The "Honey Do" List

we do not use a honey do list at all we have been married for almost 7 years and would never do that it seams degrading really just show mutual respect to each other and request things and all is well a honey do list seams like a have to do ordering around list to us so we go about things much different and it works out really well but i do agree some things a woman has to do herself but most of the time if i tell my hubby never mind i'll do it he goes and does it himself so i do not have to have you tried not using a honey do list? my friend used the honey do with her boyfriend and it did not seam to go over well ether

This past weekend I asked my husband to clean out the microwave for me...HA HA What he did was dismantle it, door, hinges, filters, hood piece, fans, light plates and light fixtures. OH MY gosh the kitchen was scattered with micro wave parts when I got home, it took him several hours, but clean the microwave he did. When he was trying to get it put back together he discovered he had bent a hinge on the door, that had to be straightened out, then he was putting the plates and filters back in and stuck his screw driver into the circuit panel, sparks flew out the opening and half of the house was without electricity. I was so frightened my lovely micro was not ever going to work again. With relief he got it put back together and it still works. My lesson in all of this? My "honey do" list from now on will be quite specific. When I say clean the microwave I will instead say wipe the inside of the microwave out with paper towel and 409! Nothing more :))))

Well Royal there is only me so I guess that it is all down to me really lol At least I do not have the Problem of having to rely on someone to do it and get disappointed anymore lol I have to say though when my Lovely Man is here and I ask him to do something he will do it for me so I do not have that Problem as such Next time tell him that he can't borrow the car lol

The only things I make my hubby do is the trash and mowing the grass. There are things though from time to time that creep up. Like you I expect the things to be done in a timely manner or I'll end up doing them myself. It does get frustrating. I have a procrastinator for a hubby but lately he's trying to better that about himself. Our cars luckily do well in between oil changes so we don't have to worry about that so much.

I added taking the garbage out to the trashcan on my hubby's list. After 26 years of knowing him, he suddenly revealed a phobia to garbage! Yeah he got an A for effort, but he takes that garbage out anyway. I told him he was never too old to face his fears. :-) My list is as follows and is on the fridge (I made it as a joke, but it works! LOL), I always give the “suggestions" along with support why I am asking him. 1. Put dirty clothes in the hamper - I wash clothes from there and not off the floor. 2.Take the garbage bags out to the trash can - Or I will stop collecting garbage from the house to go into those bags. 3.Lift the seat - and I won't hide the toilet paper on you. 4. Cook one meal once a week - or 7 days, your choice. 5. Cut the grass - Or cut the grass AND clean the house. Again your choice 6. If you can fix it, do so - I can do it with two books, checkbook and phonebook

Hoghoney here and I have a Honey do list, LOL. If I want something done is all I have to do is say it and my honey will do it, or if I want something my honey will do his best to get it for me. My honey will do anything for me. he is the best do guy.

My hubby and I have dueling Honey-Dos - he writes mine, I write his - it seems to work for us anyway ;) however, with a previous partner the answer was nearly always "I don't have time..." but he had time for anything else under the sun - just as long as I didn't ask him to do it - or he'd do it with a serious grudge on Passive-aggressive and openly aggressive - both are possible indicators that someone is not 'happy' about something that may be completely unrelated - maybe a bit of talking is in order.

Mine is good for any maintenance on the car, but for other things, I might have to ask him 10 times before he remembers to do it. It's usually for something very small too, and I would do it if I could, but I can't so I ask him. He just forgets. I would write him a note to help him remember, but I forget to do that. So I'm just as bad.

I guess its always like tt.. Do u do what he want u to? Sometimes we are too close we tend to forget and neglect the person's feelings... thus, i guess u shouldnt get too angry, instead... Talk to him... Thrash things out....

Oh my gosh yes, I have a honey do list. He hates it. But I told him this weekend I would give him a break. I have to open out pool up, put down wood floor in the bathroom, etc. etc. He hates my honey do list as he says he already has his own honey do list he maintains. LOL :-)