How long were you engaged for before you got married?
@linzmcwilliams (1552)
May 16, 2007 9:53am CST
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years but we are both only eighteen. He seems to think it would be a good idea to get engaged and wait another four or five years before we get married. I’m of the opinion that we are still too young to think about an engagement but I’m curious. How long were you engaged for before you got married?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
17 May 07
my husband and i knew eachother for about a year before we started our relationship, and then about a year after that he gave me a promise ring so it wasn't so much like engagement, just the promise of engagement to come.
we got engaged about 2 and a half years after i moved in with him and married about 6 months later.
we've now been married 9 happy months, and hun, i'm also 18.
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
17 May 07
if you want to get married go for it, if you want to be engaged, go for it, just remember that things can change, but if you have been together for as long as you have, then probably unlikely.
If you don't want to or don't feel right about it hun, then tell him that, the most he can do for you is understand.
@Theresam (1177)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I think you are way too young to get enagaged. I have a few friends that were engaged before the age of 20 and wanted to wait 4-5 years to get married. None of those relationships turned into a marriage and they were together several years at that time.
Being 18 is too young to be tied down to one person. I am not saying you won't end up with your boyfriend, but play it by ear.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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19 Jun 07
I was engaged to my wife for 3 years. (well close to three years)
Married for one :)
It's something which I'm glad to of done, even though I am young. It's the right choose for us.. cya
~Joey
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
17 May 07
linzmcwilliams my husband and i started going out in december, by the middle of january he proposed and i accepted, we were married by april. 4 months actually. you can say that it's a whirlwind romance. but we are happily married it happened 6 years ago.
@jainaewen (170)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
hi linz ,my fiance and i were friends for almost 5 years before and now were engaged for almost 2 years but its okay with me and him we decided to get married soon.im excited!
@jainaewen (170)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
hi linzmcwilliams my fiance and i were friends for almost 5 years and not were engaged for almost 2 years. we became friends since i was 19 but its really okay to be engaged so long ive notice it makes us more closer and i know his attitude more.an i know him more.im happy even were engaged for almost 2 years now but soon were getting married .:)am excited!heheheh
@soulist (2985)
• United States
16 May 07
I was engaged for two years, and the relationship didn't work out. I like the idea of being engaged for a year or so but not 4 or 5, that's too long to wait. It is a good idea for you guys to wait a little while long cause college changes people.
@rjbass (1422)
• United States
16 May 07
I was engaged for less than a year before I got married. That was over seven years ago and three children ago. I think the length of engagement really depends on the couple. One thing is for sure. If you have any reservations about marrying your partner, you should hold off until you are sure.
@apakabar2007 (1693)
• Netherlands
16 May 07
I've known my husband more than 12 years. We decided to have a real date about 3 years before finally decided to get married. So basically, I know my husband quite long enough to make me said yes to his married proposal and that we've both mature enough to take responsibility to start our own family. My dear linzmcwilliams, you are both 18 years old...so you still plenty of time to prepare thing before you decided to take your relationship to the next level and I don't see anything wrong about getting engaged....wish you all the best!!!
@mummymo (23706)
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16 May 07
When I married my first husband we were engaged for about 10 days before we got married! My partner and I have been engaged for almost 10 years and still have no plans to get married soon! It is all about what feels right to the couple involved - it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks honey! xxx
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
16 May 07
I was engaged 6 years before I got married. You have been with your boyfriend 4 years, which is a long time. Since you are very young to get married, I think waiting until your around 25 years old would be a better age. I think people change as they get older. good luck.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
16 May 07
Well, i definately think u guys are too young for engagement...
As in, 18 only...
I guess its best to get engaged one year before ur marriage...
Of coz, thats just my point of view...
But waiting four to five years is definately too long...
U never know what will happened and what might happen in this four to five years...
Besides, u guys are still pretty young, so theres endless possibilities right?
I guess u guys can wait till a nearer date like maybe when its closer to 2-3 years?
At least tts closer...
But unless u are very sure hes the man of ur life and nothing will change ur love...
Den why not, go ahead...
ALl the best...
=)