. I think it's adorable to hear a small child sing. It's like hearing the angels singing in Heaven. That couple should be ashamed of themselves. I'm proud of your husband for handling himself in a very polite way. Mine would have chewed her out with not so nice words. I wouldn't sweat over the old lady's remarks. People like that are just nasty to the core and can't change that. You on the other hand should make sure that his singing is on tape, so you can always go back and listen to it.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
15 May 07
I think you responded correctly. I love to hear children singing, and could not understand why someone would be bothered by it. Maybe she has some sort of problem with mother's day? Maybe there are some family issues, and the day is especially hard on her, and that is why she was so mean? Or maybe she's just a mean person?! (:
I too would have loved to say something equally nasty to her, but like you said, your children were there. I think you handled it well, and kudos to your hubby for saying what he said! ALso, this is a great opportunity for your children to learn and understand, that just because someone is an adult, does not mean that they will act accordingly! This is a hard lesson to learn, but when given the opportunity, it's great to teach them this as early as possible.
@lisado (1227)
• United States
15 May 07
I've had to deal with rude people, as well. I generally just ignore them. Our oldest son is non-verbal Autistic. He "sings" and he sometimes temper tantrums because he can't talk and let us know when he is frustrated. I've been given a lot of nasty looks from people and have heard him being called a brat on more than one occasion. I usually smile and turn it around on them, explaining about my son, which makes them feel about 1 inch tall. If I attack back, then they feel justified. My kids are "rude" because I am. If I calmly explain things to them, and smile, they end up saying they're sorry.
I'm sorry that she nearly spoiled your special day. There was no call for it, but that is just the way that some people are. They get in a bad mood and take it out on those around them.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
15 May 07
Hay, mama4kids, chill out. Its understandable to get upset to meet that kind of rude woman but don't let it burned your desire to celebrate the Mother's Day. I tried to bang my head and think of a situation like yours, but nothing came up. Maybe the old woman was having a bad day or she was just really like that. Forget about that old woman. You have your family on your side. Belated Happy Mother's Day!
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
15 May 07
Sadly, it's people like her that show that they have NO idea how to behave in public. There are going to be people like that no matter where you go, and unfortunately, they have their heads stuck so far up their own a$$es that saying something to them will change absolutely NOTHING.
I personally would have said something to her right there and then in front of my kids. I've had a lot of practice in biting my tongue, but there are times where I feel that saying something is justified.
It makes me wonder if this couple ever had kids together. If not, it's easy to see why she'd think she's something special. Unfortunately, nobody around her shares that view.
@Lovett (464)
• India
15 May 07
Hey, that woman was so irritating. I mean it was none of her business to comment indirectly on your child, She was indeed very rude. Can't believe she spoke this way on mothers day,,, But, nyways we have to bear in mind that such people also do exist. i mean, being old, she didn't even feel responsible for what she spoke. But, i would like to congratulate ur little son, for being such a cute little talented boy. u sure r lucky!!!!!!
@angelblush (75)
• Philippines
16 May 07
What you did was right. You don't have to say something to her and stoop down to their level. I'm sure they were in a bad mood... and was in no mood... for families with kids. You can as well explain to your kids that there are rude people in this world and you don't have to be rude as well.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
16 May 07
That is very rude of her to say that.. For me i like kids and what your son did was the sweetest. Everytime i hear children sing, couldn't help but smile. Sometimes they just make my day!lol I don't understand why some people are like that, maybe they have other issues about kids and that i do not want to know... What's important is what i know that kids make me happy.God bless and Happy mother's day!!!
