Can you admit when your child misbehaves?

I think it's unfair that he's only picking at your child. Yes, he should punish both children since not doing so would make him look like he's favoring one child. Personally, when my nephew does something wrong, I don't punish him. I just relate what he did to my brother so he can do the punishing. For me, I don't think I would feel comfortable punishing someone elses' child.

Ooohh ppl like that drive me NUTS!! and actually my brother is like that with his daughter to the extreme...its actually quite sickening what he's like when it comes to his girl...she is PERFECT, can do no wrong, and when she does do something wrong he generally laughs about it and says somethign dumb like "oh relax its no big deal".....He's been that way with her all her life IN FACT this kid was SO spoiled...at the age of 4 she was still being spoon fed (except when I had her cause i refused to do it) and getting her bottom wiped for her etc etc..it was infuriating at times (I had her 3 days a week overnight)...Dont get me wrong I love my neice very very much but now that she's almost 14, his lack of parenting skills and how she's been raised REALLY shows..... My brother would punish my kids but not her even if she was doing the same thing...BUT when she was in my care, if I busted the three of them doin something they shouldnt THEY ALL got in trouble (and my brother never crossed me on it either oddly enough)....

I totally agree with you! Whats good for the goose is good for the gander! I have an idea, when he punishes your child for something, and his is doing the same, point it out. Better yet, punish his child yourself!! My sister came over one day with her 3 kids, two are 7, one is 4 and I had my 3 week (at the time) daughter asleep. They were going nuts, and my sister wouldnt stop them. So I stepped in and did it, it caused a huge rift in our family.

Yes,both kids should be equally punished. I would tell your brother that unless he is going to treat the kids equally he has no right to punish your child. I would be firm about it before your kids begin to resent him and their cousin.

YES, my friend.....you are absolutely correct about this....he is not doing his child a favor by turning a blind eye" to what his child is doing wrong...he is teaching his son that he holds "special" treatment..... Yes, I expect my child to already know and follow the rules.....but if he is in a group and they are all doing something wrong...he does not get away with it...I do not think that is fair....showing a difference between children that are all partaking in the same activity sends them the wrong message, in my opinion... My situation is alittle different since my 5 yr old son has 3 siblings that are grown with children of their own....his playmates are frequently his neices and nephews...and his siblings, of course, have the right to punish him within reasonable boundaries.... I think that I would try to discuss this with your brother...maybe, he is not aware that he is doing this...at least, I hope that is what is going on.... Children need to know their boundaries and that each of them is a valued part of the family structure...this teaches them that there are the same consequences for "wrong" behavior for all concerned.....that is the way the laws of our country are written and nobody should get special treatment...we all want our children to be able to function in society someday and following the rules is a part of life we all have to deal with!! I would express my feelings to my brother....it will cause hard feelings if you continue to keep it bottled up inside.....

I wouldn't tolerate the differences being made. If someone was treating their child different then mine I would have to speak up and say something. By excusing one childs behavior and not the other he is sending out mixed messages.

I agree with you to the fullest! It sounds like he's only teaching your children that he's a big meanie. I'd have to tell him that I'll do my own disciplining and he should do the same for his child. It's not fair that he's blind to his own kid's actions, but he sees everything your kids do. Besides, what kind of example is he setting for his child? Being a bully maybe? I hope you're able to talk to him about this. Otherwise you may end up having some built up tension between you.

yes its only fair that both children should get in trouble for what they were doing wrong its only fair but its wrong for your brother to be punishing your child to do it ewhen he should be more into his child for doing it

well i am not a father until now but i wont accept any misbehaviour

Let me get this straight. Your brother will punish YOUR children, but not his own child when HIS child is doing something bad??? OMG that would P!SS ME OFF!!! He SHOULD punish all of them, not just yours! But I'm assuming he must think his child is perfect, otherwise why else would he not punish his OWN son?I'd tell anyone that did this that they are being hypocritical or that they are playing favorites when it comes to things like this. Yes, I can admit it when my children misbehave...even when they are being good and some compliments them, I'll say something like "Oh they're not always THIS good!!!" These people give me a strange look LOL, but I'm not one to pretend my kids are perfectly behaved all the time when they are not. My mom used to get complimented all the time when my sister and I were little on how well behaved we were. Of course we were well behaved, before we'd leave the house she'd always tell us to behave OR ELSE! My mom would just smile and say 'thank you'. Okay, so my mom only had to follow through with the warning once, and I happened to be the one to get smacked in the face. I'll admit that I did send her over the top the day she did this as she did warn me more than once to be quiet or else, but as I felt strongly about what I was arguing about with my sister I continued to argue my point. I probably did this because my sister would do the exact same thing, yet get away with it and not even get so much as a warning! And here I'm the baby of the family! LOL To this day I cannot remember what the argument was about. I did bring this warning thing up with my mom a few years ago and I let her know it scared the h#ll out of me whenever she'd give me this warning. She said she didn't mean to scare me, she just wanted us kids to behave. :P

I'm not a stern disciplinarian of little ones, by nature. But I do have parameters and I know that order is healthy for children. I confess to being one of those parents who were "blind" where there own children were concerned. I have one boy and my sister has 2 boys. Her little ones were rambunctious, scruffy, hyper little boys. Typical boy behaviour. But MY son could walk on water! He was polite at all times, he wore Buster Brown shoes which he never scuffed, he was intellgent, adorable and naturally well-mannered. I would have disciplined him but he did no wrong. I don't know how my sister tolerated me! Well, maybe she did because that is exactly how my son was - around adults. Around the other kids, he was a regular hooligan, a ringleader! He had the game figured out by the time he was 3! He had every adult hoodwinked except for my sister. She had a keener eye because her boys were more obvious about their hijinks. But no one believed her when she would try to tell us who the real trouble maker was - and the other kids would never give him up. One blessed day, my sister had me secretly watch out the window to see my son in his sailor suit and Buster Browns bullying a kid twice his size - oh, the language he used! My son learned to play poker at 7 and taught his friends to gamble! I was utterly charmed by him and he knew it. Thanks to my sister I caught on as much as I was able to and tried to mend my ways. I realized the dangers that arrogance and disregard for rules would cost him as an adult. I began to try and correct the impression that he was somehow untouchable. He is 22 now, a computer tech and musician but just as charming as ever. Please tell your brother that he is doing his son no great favor by making him feel as if he is above it all. It may be fun now to indulge his son but imagine how sickening that child will be as a teen and how useless he will be as an adult.

it should be the case that you should punish those children that misbehave. thats what i do with mu child. i punish her if she misbehave. and i punish her and her playmate if they misbehave, the two of us. i dont tolerate the bad attitude of my child. i want her to grow disciplined.

Hey, dats not right. u should treat all children equally. I mean , if my child would do a mistake(in future, as I have no childern yet), I would alaways treat children equally, otherwise our behaviour towards them , puts a question in their mind, as to y we did correct the other children, even though they were doing the same thing. N this might result in the child doubting our love for them. They would think that we love the other children more than them. your bro, was wrong. U should have told him that later though. Nywayz, try speaking to your Bro. N take care,,,Happy Parenting!!!

Yes u are right he should punish both kids not just yours to be honest with u he should not even be telling ur kid off they can learn right from wrong from u,he aint going to learn like that with ur brother telling him off all the time, my saying is whats good for one is good for the other.

Well, i have no qualms about punishment when my children misbehaves. However, i do have second thoughts about punishing other children when they misbehave. I believe that parents are suppose to be responsible for their children's upbringing. Parents should be the one dishing out the punishment instead of a 3rd party. Since it is your brother punishing your child, you could have highlighted that fact to him. Have an open relationship for the good of the children so they don't play sides when they are grown up. And yes, i do agree both should be punished since they were doing it together. - Lyn

I think both children should be punished or your brother should punish his son first.