What type of punishment did your parents use when you were a teenager?

@mamasan34 (6518)
United States
May 15, 2007 2:57pm CST
When I was a kid my parents spanked me and grounded me for discipline. I seemed to always be in trouble! and the joke around my house was my original middle name was restriction. So, how did your parents discipline you as a child?
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21 responses
• Canada
15 May 07
i didn't live with my parents as a teen. i moved out at age 13. so i guess my punishment was being kicked out. before that i was grounded a lot, given time outs and hit by their hands and objects. usually hit by wooden spoons from the kitchen.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
I had the wooden spoon treatment on occasion. I am sorry to hear that you were forced to move out of your house at such a tender age.
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• Canada
16 May 07
that's ok, it turned out better. i moved around a lot to relatives houses and friends but then i ended up in a foster home i really enjoyed. my foster mom was great and helped me out a lot. i still talk to her to this day.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
15 May 07
Hello,mamasan,my parents have never punished me when i was a teenager,even when i had done something naughty,they would just tell me not to do it again,they thought that smacking did not work on teenagers but would only hurt them,but i had developed self discipline when times go by.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
They must have seen that you didn't require that much discipline to begin with. Some people are just naturally mature and able to handle themselves well. You are very fortunate to be one of those people! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
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@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
15 May 07
my parents discipline us (siblings) by spanking us on our butt when were in trouble or do something stupid that might hurt one of us siblings, also when were on our teens they discipline us by grounding us in using phone or going out with friends for a week! well all the discipline and hardwork my parents did makes us a good person now :)
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
Your parents must have done a fabulous job for you to turn out so well! Thanks for sharing your comments!
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
15 May 07
I don't recall being punished much as a teenager. I think the only time I was punished was when I snuck out of the house. I was restickted for two weeks. Not bad huh.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
No that's not bad at all! LOL, you must not have gotten into much trouble then!
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
15 May 07
My parents often used the restriction method when we were teenagers. If you didn't follow my dads rules and you were caught he restricted you to staying on the property. If you broke the rules while on that restriction he made you remain in the house. Next step was to take away everything. My dad passed away before I became a teenager so I didn't have that kind of punishment. I wish I had.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
I am sorry for your father's passing. That sounds like a good system that he had. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!
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• United States
15 May 07
When I was a teenager I use to get beat alot but then again not as most as other people my mom was very sweet to us and everyone else use to say we were spoiled but I never thought so but whatever
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
Thanks for the comment. It is good that your mom was a disciplinarian and a sweet mother. It is nice to have a good even balance like that, to know that your mother will not tolerate certain behavior but she loves you too.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 May 07
I didn't live with my parents or anyone as a teenager. I ran away from home at 13 due to physical abuse by my father. I couldn't take it anymore and noone else in my family could stop it so off I went to the carnival for many years. These events happened in the early 60's. It was always hard to prove physical abuse at that time and it usually was overlooked as "disciplinijng an unruly child". Now I recall almost losing an arm for stealing some pocket change from dad. He had a razor strap that barbers use to sharpen their blades. He beat me so hard acroass my arm gangreane set in but luckily it was caught in time. I've lost a lot of feeling in it due to severe nerve damage. He caught me and my older brother playing with wet towels snapping them far away from each other but enough to toss a load of water on each other. He beat us both with the wet towels leaving huge welts on us. So I wasn't treated very nicely as a child. Thanks for this opportunity to relate this also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
16 May 07
And let me add that in no way do I actually blame my dad or hate him for this abuse. As this is the way he was brought up as was his father etc etc. All down the geneology line. But someone somewhere had to change this pattern so I decided that with my kids yelling would be the most severe. I did spank them a few times but never hard to cause pain. Not even discomfort. More of a swat like I give my dog stating don't do this again. Thanks also.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
That is horrible and I am sorry that you had to experience that in your childhood. My father had very much the same childhood. The stories I heard from the family just broke my heart. For some reason my grandfather took all of his anger out on one child and that was my dad. It is sad that they took such measures back then because of the anger within them. My dad said the same thing that it was impossible to get anyone to involve themselves to prove abuse, because even when my dad went to the police about his mom being beaten, they didn't do anything. I am glad things are a little better these days. Thanks for posting and sharing that with us!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
I know how you feel and it is good that you hold no animosity toward your father for that. My father too didn't hold it against his dad because he too understood that it was just the way he was brought up through his life and it had to be broken in his life. He tried so hard to break that cycle, there were a few times that he was very brutal with me and my mom was far more brutal to me and more often. I don't blame them for it because that is what they learned, but I as you did, I made the changes in my life to not do that with my daughter. Thanks!
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
18 May 07
I really didn't require much punishment as I was such a model child. *large sheepish grin* Mostly my parents would remove privileges or 'ground' me. For instance, they would disallow phone calls for a week or they would say 'no TV for a week' or something like that. Grounding meant that I could not go anywhere except to school or work or church. No outings with friends, no phone calls from friends etc. Grounding was in week blocks.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 May 07
Most times I think grounding works the best! But I do spank occasionally, nowadays my duaghter is taller than me, so she thinks its funny...not during but afterwards. I guess it is kind of comical. LOL
@bluewings (3857)
16 May 07
I too was spanked by my father when I did something mischievous.My worst punishment was that my playing hours was banned.After returning from school ,I tossed my bag and went to play football straightaway.I couldn't focus on my studies if I didn't sweat it out on the field and the worst punishment for me was to stay at home during those hours when my friends were playing.I couldn't concentrate on anything and was so close to banging my head on the wall ,lol.Well,most of the times my parents would realise that the punishment didn't help much as I was like a trapped bird trying to break free.So, they would lift the ban with a warning not to repeat my misconduct,lol.
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@bluewings (3857)
16 May 07
Oh yeah,I couldn't do without my dose of sports in those days.Never tell your parents what you love to do if you don't want to get punished :-P lol Just kidding.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
That is a good punishment then I would say lol! It sounds like you were a very athletic person and needed to release that pent up energy after school. So, that worked for your parents when you were to be punished. I have done this with my daughter and it worked pretty decent. I guess thats the secret weapon!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
LOL! But it is true! I told my parents what I loved to do and they most always took it away from me when I was on restriction.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
28 May 07
Spanking is not common here . In our childhood, we were beaten up with canes( usually thick bamboo sticks) for our pranks. But I have never beaten up my two children while they grew up. I spared the rod but I am quite sure that I didn't spoil them. ( Ref : proverb -" Spare the rod and spoil the child ")
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
28 May 07
Sometimes it is not necessary to spank your children. It all depends on the child and what they respond to. As for me, I was spanked and often. I pulled many pranks in my childhood and was very mean. They certainly did not spare the rod in my case! hahaha! As for my daughter, I have not spanked her in years and she responds to restrictions better. Thanks for the post!
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
18 May 07
I experienced once in my whole life the spank of my father to me when I was a maybe 8yrs. old then. That was the first and last punishment I ever recieved and the rest only talking to me seriously and warned me if I do it again but maybe I was nice that time and of course afraid to commit again another mistake thats why I'm really carefull of doing something wrong.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 May 07
Sometimes spanking only once will ensure that a child will not repeat the same mistake. It seems to have worked for you because you didn't want to be spanked again. That is good! Sometimes like me, I was so stubborn I was repeatedly spanked and restricted. LOL
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Then it worked, hahaha! I hate to be hurt so spanking was the way to go with me!
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 May 07
Yeahh your right It was my first and last spank I ever experienced and I was afraid that time and afraid to do it again. hahaa,tnx
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 May 07
When I was a teen ager they used to ground me and I can't go ou alone without my mom coz I don't have any brothers or sisters I always be with my mom to go out. Only once in my life my father spank me at my buttocks it was because for me also for not doing it again.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Jun 07
yeah, going out alone as a teen was important to us eh? Having to be taken around my mom or dad while grounded, now that was awful. I too had this happen with me as being grounded meant that I had to go everywhere my parents went when they wanted to leave the house. AAAhhhhh it was awful! LOL
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
15 May 07
My parents disciplined me and my 2 sisters by spanking us only if it was the last resort. Otherwise we mostly were punished by being sent to our room for awhile, we couldnt play with any toys or watch tv while we were punished which made us always try to listen to them because for a kid to be in there room with all there favorite toys and not play with them is REALLY TEMPTING FOR A KID...so I think it worked.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 May 07
This is true! Very tempting indeed! I know, I used to do this with my daughter and she was just aching to play with her toys but she finally learned that if she was naughty that she couldn't so she came around, thanks for commenting!
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
18 May 07
Spanked, scolding is normal for me when I am a teenager. Thereafter, my parent punished by asking me to recite chinese 300 Tangs Poem and some other article they can find. That's is tough though but good for me.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 May 07
That is a unique punishment to recite poems. It is constructive! I will have to use this for my daughter. That is a tough punishment but it worked for you. Every child is different and requires different ways of dealing with discipline!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 May 07
Well I always got the Blame for everything even if it was my Brother and my Mum used to use the Carpet Beater on me I will never forgot the day she hit me black and blue when my Brother broke one of her Ornaments and blamed me She would not send me to my Room as I used to love sitting in my room reading lol
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 May 07
I used to love to read, it was a great escape from real life. My brother used to do much the same as your brother. My mom most often believed him because he was never in trouble...gee mom I wonder why? He was always blaming me. LOL
@selina0625 (1379)
• Philippines
16 May 07
My mom - I love her for being a disciplinarian when we were younger, it made us what we are today.
My mom was bit harsh when I was a kid when she gives us punishment. She would really spank us when we failed to do our assignments and failed to study. We were also not allowed to watch any TV at all during weekdays.All we need to do is study and be good at school. We'll it may seem a bit harsh but the results were great. All of my siblings and me graduated and now have a good profession. The punishment does lessen as we grow older because she already saw in us that we are responsible in our studies, thus no need for puishment just to push us to study.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
I would say no t.v. was a bit much but that is only my opinion. I understand why she did so and apparently it worked for her and you as well! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me!
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
16 May 07
Those were the days when my mother would beat us (me and my younger brother ) black and blue with a thick stick. She had the bent of mind that she would not spare the rod and spoil the child. Our pranks were never forgiven.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
That was my parents theory, spare the rod and spoil the child, so the rod wasn't spared in our house and pranks were not forgiven either. Thanks for sharing!
@RenaeT (681)
• United States
16 May 07
Well, this is no laughing matter, but my mother was pretty abusive all my childhood, so when I became a teenager, I couldn't take it anymore. One day I came home from 7th grade with mascara on. She back handed me in the hallway, screaming "What is that SH** on your face???" She kicked me and hit me and pushed me all the way down the hall and into the bathroom, where I got into the shower and pulled the glass door shut. The next day, I ran away. The cops found me, took me home. She beat me. I ran away, the cops found me, took me home. She beat me. I ran away again, I came home in the middle of the night on my own, she woke me up at 5AM and started beating me with a belt...then shoved me out the front door where the police were parked, they took me to Juvinile Hall. I spent a couple nights there, went to a hearing and they sent me home. I did NOT want to go home. I'd been abused long enough! We got home, she beat me. I ran away. I was gone for a few weeks and then she found out where I was, the cops came, arrested me, took me to Juvie, we went to a hearing, the judge told me I could go home. I told him I didn't want to go home. My mom was sitting in the chair next to me. She cried. Funny. They asked what I wanted them to do with me. I asked to be placed in a foster home. They said they'd discuss it, I got to stay in Juvie for a few more weeks and then they found me a wonderful foster home. I was there 4 months. Long long story, but here I am 50 years old and me and mom are still trying to get along. It was a tough life. Nowadays, she'd be in jail. Back then, child abuse had to be so severe for a parent to be arrested.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
Renae, I am sorry that you had to go through so much at such a young age. No one should be subjected to that kind of abuse. It is awful, but my grandfather was very brutal to my father and my grandmother and the stories I heard were just terrible. I am glad you found a wonderful foster home and were able to get some relief from the abuse. That was a tough life you lived. I applaud you for trying to make a relationship with your mother. Your right, if she were to do that in this day and age, she would most certainly be in jail, but back then, people just minded their own business and thought "oh, she must just be a really bad kid for her mom to have to do that". I don't understand that thinking and that it was acceptable! Thanks for sharing that part of your life with me.
@yanstill (1490)
• China
16 May 07
i found that in my memory,my parents never spanked me.i was a naughty girl that time,and my teacher at primary school always angry at me,and they threatened that they wanted to see my parents.but this was the last one i scared about.because my parents would think that it was normal a kid being naughty,and coz they never spanked me,so i didn't scare.now,i grow up,and when i take a look at my life when i was a child,i always laugh at myself,why am i so different from the kid before?lol.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
I understand about looking back and seeing all of the silly things we did as kids that made us naughty. My parents did spank me and restrict me because I was always in trouble! That is good that your parents didn't spank you, I am sure you were not that bad for them not to have! Thanks for commenting!
@marababe (2503)
• Philippines
16 May 07
I was never really punished when I was a child and even until now that I am turning 20. Some say I am spoiled but I don't think I am. My parents, especially my dad, just doesn't believe that hurting your child will do any good more than harm. My younger brother though was spanked quite a lot of times when we were kids by mom. Anyway, the most that I could call a punsihment was when I had a chaperone when i go out. That's it. When I do something that is wrong and makes my parents upset and furious, they just talk to me about it like an adult and we explain each others' side. That's how they discipline me until now.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
16 May 07
They must feel that you are quite capable of being responsible and don't need the extra discipline as your brother did, thanks for sharing!