i am having issues with my friend

sad - i'm sad about this
Philippines
May 15, 2007 5:50am CST
my friend and i live in the same condominium but different units. we always hang out. our friendship was okay. it was going well. but when we got closer, she started taking advantage of our friendship. she would go to our house just to use our computer to stalk guys that she like. she likes making fun of me, she calls me ugly names and then laughs about it in front of our friends. she also wants me to act in a certain way that she likes. she is becoming manipulative. she always plays innocent[like the shy girl in the corner of the room], but when no one is there, just us, she says bad words, she always talks about guys liking her and she also thinks that her life is better than mine. i'm sad about this. i don't know how to fix our friendship just like before when it was going well. can you help me? am i the problem?
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4 responses
zamm13
@zamm13 (363)
• Philippines
17 May 07
You should talk to her, tell her what you think of her, tell her how u feel about all these things she is doing that you doesnt like. Can you do that? Or will you just keep it to yourself and will never tell her about it?
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oldboy46
@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
22 May 07
She is not a friend at all it seems to me but someone who uses you for her own convenience. You should not let her use your computer to stalk guys. If one of them reports it, then it will be your IP that comes up and you could be blamed for it. You can never go back to where the friendship was before because it has changed so much. Trust me on this one, once things change to this extent they are never the same again. If she makes fun of you, laughts at you and calls you names in front of friends, why would you want to be friends with her? She is no friend to you at all, she is using you and making your life miserable. Take a step back and think about whether you want this sort of person in your life. She is only causing you hurt and misery and no real friend would do that to another friend.
swtnss
@swtnss (264)
• United States
22 May 07
I totally agree with oldboy46, there is no sense in salvaging a friendship when she does nothing but use you. you are better than that. dont let her use your computer because she will get you in trouble if someone reports her for stalking. its your ip address that they will find not hers because they do record that.
Shaunee
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
16 May 07
I would have to get away from her for a while. She sounds like she is causing you trouble and using you.
panicdude
@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
16 May 07
well, maybe i should.. i just don't know. thanks for your response, btw. =]
liyan97
@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
17 May 07
Honestly I despise people like that! I don't think that the frienship would be worth saving! Like you said, she tends to act differently around other people, so then I guess she is FAKE....You deserve a better friend than that, someone who is real and true to you, the same way you are to them!