Once a Cheater always a Cheater....Is this true???

Actually, i do think this is true... I have a ex bf who cheated on me... N now, hes attached, yet trying to get back with me and he claims that he have changed... Den what is this? I mean what about ur current gf? I dun wan any others to suffer the same heartbreak as i did... Thus, i decided to stay away from him... But to me, hes really a jerk... He caused me to suffer alot... Forget those nonsense... Im glad u have changed... Dun let ur guy suffer the same heartbreak.. Its really saddening... N dun mind his words, he said all that in a tiff... After which, he will be sorry he said all those... =) All the best for ur relationship... Do cherish each other... 5 years is not a short time...

I don't believe that it is true, anyone can change if they have a desire too. And I agree with the poster that said, when someone cheats is usually because they are lacking something in the relationship. Yes, there are those out there who are chronic cheaters, but I also think those are the ones who don't want to change.

I've known a lot of cheaters out there and the main reason why they do is because something is lacking in their current relationships. My friend did this a lot of times and she keeps on insisting that she's a different person now. It actually depends on the person if she wants to change her "cheating tendencies". You can do that by having self-control and if you exert effort to fight temptations. Yeah, I do believe a cheater can change yet most of them really don't.

People can always change if they make an effort to change. However, since you've cheated on him it's only normal for him to have insecurities and it takes times to build a trust back to what it once was again. I seriously hope you don't threaten him when you guys are fighting that you will leave cheat or whatever sort of things similar to what you've done because that will only make things worse. From my personal experience, I find it harder to chew when I'm the victim then the cheater. To really understand how he truly feels, you would have to place yourself in his shoe. If he cheats on you, would a five year period negates anything that has happened? That would be some of the advice from my view, good luck.

people do change. although you can't blame your boyfriend for always bringing that up every time he's mad, he still shouldn't bring up the subject. i mean, if he really has forgiven you, he should have also forgotten it. forgive and forget, right. on the other hand, if i am the one who got cheated on, i wouldn't reconcile with my boyfriend. not that i don't believe that he will change or that i cannot forgive him, but because i just can't endure the paranoia it will definitely bring upon me. loving a person without fully trusting him is damn hard.

The saying cannot possibly be true, many people have cheated and never done it again. Some have and have done it again. The saying comes from someone who has been cheated on and is bitter about it, using it against a loved one. You cheated and we all have been tempted, you succumbed to it but it didn't cause you to cheat again. There are those who will always be a cheater and never lead a stable life but not everyone. George Burns said he cheated one time and never did again and this was 50 years later.

The fact that you use to be a cheater and are not one anymore, should be your answer. I believe people have the ability to change. Therefore, I don't agree with "once a cheater always a cheater".

In my opinion, it depends on the individual. There is a saying that the leopard never change it spots. Somehow it is true to a certain extent. However, not all cheaters are always cheaters. It is the label that comes attached to it. The "cheater" will have a harder time to remove the label, that's all. He needs a lot of effort and sincerity to convince especially if he makes the same mistake twice. However, the cheater can also turn over a new leaf and become an embassador. Just have faith and sincerity will touch a person and changed his thinking. All is not lost.

Personally, I think if someone feels the need to cheat on the person that they are with then there is something lacking in their relationship. If my fiancee would cheat on me then I would consider our relationship to be over. I won't say once a cheater always a cheater because I am sure that there are a few people who don't repeat that mistake again.

No, I think we should change our point of view about a "cheater". Anyone is possible to commite some mistake. The only difference is some people were caught while some not. We can't illtreat a person just because he once did something wrong. Everybody can change.

well, it cannot be the same in all the cases,but yes it would be difficult for the other person to trust,he says u have not changed may be he wants to hurt u,that's it,

yaa,it is true.i don't agree with that....because he can change his mind.so plese don't think like that.he can be cheater in that day.but we don;t know he is cheater now....so plese think that in ur mind.

I think it's DIFFICULT to change, but no impossible. I've changed, for example. Now I'm a good girl. :) But in most cases, I don't see this happening. It seems like people get addicted on cheating. Whatever.

some people do change. but some people dont. i have been cheated on a couple times and have/would never cheat on anyone but its happened to me. although i forgive the women that cheated, i would never give them another chance.

All of us are capable of change. We make choices and adapt to our environment all the time. People are remarkable flexible. I believe you when you state that you have changed - and so has your situation from when you were five years younger. It is tragic to hear that your boyfriend would hold the key to the closet that holds that skeleton. He should let it go - or else you should let him go - for it will only be a painful and hurtful reminder in your relationship - unless he can get past it.

I dont think so... because our decision is ours to choose... you could choose to be cheater all your life or learn your lesson and change. I believe that every people has room for improvement and change. So theres a possibilty that a person would change one characteristic to another... whether improve or not... its a choice.

People can change. I am strong believer in people being able to change. Although I have never been this these experiences, it is hard to tell, but I think I would change the way I act if something like this does happen.

No, I don't believe in that one. People can change if only we help them to and give them chances. Just like what you have said, you were able to change so that is one example that people can change too... For me, I have seen people who change. They have committed the same mistake twice but now, I can say that they have changed.

It is true that once a cheater always a cheater because they can't change how they are! So I think if you get involve with those type of people please move on and like find yourself a new friends or boyfriends!

I feel that people can be forgiven. It's a situation that most people sometimes find that relationships are stronger most of the time when overcoming adultery. I also think it does have quite a bit to do with the people behind the scandal. It also depends the circumstances. At times it really can be hard to say.