can you imagine giving your baby away???
By iloveles
@iloveles (55)
Australia
May 15, 2007 8:46pm CST
I know a lady, now in her 50's who had a baby at 13 in secret and hid during her pregnancy. She had to give the baby away. She never told her sisters or friends and now has met her `baby' for the first time! Can you imagine what it would be like to give your baby up after those 9 months of such intense bonding? And a mother's heart is so passionate and protective towards the young that it would break in two, I would imagine. Everything is geared up to kick in and nurture really. But 13!! Imagine?? I was playing with barbies at 13 and didn't really know that boys existed. Naive I guess, but I watch my little 7 year old daughter with such fear. I desperately want her to be a sweet princess for as long as she is here with me...I can't get my head around it!
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17 responses
@ericashill2001 (4)
• United States
16 May 07
No I couldn't imagine giving up my baby, but I am sure that being only 13 she had no way of taking care of that baby so she made a difficult, but mature decision to give her baby up for adoption. I am sure, even if you may not want the baby and you know that you can't take care of it, giving it away is very difficult to do.
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@dcroome2005 (1210)
• United States
16 May 07
Wow, I can't imagine that. I don't think I could ever give away a baby that I carried in my tummy for 9 months. That is just me though. I totally respect the ladies who choose to give a baby a better life if they can't provide that. I hope that one day I will be able to have a miracle which the odds are very low or adopt a child which I am really wanting to do anyways! But I am like y ou, I was playing with toys at 13. Now a days though, kids are having kids because parents can't control their own children. LOL
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
17 May 07
No, I can never give my baby back. I will see to it that when i will have a baby, I am already ready with everything. That I am physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually ready having a child so that I will not have any problems by the time I have one.
Wow, that lady is young when she had her baby so maybe she has no choice but to give it away. But it is good to know that they have seen each other, at least the mother got to see her child.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
16 May 07
Oh my god...at thirteen I was also playing with toys not even thinking about any boys. I couldnt even imagine carrying my child for 9 months in the womb, watching me give birth to this miracle then having to give my baby away..it would literally break my heart into a thousand pieces and it never could be fixed. On the other hand she was only 13..she probably had no control over that situation. Atleast she met her "baby" and can make peace with herself.
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
17 May 07
I couldnt imagine giving up a child but there are different reasons for everybody. I know that if i was someone who couldnt have children of my own i would be so grateful the person who loved their child enough to know that they couldnt give it the life that it deserved so i would be able too. I have 2 little girls one is 6 and the other is almost 4 and i to want them to stay my little princesses forever but my 4 year old is already talking baout when she grows up she is going to have a baby and she is going to name it a certain anme and she will come pick me up or drop off the baby so i can help her in the store with it or babyssit for her. Imagine how i am feeling right now.
@thathalazarini (486)
• Brazil
17 May 07
No, I can't!
I'm not a mom yet but I'd never give my baby away, no matter what are the reasons and the situation!
Many women who do that feel terrible after some years, regret and try to get them back and it doesn't always work because deppending how her son was raised by someone else, he/she may hate his/her mom for leaving them... And this would be even worse for the mother
@chiragpgandhi (1388)
• India
16 May 07
i agree with you but i really want to know about after 35 years,
when the old lady meet her daughter then what was the reaction of daughter,
what she says to her mother about all this..,
reply me i am waiting for ...,
have nice life with your daughter.
@GergOnline (399)
• United States
16 May 07
did you know the youngest mother in the worls was only 5 years old?!??!? wikipedia that, it will tell you all about her. she had this very rare condition where she started marturing VERY early. they think it was her father who knocked her up, but she is still alive living somewhere in eurpoe i think. but her parents raised her child as her sister.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
16 May 07
I can't imagine even in my wildest dream giving up my child. I never thought about it maybe even I don't have enough money for her future I will do my best for my child strive, so that no one will can take away my child with me.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
16 May 07
I dont think i can do that. You are responsible your child`s life. Its not easy to be pregnant for 9 months. You sacrifice everything, and now you want it away from you. What kind of mother you are if you do that. I love my son i will love him forever. I will be my son`s side if he need me.
@tictactams (135)
• Australia
16 May 07
it is a hard thing to do but you seem to manage but when i did it was different for me as i got pregant at 14 gave birth time i was 15 then my parents raised him for 3 years but i think i could give a baby i would consider even helping people who cant have kids
@dominic1212 (55)
• China
16 May 07
I've never thought about that, but it did exist in the world!
Parents should be responsible for the education of your children!
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@simple_butterfly (478)
• Philippines
16 May 07
Yeah, here in our place I have known mothers giving away their babies. For me, I can't take it because it's mine. Well..maybe because of so many reasons they can't kept their baby like with that lady is she's only 13 and she don't know how to take care of it. I have also a 4 yrs old daugther now and it's a great decision to have her in my life. It completeed me! :)
