She wants us to pretend
By kharen
@kharen (1488)
Philippines
May 17, 2007 1:54am CST
I met new friend at the start of the school year, my first year in college and we all became close and became a barkada.
We all became close but eventually, things and conflicts came like the thing about me and my friend Tin, it came to the point that we loved the same person but that person loves her and not me. They had a secret relationship for 6 months and when i knew about it, then did i feel so hurt and wounded...
That person courted me and asked me twice about wheter we can have a chance on trying a relationship but i just said "NO", i was so stupid that i just realized i loved that person after i saw them together. It killed me.
They broke up because Tin have some reasons to break up with that person and maybe i was one of the reasons. But i was the only one that that person blamed and so that person played with what i feel because that person blamed me for all what's happened.
Now, after they broke up again.. my friend wants us to pretend that it was all just a nightmare and wanted us to be close friends again. Seeing her still hurts because i remember what that person did to me, but i love my friend, now i don't know what to do or say..., :(
6 responses
@fawcey (926)
• Australia
23 May 07
Well you have said what she wants but really it is up to what you want. If you would not feel comfortable and it causes you pain, then you should do what makes you feel the least of these. There is no point pretending to feel one way when really inside you are hurting. I think you should do what makes you happy. Maybe you to sit down and tell her how you still feel, and explain that it would be hard, but you do not want to loose her as a friend, you might come to an agremant and sort out your feelings and be able to move on, if not then at least you tried.
@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
18 May 07
I can say to you is that i have experienced it same as in your situation and yes my friend also ask me if we could be friends again but i said of course but not now maybe when the wound would be healed and when the right time comes.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
17 May 07
Well I don't see anything wrong with being close to your friend again. It might be awkward to both of you but you both have to learn to fight it and bring back that old friendship. If you both value your friendship that much, you should not let anything stop you from being the same to one another before that incident with that guy. You have that feeling of being hurt because you though you were one of the reasons why she broke up with the guy which hurts you till now because the guy somehow got back on you by playing with your emotions. You know what, you better talk to your friend about it so you will confirm if you really were 1 of the reasons. And don't look at her as the ex girlfriend of the guy who hurt you but do look at her as your old friend who at one point of your life made you happy. It's not too late, do not live in the past. Look ahead with hope and you and your friend will be alright.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
17 May 07
well, i guess i had a similar experience...
I used to have a close friend, or at least i thought so...
but she, all along was just using me...
she like a guy in the basketball team for quite sometime and was always fearful the guy will fall for me...
but i never did quite like the guy and nothing i do makes her believe...
she always wants to compete, no matter what, no matter how, big or small issues...
it is so depressing, i mean shes a friend...
n i dun love to compete..
esp with her...
n one day, when we are graduating soon..
she told me...
tt actually she hated me alot...
n she was just pretending all the while as im popular and people likes to mix with me more...
this is so hurting...
i mean how could u?
i took u as a friend, a true friend, but u took me on a ride...
tts so unfair...
from then on, we never spoke anymore...
dun be sad...
there will nicer things and friends worth ur concern...
=) cheers...
