are you spoiling your child???
By LENCARLOS
@LENCARLOS (92)
Philippines
4 responses
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
15 May 07
i need the answere to this too, i think i made the unfortunate mistake in spoiling my children when they were very young now they are getting older and i am having trouble controling them and getting them to listen. i am also noticing that i may be making the same mistake in my youngest who is now 19 months old. all he has to do is give me a look and i melt.
@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
16 May 07
When a parent makes everything OK all the time, kids dont learn to overcome challenges, as if everything is OK, even when they are already surrounded with other people. They thought it right though, actually it is not. Parents need to give an informed choice with consequences. Learning to make right choiceshelps kids build self-esteem and confidence. Always remember this: Support means helping your children learn to be independent, and pampering always interferes with the process...
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@paidreader (5143)
• United States
16 May 07
Not anymore, lol. My daughter is now 21 and not living at home anymore. I know she had grown accustomed to having more than she does now, but at least I know she was prepared for the change. It makes me feel good that she's able to make things work on her own now. :)
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@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
18 May 07
Thats every parent dreaming of, for their kid to stand on their own, and have more of what we have. And as parents, we are molding them to be good and productive citizens. But as they grow old, and getting mature... its their own will which path do they want to follow. God bless!
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
22 May 07
There is definitely a fine line to supporting or pampering andd thus, spoiling your child. It is so fine for me that sometimes, i contemplate the decisions i made. If my son behaves, he wil be rewarded and if he misbehaves, he will get the consequences that comes with it.
However, i do feel that it is possible to get the right balance by following your own rules and make sure that the rule stays that way without any negotiations. Kids are smart. Therefor, they know when to test you and get the best out of a particular situation.
