My youngest sister was adopted by my Uncle..
By Paulyn Davis
@paulsy (1263)
Philippines
May 15, 2007 1:46pm CST
...my mom's younger brother, when she was still a baby. They never had children of their own. She is now about 22 years old, they live in the US and we live in the Philippines. She never knew she was adopted. She knows we are just her cousins. The last time they visited us was when she was about 7 years old. My dad was crazy about her when he saw her. But we never said a word. My dad passed away about 10 years ago, and she never got to know him well before he died. I am the eldest in the family, and I don't really know how much longer my mother intends to keep this secret. I don't want to be the person to let her know. But I am a bit afraid of what would happen one day when she finally learns the truth. My mother is not getting any younger. She is now 60 years old. How much longer should we all keep this a secret from my sister? Any thoughts.. anyone?
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@leselle (17)
• Philippines
17 May 07
i think it is really good to talk to your mom about how you feel about telling the truth to your sister. that way, you will also know how your mother feels about your idea.
also, it is good to talk to your uncle. if you all decided to finally tell your sister about the truth, your mom should also tell your sister why they "gave" her to your uncle. it would probably hurt your sister...
the best thing to do is pray for whatever your heart desires right now...
@CarmelLove (145)
• United States
16 May 07
This is a very tricky question, but I believe that you have some good points. It's only so long that a secret like that can be held. I think that there should be a family meeting and they should openly discuss this. MAybe then at least some ideas and thoughts can be put on the table. Good luck.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
15 May 07
I think you should talk to your family and let them know how you feel. Explain to them your reasoning of wanting to tell her, I feel your sister should know she was adopted and that you are indeed her sister not her cousin. She is really living a lie and I most certainly would want to know. Im sure your uncle loves her very much and has provided her with the life tools she needs but a very big secret is being kept from her & she should most definitly know about it. I dont think your wrong at all for wanting to tell her infact I think you of all people should let her know..you are her real sister.
