what is easier? to start a relationship or to end?

Philippines
May 15, 2007 12:20pm CST
its hard for me to start a relationship because i dont how to begin and im scared if i cant maintain it.. but is starting a relationship as hard as ending it? i never had a chance to end a relationship because at the first place, i havent tried to start one. its so difficult for me to start because i always think that it wiil just end.
6 responses
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
16 May 07
Every beginning has an end... you have to accept that fact. There is no assurance...You just have to be your best selkf in the relationship.. giuving your best to make things work... you'll never go wrong with that... If nothing happens...then its not meant for you... fo sure you'll learn your lessons... charge the remaining to experience. If you dont gamble... of course you wont loose... but I assure you... you wont win either... For me... its easier starting a relationship... Starting a relationship is easy if you both love each other...since your both full of dreams and love just want to explode... Once youre in the middle of it... thats the hardest part...since you're beginning to see the real side of your partner... romance slowly goes down... Ending it... hmmm... when youre tired of everything and you've given your best but nothing happens... then you know its time to let go.
• United States
16 May 07
Personally, I think ending a relationship is a lot harder than beginning one. For one, ending a relationship means, more often than not, hurting the person you are with. Sometimes people grow apart and they change, and just because you feel like the relationship should end, does not mean they feel the same way. You have to think of a way to break the news to them, and then you have to deal with the awkward conversation after you break the news them. Then you have deal with them possibly hating you forever, and I don't know too many people that really want someone to hate you. Especially if you'd still like to stay friends. Beginning a relationship is easier by far. You just have to start talking to them, find out if they're interested, date awhile and decide if you really want to continue the relationship. Far easier.
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
15 May 07
Ending a relationship is surely the easiest task. ALthough starting a relationship is not that easy but i dont think so we would term it as difficult. HOwever the toughest task is maintianing a relationship which we have started. There are several ups and downs and one needs to keep a balance between various relationships to keep things going.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
15 May 07
I believe ending a relationship is harder because you have spent so much time with a person. Sometimes you silently suffer because you no longer want to be there but don't want to hurt the other person. Starting one you have things in common and everything seems great the real work is in trying to stay together and making sure that you don't lose everything that you had in the beginning. Maybe the middle is the hardest part if you really think about it because it takes a lot of work to be in a commited relationship and understanding.
@jossy30 (24)
• Nigeria
15 May 07
It is easier to start a relationship but to me it is hard to end it. I don't know how to end a relationship.Being in relationship is all about knowing you neighbour..there is no way you are going to know the next person besides you without getting into a relstionship with him or her.
@thai11 (239)
• United States
15 May 07
For me it is ALWAYS easier to start a reltionship than to end one. By the time a break up is happening, both people have emotions, time and all the mushy stuff to consider, so its never easy. Some people don't like to hurt the other ones feelings so they will stay in the relationship longer than they wanted to which leads to more feeling of resentment...But you take the bad with the good. Don't fear a relationship...they can be wonderful and beautiful things..don't go into a situation thinking negative things, almost always that's how things will turn out. Try not having any expectations so that way it will be a fun and exciting journey for you...stay positive adn good luck!