kids sharing a room

Are the two kids she has the same gender? I believe if I had the room for each of them tohave their own room, then that is what I would do. I think everyone needs their own space and privacy and they have to learn to take care of their own room and be responsible. I think there are alot of other ways to get your kids to bond also. I don't think I would dress my kids the same unless that is what they had chose themselves. Maybe she did want twins.

I have never heard of someone doing anything like this. I mean I know siblings share bedrooms I did with my sister when I was growing up. But I never heard of a parent buying their daughters matching clothes all of the time. I had a few outfits that matched my sisters but that was mainly for family photos or because we were going to a large get together and it made it easier to spot us. I have to admit that when I but toys I do try to buy most of them in sets of threes because it cuts down on the fights amongest the children. I have to agree with you it sounds like she wanted twins.

I don't see any thing wrong with them being in the same room, BUT I do see some thing wrong with them sleeping in the same bed. Siblings don't have to sleep together to be close. If I were you I would have to comment to her, But comment wisely. You say that she has other bedrooms are they a mess? Maybe you could suggest helping her clean up one of rooms. See what she says. Good luck.

sounds like she did lol...... when my girls were younger, they shared a room and we used the other bedroom as a play room...then we had a border (a friend of the family living here) but as the girls have gotten older, they have needed their own room, just for peace n quiet and a place of their own (to decorate as their own too!) i think the 10 year old will be wanting their own room soon! btw my daughters are 10 & 14 and i wouldnt think they would want to share...they are fairly close already but have diverse interests...so i dont think its really fair to ask them to share, especially if we have the room that they dont have to.

I have two girls who are 11 and 8 and they have to share a room, they each have thier own twin bed. If I had the choice I would most definitely seperate them because what you said is true, kids need thier own space. My girls get along pretty well except when it comes to their room. Being together all the time is not good for them, they don't have time to get away from each other. It seems like they are deliberately trying to puch each others' buttons, especially when they are doing something in their room together, like cleaning up. Don't get me wrong, they do have good times too. Many times I catch them being silly after the lights have gone out, you know how girls get "night-time giggle fits". I think it is best for all children to have a room of thier own whenever possible; hopefully soon we will be able to provide that for all three of our kids.

If I had the extra rooms I would not make them share a bedroom. She may want it but that might not be what they want and even if they don't mind it now soon they will want their own rooms. As for dressing them the same that's kind of weird if they aren't twins but even then would you still dress 10 year or 8 year olds the same? I wouldn't.

I think that if I have kids close together in age, I will have them share a room when they are small. They will each have their own beds, though. We've been looking at houses. We're thinking about getting a 3 bedroom, but because we live so far from home, we would probably leave the third room set up as a guest room. So if we had another baby, he or she would be rooming with Elliott for a while. I think it's fine. I shared a room with my little sister until I was in high school. We are closer than any other siblings I know. We live 1000 miles apart, but we still talk at least 5 days a week. Usually everyday. We did fight when we were kids, but we don't anymore.

Its a very nice thing to do as it will increase the bonding between two of them and none of them will feel neglected by getting the same importance

Hi, my boys are 3 and 5. i didn't want twins but i try to dress them alike. i don't know why exactly. Maybe subconsciously i wanted them to be spotted at once that they are brothers? LOL But i don't do everything matchy-matchy for my 2 boys. As for the rooms, maybe she had other plans for those rooms. My boys sleep in the same room. They have bunk beds and they love it. We do have 2 spare rooms that we use for our office & study, and the other we use it as a guest room. When my parents or in laws come to stay overnight.

I don't see anything wrong with the girls sharing a room. Yes, they will become close, and studies have shown that kids sharing a room learn to share other things better when they are grown up and leave the house. They will learn to deal with college roommates better, and even a spouse! Now, that is just my humble opinion. As far as dressing them the same and giving them like toys... that's going a bit too far. they need to have some individuality. Even if they were twins, they can't do that 100% all the time! YIKES

First of all, I am glad to hear that they are the same gender. When they were little or on special occasions, dressing them alike would be cute, but not on a daily basis. I think that these kids would probably like to be seen as an individual and the mother is preventing this. I agree with you that they should have seperate rooms~ or even seperate beds! Kids need their own space to go and chill out. The girls are probably really close right now, but wait till the teen years hit the older one and she has a little sister in her way.

Are the kids complaining? I don't see a problem with sharing rooms. Quite a few families, including mine, don't have a choice. I think they're more likely to balk at being dressed alike than having to share a room. My girls would.

I think for me, Its just becoz your friend dont want to hear any argument from the girls especially asking about jealousy....thou dressing them in same kind is HORRABLE!!! Sleeping in same bed with ur kid is not really a big prob its part of bonding with your kids too, my husband and I and so my two kids loved to sleep together in our living room if we had a great time watchin tv thou they have their own rooms, but sleeping together with ur kids should not be a daily routeen they really need to have a privacy on their own space....

I have two boys 10/7. They use to sleep in the same room up until a couple of years ago. The reason I separated them was that it was getting more and more difficult to put them to sleep and my older son was getting to the point that he required his own privacy. Too much wrestling, talking, fighting, goofing off. They would go to bed later and later. Eventually my older son wanted his own space, his own desk to work at, and have his younger brother keep out of his "stuff". We went as far as buying him a locker type bed stand with an attached lock to keep his "stuff" safe. We also thought our younger boy should have his own space to find his own way/personality. Often times he would copy his older brother. We wanted him to find himself, his likes/dislikes, his own hobbies, grow into himself. It was the best decision we've made. My older son has his own "domain". His own place to think, read, share with friends. The thought of them not being close did not occur in our decision making. They remain close, best of friends but now have their own space for their own thoughts,interest/hobbies and personality. I also feel your friend should allow her kids to dress themselves and make their own clothing decisions. Unless, of course the kids wanted to wear the same clothes. That would be THEIR decision. It's time to step back.

Okay I was all for it for the first couple of sentences simply becuase my kids (my daughter is 12 and my son is 13 1/2) like to share a room and I have no problem with that...They each have their own room mind you but sometimes she'll take her mattress into his room and other times he'll take his into hers and even other times still they'll both drag them into my room LOL..I know WHY they are like that and I understand it so its not an issue for me at all and I actually think its been good for them due to the reasons behind it.... then I read the rest of the post adn the whole dressing them the same and giving them the same things seems odd to me...I mean even if i had twins I wouldnt do that because they are still individuals ya know..so the fact that they ARENT twins and she's doing that...that seems really odd to me and in all honesty, damaging possibly too.....She isnt recognizing their individuality and thats never a good thing IMO...

It depends on the parents as how they want to keep/educate the children. Each parent have a mind set which they follow. Sometime advices of friends and relatives work but most of the time they ignore the advices. What type of treatment parents have received in their childhood, they want to repeat it with their kids. Which, I think, is not fair. We must change our mind set as per present condition. To keep close to the children, has various ways which we may adopt and maintain good relationship. Only sleeping in a room is not the helping matter. If the thoughts of both the children are matching, then no need of keeping them in a room or like that. Even after sleeping in separate room, studying in separate school, their relationship will be same as it should be only because of matching of thoughts.

I dont see a problem with it. If space is tight its usually easier. Man I shared a room with my sister since I was 3 yrs old and she was born. We shared a room till we moved last year. I turned 27 last December. So you are looking at we shared a room of some sort (rooms changed) for like 24 yrs. We made do. At one point at the other house, we shared the smallest room in the house along with 2 cats and 1 dog. Pretty darn funny. Looking at that room now (we just recently visited) its amazing how small it is. Once we got our own rooms, we spred out and now we see how much stuff we truly had back then :p So yeah depending on space and kids. Sometimes it has to work whether they like it or you do, or not.

When I was growing up, I shared a room with my younger brother until I was about 8 and he was 4, after that my parents could afford a 3 bedroomed house so we had our own rooms and always did after that. I don't think it's good to force kids to share a room when you have other rooms available, it doesn't really achieve ANYTHING. Your friend has other rooms spare so I can't see why she doesn't put one of them in there. Unless she can't face the prospect of tidying up another room? I don't really get it. :)

I've always shared a room with my sister. I think it's because with eight children. I don't think we would have a big enough house for each of house to have our own rooms. And yes, me and my sister are a lot closer to each other. We always talk and comfort each other. But I don't think this is the only solution for your kids to be close. I have a friend who shares a room with her sister but they HATE each others guts. They wouldn't even acknowledge each other as sisters. So I think that there are other ways for your kids to be close...Oh, and never show them that you're favoring one over the other because that would definitely create some rivalry between them.

everyone needs enough space especially kids,they are in leading strings.