first night out since baby's birth

Being a new mom and leaving ur baby for the 1st time is tough. My son was 17 months old b4 I left him with my parents for a night out with my husband. I must have called them 5 times before the movie started and 3 times after it ended. If ur not comfy, don't go. Trust ur mama instinct and do waht u thnk is best for ur child. and btw, I think all husband's are deep sleepers once the baby comes along. I think it's an excuse to get out of baby duty.

I would suggest that you take this opportunity as your sign that it is time to get out. You have been with this precious child for 5 months and now it is time for you to take a break and have a girls night out. You will definitely worry, but it is better for the baby to learn to be left alone with others before he/she gets so attached to you that he won't stay with anyone else. It's a very rewarding job being a new mom, but it can also be stressful at times. Remember to take care of yourself also. Spending some time with your friend is probably just what the docotor ordered.

If I were you , I would try and go out. I know as a first time mom it is hard. You dont want to give up your life completely though. Im sure you husband would do fine, if you dont think so, then maybe inlist in a friends help that you trust. You should try and go out for at least a little while. Moms need breaks to

Leaving your baby for the first time is always hard , no matter where you are going . And the only way you will know if the time is right for you is to try and if you don't feel comfortable then explain to your friend that it is just to early and that you are sorry , you can't do it . I am still like you , five children later and still worry that my husband will not wake up with the children when I go out . I am still not comfortable going for any length of time at night , even though I now have older children to listen to the younger one's at night . Yet when I had my first child , I didn't seem to have as many fears of leaving my children as I do , now that I have started over again . If you want to go out there is nothing wrong with this but you will have to decide for yourself and try to know how you are going to feel . There is no point in going if you know you are not going to enjoy yourself but if you think the break would be nice , then you should definitely go and have a good time . Best of luck in whatever you decide :)

The choice is really up to you. It is definitely good for you because you can have some time away from the baby. Relax, unwind and simply have a great time with your friend. You have to remember that if you are nursing your child, the alchohol will go to the baby as well. Is your friend married? Have a child? If no, then as a friend she should be more understanding towards you. Have a girl's day out instead of a night out? your friend can have a chance to get to know the baby if you want to bring the baby out as well. Basically, You have to prioritise which is more important... baby or your friend. I am NOT saying that you shouldn't go out with your friend here. What i'm saying is, you friend should be more understanding that you just got a baby and is probably to young to be left in the care of someone else. Cheers! - Lyn

There always has to be a first time. If you are concerned maybe go out early enough so that when you get home your husband will be awake still. I think it is really important that you go out with your friend for a few reasons. First you need a break to remind yourself of what fun outside of being a mommy can be. Your husband also needs that time alone with his baby. Daddy needs to know he is up for the task that being a daddy entails. The baby needs time to depend on others besides mommy. So think of it as helping Daddy and baby both and get out there and enjoy your time away. Since you will like all of us be concerned and have a hard time letting yourself have fun the first time out. Don't plan a long night out. Just a few hours and I am sure your friend will be more then happy to spend that time with you and come back to your house so you two can talk about old times together. Have fun!!

Girl listen, my guy is a heavy deep sleeper too. But you gotta go out. Ya you've never left him before but theres a first time for everything! wouldnt you live a couple hours to just not think? I'm not big on the bar scene butif some one, any one wants to take me oout side I'm all for it! my son is 16 months right now and I only every levae him with my man or his parents. never sitters. cause if you cant trust you man alone with your kid then why did u have a baby with him right??

Hi cheryl I always listen to myself.If something is telling me not to do something I wont do it. But thats up to you Im just telling you what I do.

You need to get out there otherwise you are going to turn into one of these overprotective mothers. I know you are anxious and nervous but so will your husband be so I doubt he will get himself relaxed enough to have a deep sleep. Agree to phone him twice during your outing at specific times and try and relax while you are out. Obviously don't drink too much as it is your first time so you are bound to be a bundle of nerves but you can't just stop living cos you are a mother now.

I'm sure that your husband will be ok for a few hours. I think you should go out with your friend for a little while. Now if she wants you to take her out every night you might have to put your foot downa nd tell her NO! But you should enjoy your friend while she is here!

every mom goes threw this i say go out just do not make the first outing a long one come home when you feel you need to or even call things will get better as time goes by

I know exactly what your feeling now, I remember feeling like that when I gave birth to my daughter and I had to leave her for the first time. Trust me I know its hard BUT you must have sometime for yourself to go out, your son will be fine with his father. I had the same fears as you do but you must trust your husband right? Of course you do and you know he would never let anything happen to your son. If you really are still scared to leave him home while you go out maybe you can tell your friend you can only be out for like an hour or two then you have to be back home if she is a true friend she will understand and not hold it against you.